likely divorce during application process

[Karee 4,190]

I think you should still go through the process of bringing him here. you can always leave him once he is here if it doesnt work out. at least you will give your relation a chance. anyways it is your life so hope you do what will make you happy in the long run.

You might try taking some classes. May I suggest:

ESL, English as a Second Language.

They guy isn't doing his part to get the visa in India as RKK has stated in numerous posts prior to yours.. He wont get the documents required for NVC and send them to the U.S. So if he wont do that, there is no "process of bringing him here."

Edited December 24, 2012 by Karee

[Ihavequestions 419]

I think you should still go through the process of bringing him here. you can always leave him once he is here if it doesnt work out. at least he'll get a green card. anyways it is your life so hope you do what will make you happy in the long run.

Fixed that for ya.

[Darnell 8,478]

I think you should still go through the process of bringing him here. you can always leave him once he is here if it doesnt work out. at least you will give your relation a chance. anyways it is your life so hope you do what will make you happy in the long run.

I disagree, vehemently.

And that's ok.

[Asia 2,498]

Rkk1, I haven't replied to any of your previous threads, but I've read some of them and just wanted to say that I'm glad to see that you're fighting for yourself!

As someone said here before - keep your head high!

And good luck!

[catknit 144]

Rkk1 - so glad to see you've made this decision! He is a hot mess and your long term happiness is paramount. Just fair warning, I'm SURE he will bring on the drama shortly....

[VivaBaños 2]

Rkk1 - so glad to see you've made this decision! He is a hot mess and your long term happiness is paramount. Just fair warning, I'm SURE he will bring on the drama shortly....

Yes on all points here.

I hope Rkk1 returns soon with an update!

Stay strong!

[milimelo 4,477]

Any updates?

[Darnell 8,478]

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Edited February 26, 2013 by Darnell

[LucidSofia 59]

Any updates?

I also want to know..

[milimelo 4,477]

I guess she hasn't come back to update...

[rkk1 34]

Hi guys! Sorry for the delayed reply. My H never followed through with the ultimatum I set for him to get his visa paperwork to me by January 15th. I had consulted a previous attorney some months ago, but that attorney was very unhelpful, and I felt discouraged. I finally got the courage to contact a 2nd attorney recently, and she is wonderful. She told me that she thinks she can get the marriage annulled, because my H never made the effort to get his visa stuff to come here. However, she told me that the annulment would effectively negate the visa documents anyway, so at this point, I haven't yet contacted the USCIS/NVC about this as I figured that I would just tell them after the marriage was annulled, so they would just pull the visa at that point.

My H and I are still on friendly terms, though things changed significantly after he missed the Jan 15th deadline. We used to talk all the time before. Now we just talk about once a month, so the communication has nearly all stopped. He knows I have met with a lawyer, but I don't think he takes things seriously yet. My attorney has told me that she will be preparing the marriage dissolution documents this week, so I don't really know how he'll take things or not once he hears from her and realizes that I am 100% set to walk away. He has been telling me that he doesn't want to end the marriage until we have at least lived together first. However, my problem with this is that he seems to think we should have a 'trial-basis' for marriage, rather than him being totally committed to making it work. I am not some kind of trial-basis. Furthermore, he still wants everything on his terms, and still won't be honest to me about what has been going on with him all these months. So I have no trust for him. Even though I feel sad emotionally for all that has happened, intellectually I know I am making the right choice by moving forwards.

I actually just came back to this site, as I wanted to post another question... and I saw all your kind messages and PMs, which I appreciate. I just came on here to ask if our annulment would have negative impact on his future ability to immigrate (if he should decide to do that later in his life). I don't really want to hurt someone like that, even if he was not forthright about his intentions with me. If it will negatively impact his life, then I might just choose to divorce instead as I don't want it to weigh on my conscience.

[rkk1 34]

Just wanted to add that the attorney I have been working with is a family law attorney, not an immigration attorney. So it's possible that some of you may have more knowledge about the repercussions of what is happening here more than she does.

[Darnell 8,478]

1. forget his ability to immigrate. it's his problem. actions have consequences, he must live with his actions and decisions. (short version - #### him)

2. you can simply withdraw the I-864, affadavit of support, at NVC, via postal letter with the AOS coversheet and cover letter asking that the Visa Application be withdrawn. You could further state WHY, but stating why is optional.

That's it, really.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Hi guys! Sorry for the delayed reply. My H never followed through with the ultimatum I set for him to get his visa paperwork to me by January 15th. I had consulted a previous attorney some months ago, but that attorney was very unhelpful, and I felt discouraged. I finally got the courage to contact a 2nd attorney recently, and she is wonderful. She told me that she thinks she can get the marriage annulled, because my H never made the effort to get his visa stuff to come here. However, she told me that the annulment would effectively negate the visa documents anyway, so at this point, I haven't yet contacted the USCIS/NVC about this as I figured that I would just tell them after the marriage was annulled, so they would just pull the visa at that point.

My H and I are still on friendly terms, though things changed significantly after he missed the Jan 15th deadline. We used to talk all the time before. Now we just talk about once a month, so the communication has nearly all stopped. He knows I have met with a lawyer, but I don't think he takes things seriously yet. My attorney has told me that she will be preparing the marriage dissolution documents this week, so I don't really know how he'll take things or not once he hears from her and realizes that I am 100% set to walk away. He has been telling me that he doesn't want to end the marriage until we have at least lived together first. However, my problem with this is that he seems to think we should have a 'trial-basis' for marriage, rather than him being totally committed to making it work. I am not some kind of trial-basis. Furthermore, he still wants everything on his terms, and still won't be honest to me about what has been going on with him all these months. So I have no trust for him. Even though I feel sad emotionally for all that has happened, intellectually I know I am making the right choice by moving forwards.

I actually just came back to this site, as I wanted to post another question... and I saw all your kind messages and PMs, which I appreciate. I just came on here to ask if our annulment would have negative impact on his future ability to immigrate (if he should decide to do that later in his life). I don't really want to hurt someone like that, even if he was not forthright about his intentions with me. If it will negatively impact his life, then I might just choose to divorce instead as I don't want it to weigh on my conscience.

I'm sorry that he didn't follow through but very happy that you're taking the steps to protect yourself.

The annulment won't affect his right to immigrate. If you mention fraud it MIGHT but it would most likey just be treated like any other relationship that didn't work out.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

I have read your posts in the past and I am sorry you are having to go through with all of this. But what really struck me before was that he was made that he didn't get a dowry for marring you. You seem like a really good person and I wish you the best. God Bless You