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You need time, your heart needs to be reminded that he hurt you. Abuse is not only physical, as you know and is not any less damaging. Your head is trying to tell you he is not good for you, keep listening to your head not your heart. I had to do the same thing. I found something to keep my mind very busy that was louder then my heart, after a bit I come to realize just how bad things were.

Please do not contact his family, they will stand by their son as most parents would,and it only continues to hurt you when they ignore you. Do not put yourself in more danger, you said your husband is very mad and he could go after you. They probably gave him your card with your returned address. Please be more careful.

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Kathryn41
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It is so normal to feel a sense of loss when a relationship ends - even a bad relationship. Not only does it mean that you are not longer together, but you also have to let go of all of your dreams,

juliava
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Sounds like you miss something that doesn't exist anymore. An "abusive husband" is not "a nice husband" anymore, these two terms cannot coexist, they exclud each other. Do you understand what I mean?

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You need time, your heart needs to be reminded that he hurt you. Abuse is not only physical, as you know and is not any less damaging. Your head is trying to tell you he is not good for you, keep list

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You need time, your heart needs to be reminded that he hurt you. Abuse is not only physical, as you know and is not any less damaging. Your head is trying to tell you he is not good for you, keep listening to your head not your heart. I had to do the same thing. I found something to keep my mind very busy that was louder then my heart, after a bit I come to realize just how bad things were.

Please do not contact his family, they will stand by their son as most parents would,and it only continues to hurt you when they ignore you. Do not put yourself in more danger, you said your husband is very mad and he could go after you. They probably gave him your card with your returned address. Please be more careful.

yeah maybe I was hurting more because his mom never contacted me again..I sent the card but I didn't put my return address..

and you're right now i have to believed that they stand by their son...When I sent him a copy or response for the divorce his Commander wipe out my address i told them I don't want my husband learn where I'm staying...

Thanks dear...Bless YOU :)

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where's yer taser?

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No he never beat me physically....he just hit my laptop.throw stuff,disconnected internet.dont give me access to see my friend isolate me.never bought grocery food and kicked me out of the house i stayed home no job and no car....I suspect he's seeing his somebody else....

He sounds like a monster.

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So yeah I sent text message to my husband with a simple"how are you" but no response from him :crying:

I also saw him on dating site and I'm jealous to death..I think I'm going crazy..so help me God..

If you are not careful he is going to come after you with stalking charges, block him and all his family on every electronic device you have and then block him from your mind. You are setting yourself up for trouble. Stop it all now! Get a cat, a dog, a bird, a fish, something, anything just stop waisting energy on a man that abused you and probably never loved you.

When you get yourself together you will find someone who is deserving of your love.

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If you are not careful he is going to come after you with stalking charges, block him and all his family on every electronic device you have and then block him from your mind. You are setting yourself up for trouble. Stop it all now! Get a cat, a dog, a bird, a fish, something, anything just stop waisting energy on a man that abused you and probably never loved you.

When you get yourself together you will find someone who is deserving of your love.

I slapped myself after...then tried to call my paralegal right away and let her know what i did for sure she will yell at me :crying:

I promise this is the first and last :(

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where's yer taser?

I didn't get one yet...Can u slap me back to back?? :crying:

He sounds like a monster.

But I used to love that monster soo much :crying:

Thank u guys for all the response..it just tonight I am soo depressed again I'm due to see my therapist on Wed and then Psychiatrist on January to have anti depressant..i really need one I am going crazy :crying:

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Do you have any friends you can call when you are weak?

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Have you thought about going to visit, being back with friends and family can be good for you.

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Have you thought about going to visit, being back with friends and family can be good for you.

I thought about that but my husband said he reported me to CIS and said i can get deported..we are 100% legit so I dont know how he can prove that allegation that I am a fraud..

But still thinking to visit my family back home...if they dont let me in at POE then I guess America is not for me..

ar least I took the risk to be happy and be with family...

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I'm sorry, that really does make it a bigger risk. I have not read all your other post so I'm sorry for missing that. Can you go visit your Aunt that is in the US, she may be able to help you heal.

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Is the MP give your file report already?? what happen to your case now?

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