husband cheated WANT divorce and ALIMONY

[clowy 2]

Well agree with Laser1. You guys need a thorough marriage counseling asap. You were in love and that's for sure. From your post, it's really hard to tell that he hates you or deserts you whatever. His cheating is not from his own problem. You are also responsible for that. It takes two hands to make a clap. If you are whatever he wants to hold still, he wouldn't have done that. Just wake up, don't pick the partner for everything you think which is his faults. As long as you feel he still feels you in his heart, not to say 100% which is impossible, move on with that, and hug him for a long discussion and marriage counseling. Good luck.

THANK YOU

Hubby doesnt want marr. counselling Ive asked him tht so many times:(

I appreciate all your response and I just want you to know that I ma thankful that you have enlighten my mind.

I am badly hurt and love him so much until now and I just coudnt accept the fact that he cheated on me so many times and forgive him over and over he cheated on me on the 1st year of our marriage only found out when I moved with him in the states I went through his computer and saw evidence of him cheating on me ,THIS IS after 2yrs of our marriage when I foudn out.He was apologetic he said its nothing they are just talking and all,

we moved on and we were happy again I forgive him and then few months after he did it again with few different girls in different states where he has to work.Was going to leave him but I couldnt since I love him so much.

Its so painful whe u trusted ur life to someone that u think is worthy with ur love.

ANyways I want you guys to know that I stayed with for 5 yrs becoz I love him until now its just sometimes you have to know what ur options are I just wnt to know all the negative and positve effect of all the action that I am planning to do.

Having my 13yrs GC instead of 10yrs I was given 13yrs since we were able to show them that our marriage is real and not for the sake of getting GC or being in the US.

I was doing okay here in MANILA I am educated has BAchelors degree Im not from any juicy club or bar I am bery hard working and was able to find two jobs in GUAM and one job IN the states.

SO the fraud is not an issue here I just want to know which is better to file a divorce sooner to get what I deserve.

OR to wait for my CITCIzenship...

SINCE I only have few months just to complete the requirements but then again I mvoed back to MANILA to study another DEGREE becoz he wants me to get a high paying job.

I udnertand tht thats why I came home and sacrifice being away from him for a cheaper education.

I am staying here in Manila for 8 months now.

and as far as i know I have 6month -12months for me to be away from US.

AND i cna show the immigration that MY address is still in GUAM US territory.

AND even in my school records I put down our GUAM adress.

ANYWAYS the bottom line is if someone cheated on you and u love the person and u are married ITS NOT EASY to just give up on the relatioship itself...I waited for him to change BUT I guess he will never changed .

I thought we were OK before I left GUAM.

Anyways I talked to him he said he wanted me tojust move on and leave somewhere else but not GUAM and he will still support me even IF we get a divorce.He is actualy being helpful since He knows what he did and how badly hurt I am.

He is making alot of money compare to me.SO I was jsut wondering about the spousal support that I cna atleast get from him since I need to get a job again once I come back to the states or GUAM.

NOW should I file the divorce IN GUAM or just go somehwere and FILE IT there ....

DO I have to be in Guam again to file our divorce.

Some says wherever state you are that where you file the divorce.and some says file it to where we live as a married couple which is GUAM.

I will comeback this JANUARY to save my greencard too.I just dont want to have a problem with Immig.

ANYWAYS my plan is to move back to Guam and find a new job and get a divorce.. he said he will file it and will pay for it.BUT he is completely against the thought of me coming back to GUAM so he can do what he is doing there now.

I just want to move on really I want to move somewhere else too but all my credentials and ID's is still GUAM it will be a pain IF i have to move now in the middle of eveything and change all the ADDRESS and ID's.

Thats why I just want to move back to GUAM just to get my job back and save up....

I am really not greedy..IF I am we wont last for 5yrs.becoz he doesnt give me anything no credit cards nothing like tht no house just renting no plans of babies no car ...

So If I am greedy I will jsut leave him and go find a RICH man to be with.BUT I am not like that I still believe that LOVE is the most important thing than MONEY,,,,

coz if you really love each other you can work face and face all the finacial challenges.

When he lost his job back in the US I didnt leave him I continue to support and love him coz he is so depressed.He is also alcoholic but I help him to stop the habit.

SO now I can honestly say that I am not greedy and I still love him.

GUYS thank you for the reply again I really appreciate all your response....

HAPPY NEW YEAR and GODSPEED!!!!!

[clowy 2]

Give him another chance dear. He's longing for you and you said, he doesn't want to get a divorce? Let it past and try to work things together. Things are diferent when you are both together. Be considerate and patient as what TRUE PINAY qualities are.

He said he is just waiting for my status to be fix and once I get back to the US he said that when we will file the divorce.

He is really insane now yes he was nice but he is an asshle now...Calling me while his with his mistress, Sending me emssages like Happy New Year I fell asleep at the ladys night PARTY hahaha...

So he is being an asssskholle here he doesnt wnat and marr counselling either.He jsut doesnt want to be amrried he wants a freedom.That is all,I asked him is this temproary or permanent thing witht this Mistress he said TEMPORARy, are u 100% happy he said NO,but He is enjoying it.

He is completely a different person now:(

I just dont think I can be with this person after all:( Im scared to turst hima nd love him again and again Itried to convince him to change his mind but he doesnt want me there or with his side.

He asked me for some time before not knowing that he is cheating and who knows not just one girl....GIRLSSS maybe.

I want to have my own family again and he doesnt have that capability to be responsible,He is spoiled since only son,and if he doesnt get his way he WILL BE MAD AT ME.THATS why he always control me and dictating most of our decision as a couple.AT first he is very giving and all and then He slowly changed.I guess he jsut coudnt have a steady gf. ITS JUST hard

[Asia 2,499]

Having my 13yrs GC instead of 10yrs I was given 13yrs since we were able to show them that our marriage is real and not for the sake of getting GC or being in the US.

I don't have any advice to you, but just to straight the facts... There's no such thing as 13 year green card.

As far as I know there are only two classes of green cards:

- 2 year conditional GC

- 10 year GC

[clowy 2]

I don't have any advice to you, but just to straight the facts... There's no such thing as 13 year green card.

As far as I know there are only two classes of green cards:

- 2 year conditional GC

- 10 year GC

You're rigt my bad was counting the very first year I came in the US

2yrs plus 10 you're right

I don't have any advice to you, but just to straight the facts... There's no such thing as 13 year green card.

As far as I know there are only two classes of green cards:

- 2 year conditional GC

- 10 year GC

You're rigt my bad was counting the very first year I came in the US

2yrs plus 10 you're right

[survivor2012 7]

Hey I understand why you're angry. My husband cheated on me repeatedly, too. I don't doubt the legitimacy of the relationship, but be nice. You're getting help here. Even if you don't think you are, be nice. You don't need your husband to file for citizenship, but you need to file for a divorce. Also, you need to check how long you've been overboard, too, cuz that would be an issue.

[Ontarkie 14,466]

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