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[MarkGenefer 9]

Hi everyone, I am very new to all of this. My GF/Fiancee lives in The Philippines. I am in the process of a divorce hoping it is complete within 3 months. I just came back from PI lsst week after my second visit with Genefer. This time apart is very difficult since I moreso than G am a big baby. She takes it well as do most Filipinas who seem to have patients like you would not believe. Would love to hear from some members how they have gotten thru the long period of seperation until she comes "home". There are times when I say ah the hell woith this I'm heading back there to work and stay with her. I am trying to avoid that since I of course love my country. I live in Connecticut. So any suggestions or advice certainly would be appreciated.

Mark

[canadian_wife 1,822]

File as soon as you can, when your divorce is final

Skype often

Go old school and write letters, they are personal and intimate and are fun to receive and read

Try the PI forum for more local answers

Welcome

[Tosh Love 77]

Hi everyone, I am very new to all of this. My GF/Fiancee lives in The Philippines. I am in the process of a divorce hoping it is complete within 3 months. I just came back from PI lsst week after my second visit with Genefer. This time apart is very difficult since I moreso than G am a big baby. She takes it well as do most Filipinas who seem to have patients like you would not believe. Would love to hear from some members how they have gotten thru the long period of seperation until she comes "home". There are times when I say ah the hell woith this I'm heading back there to work and stay with her. I am trying to avoid that since I of course love my country. I live in Connecticut. So any suggestions or advice certainly would be appreciated.

Mark

Hi Markkalet, it sounds to me that what you are going through is related to LDR (long distance relationship) and not necessarily the visa process, but here is my two cents.

1. In a LDR you have to communicate, and often so set up a way of doing this daily, weekly, monthly via Skype, phone, letters, cards, etc. These will also help you when you get to the application stage because they will count as evidence of a relationship, etc.

2. Start collecting information towards your application of choice, K1 vs, CR1 ??? You can start a diary of your visits, conversations or an album of pictures of your courtship.

3. Just take things one day at a time and don't dwell on how long it will take to get your fiance here. Just enjoy the journey and stop focussing on the destination.

4. Please use this time to reflect on what went wrong in your previous relationship and work on yourself and get to know yourself and become comfortable in spending time with YOU bcos whereever you go, there you are (winnie the pooh)!

Good Luck!

[MarkGenefer 9]

File as soon as you can, when your divorce is final

Skype often

Go old school and write letters, they are personal and intimate and are fun to receive and read

Try the PI forum for more local answers

Welcome

Thanks for that answer but PI forum?

[Missy Crissy 5]

Hi everyone, I am very new to all of this. My GF/Fiancee lives in The Philippines. I am in the process of a divorce hoping it is complete within 3 months. I just came back from PI lsst week after my second visit with Genefer. This time apart is very difficult since I moreso than G am a big baby. She takes it well as do most Filipinas who seem to have patients like you would not believe. Would love to hear from some members how they have gotten thru the long period of seperation until she comes "home". There are times when I say ah the hell woith this I'm heading back there to work and stay with her. I am trying to avoid that since I of course love my country. I live in Connecticut. So any suggestions or advice certainly would be appreciated.

Mark

Hi Mark, I am from the philippines It is tough to be away from our partners for a long time and I feel you. But the days goes by quickly and you won't notice the time when you talk everyday. If your gf have a magicjack then you can talk to each other anytime of the day or night as it is free to call anywhere in the US. If she don't have any yet, bring her one on your next visit, as sending it via courier will cost you. But for the meantime, try Msn messenger. It's clearer than Skype based on my personal experience and there's a lot to do there together as well.

Make sure you have the divorce paper before you file the K1 visa, it is a must. And while waiting for that, you can gather other documents needed to keep you and your fiance busy and excited at the same time

Goodluck!

Thanks for that answer but PI forum?

PI means Philippines = PI = Philippines Forum

[canadian_wife 1,822]

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/129-philippines/

A forum specially for those with a beneficiary in the Philippines

good luck

[TeddyHoney 42]

Hello. Yes it it difficult having LDR. But if you have found the right person it is so more than worth any hardship you have to endure during the processes and waiting. You seem younger and it is even more difficult the wait for younger people. You are correct in that Filipinas seem to have so much patience!! Of course maybe I am just comparing to someone like me who has none!!! Even at my age! But me being a bit older and also having gone through it before with my ex-wife and her son who are also Filipinos, made me somewhat more patient this time - somewhat. Also my wife, Chie, she always had a knack for calming me, even now she never gets too upset about anything, even when I have done some stupid thing to upset her. She never gets too upset, which keeps me from getting too upset.

Anyway, there is good advise here already on how to make the time go faster. I will add:

Get deeper involved in your job/work, if not already.

I agree with video chat as often as possible with voice call. And if your GF/Fiancee uses internet shop she may not be comfortable to voice call in there, then call her as often as you can. Or maybe you can get her a computer (I did for my then fiancee's family just before she came here so she can video chat with them from here as often as she wants - great for helping her adjust here.

Prepare everything that you can even before your divorce is final. Just don;t date anything yet. Can't file until you have the divorce decree in hand - but you probably know that already. And doesn;t matter if you file the next day after you get your certified and registered copy. The time between your final divorce and your filing means nothing.

You can think about what you may want to prepare for her coming. Like what you may need to do in your home or apartment to prepare for her. What about your family? Have they chatted/e-mailed/video chatted with her? maybe set that up for them to communicate if you have not already.

You can seek out any possible Filipino communities in your area. Like what Catholic Churches may have some Filipino members. What Fil-Am groups are around, etc. She will want to associate with other Filipinos when she gets here. helps immensly with her adjustment.

there are many ways and some good ideas here in this thread already. i think the main thing is to keep in touch, keep busy, and start your process work. Keeping busy helped me so much to pass the time, and of course video chatting with Chie EVERY DAY at least once. Even when I was int he hospital for kidney transplant we still IM'd everyday when I could. And later when I had another less critical hospital stay I took my laptop and we again video chatted everyday even in the hospital! She met all my doctors and the nurses and staff - it was cool!

Anyway, hang in there and God bless to you both and remember that if she is the one then in time this all passes and because an experience to look back on in the future that you both can recall remembering how hard it was and contrast it with how happy you are then and so grateful that you endured and God blessed you to be together!

[dekedwin 52]

I just reformatted the harddrive on my computer yesterday, and I was looking for a link to download MSN Messenger because we have always had it on the computer forever, and accessed the hotmail account from that. While looking for the download for MSN Messenger I found information that MSN Messenger is going to be no more before long! Because of that I decided not to download and install it on my computer. MSN Messenger is merging with Skype, and it will be called Skype, and they are already suggesting/advising people to upgrade to Skype. When I saw the suggestion that MSN Messenger was clearer than Skype I thought I wanted to let you all know this information that I learned so that you can find out what your options are and not get blind sighted by this.

[FlipgalRN 19]

Welcome to Visa Journey! Best of luck to you!