I am Adam Lanza’s Mother

[decocker 7,198]

My nine year old nephew is a little bast@rd from the word go. The school said he had ADT or whatever it's called and instead of putting him on meds my brother in law started him up in hockey. The kids been way better ever since. He gets to go 100+ mph on the ice and beat other kids up at the same time. He set the record this season for time in the penalty box yet he's leading the league in goals. Sports is a great way for them to get rid of that extra energy. By the time they get home their ready to eat and hit the sack.

right. so this proves that doctors are quick to prescribe medications. behavior modification should always be attempted without drugs, first and foremost. we've established this.

i can only assume at this point that you believe if adam lanza had only played sports and been whipped none of this would have happened..

[We Keep Receipts 9,238]

You hit the nail on the head...other than the part where you rarely agree with me.

The worst was after you got beat by your mom she would tell you; "wait in your room until your dad gets home". Nothing sucked more than lying on your bed knowing that in another hour or two you were about to get the beating of your life. Another screwed up one was when you were told to go outside and find a switch. My grandma and aunt were famous for that one. I mean who wants to start looking at tree branches to get beat with? I would find one and then crack it just a little bit so you couldn't get a visual on it unless you looked real close and usually after the second or third whack it would crack in half. After that happened they were done. It helped to limit the amount of whacks you got.

I tried to be slick and find the smallest switch, she'd send me right back out and get a bigger one, after a while I'd just give up and get a medium size one and brace for the whacking. Then we go to the belt, telephone cord, and other various things found around the house.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

right. so this proves that doctors are quick to prescribe medications. behavior modification should always be attempted without drugs, first and foremost. we've established this.

i can only assume at this point that you believe if adam lanza had only played sports and been whipped none of this would have happened..

Who knows if it would have prevented that shooting, but I'm of mind that he wouldn't have been as whacked out as he was if the parenting had taken a different direction.

I tried to be slick and find the smallest switch, she'd send me right back out and get a bigger one, after a while I'd just give up and get a medium size one and brace for the whacking. Then we go to the belt, telephone cord, and other various things found around the house.

Man your family sounds just like mine. It was the same with us when we brought back a small skinny switch.

I'm not sure how it is in Malaysia, but over in Eastern Europe those kids are about the best behaved kids Iv'e ever seen. Those mom's over there don't hesitate giving them five across the eyes. The only time I ever saw any of those kids get out of line was two brothers starting to get into it at the bus stop. The mom said something in Russian, gave them the look of death and that was it. Those kids froze like ice and not a peep out of them after that. You don't hear those kids in the store whining to their parents, there isn't any talking back, complaining, etc..

[We Keep Receipts 9,238]

Who knows if it would have prevented that shooting, but I'm of mind that he wouldn't have been as whacked out as he was if the parenting had taken a different direction.

Man your family sounds just like mine. It was the same with us when we brought back a small skinny switch.

I'm not sure how it is in Malaysia, but over in Eastern Europe those kids are about the best behaved kids Iv'e ever seen. Those mom's over there don't hesitate giving them five across the eyes. The only time I ever saw any of those kids get out of line was two brothers starting to get into it at the bus stop. The mom said something in Russian, gave them the look of death and that was it. Those kids froze like ice and not a peep out of them after that. You don't hear those kids in the store whining to their parents, there isn't any talking back, complaining, etc..

Yep, a lot of my co workers grew up in the same vein, we would rather gargle glass than disrespect our parents, we knew what would happen if we did. Do you remember what would happen if your Mom/Dad had to take off work and come to the school if you were acting up? You knew that was a special butt whooping coming, my mom was a teacher so I didn't even risk it.

Over in Malaysia when I was there for about a month, the kids are very well behave, my new nieces and nephews are so respectful it's scary. My wife just has to say it and it gets done, she had the kids making our wedding gifts and there wasn't a single complaint, they did it without question. I still talk to them on skype, you never hear about them acting up. BTW I signed up for the imageshack, so I will be posting those pics in the other thread, I even did some time over in your favorite country, I'll post those later:)

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I'm 55 now, but in 1963/4/5 when I was in Elementary School in Europe, my teacher, God bless her heart, slapped my fingers with a wooden ruler if I pulled a stunt. Twice I had to stand in the corner for the rest of the hour, and I did not turn out a killer or wife or child beater. I had respect for my teachers and I had respect for my parents. I'm not an advocate of violence, but I feel that the lack of respect is one of the main sources of problems nowadays. Kids can call the teachers names knowing there's very little the teacher can do. Spanking a 12-year-old with a ruler until his ####### is glowing red in front of all his classmates may be a better lesson learned than looking the other way.

Edited December 17, 2012 by Brother Hesekiel

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

I tried to be slick and find the smallest switch, she'd send me right back out and get a bigger one, after a while I'd just give up and get a medium size one and brace for the whacking. Then we go to the belt, telephone cord, and other various things found around the house.

to this day i hate willow trees

[scotinmass 588]

I'm 55 now, but in 1963/4/5 when I was in Elementary School in Europe, my teacher, God bless her heart, slapped my fingers with a wooden ruler if I pulled a stunt. Twice I had to stand in the corner for the rest of the hour, and I did not turn out a killer or wife or child beater. I had respect for my teachers and I had respect for my parents. I'm not an advocate of violence, but I feel that the lack of respect is one of the main sources of problems nowadays. Kids can call the teachers names knowing there's very little the teacher can do. Spanking a 12-year-old with a ruler until his ####### is glowing red in front of all his classmates may be a better lesson learned than looking the other way.

When I was in primary school in the 70s the teachers had a leather strap over their shoulders. Anyone who did anything wrong had to stand in front of the class and get their hand slapped with the strap. Most teachers gave a token slap that didn't hurt but that was enough because it was embarrassing. There were a few sadistic teachers who did it to hurt. Kids learned very quickly to behave in their classes.

My high school opened in 1979 and they came up with a knew modern system of discipline. There was to be no corporal punishment. Naughty kids would have to do detention and if they were really bad they got what they called the "super safety net" This entailed sitting in the headmaster's office drinking coffee and eating chocolate biscuits and discussing what they had done. It got to the point where the bad kids were doing everything they could to get the super safety net so they could get a few treats and avoid class.

That for me was the start of society going to hell. In 1983? corporal punishment was banned in schools in the UK and from that point on the kids had all the power and they knew it. Now they know that no matter what they do nobody can do a damn thing. Not parents or teachers or the police.

Where's the incentive to behave?

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

I have no idea how my brother and I did not turn into mass murdering, pillaging, crazed hooligans given that my parents never beat us. Nor did their super-Catholic parents ever beat them. I should ask my mom to beat me now to make up for lost time, because one day I might tap into that bottled up crazy. I mean, it is impossible to raise obedient, respectful children without the threat of violence, is it not?

[spookyturtle 9,465]

I have no idea how my brother and I did not turn into mass murdering, pillaging, crazed hooligans given that my parents never beat us. Nor did their super-Catholic parents ever beat them. I should ask my mom to beat me now to make up for lost time, because one day I might tap into that bottled up crazy. I mean, it is impossible to raise obedient, respectful children without the threat of violence, is it not?

You need a spanking.

[scotinmass 588]

I have no idea how my brother and I did not turn into mass murdering, pillaging, crazed hooligans given that my parents never beat us. Nor did their super-Catholic parents ever beat them. I should ask my mom to beat me now to make up for lost time, because one day I might tap into that bottled up crazy. I mean, it is impossible to raise obedient, respectful children without the threat of violence, is it not?

There has to be some kind of punishment in place that the kids are actually scared of.

I heard one of my neighbors tell his obnoxious little brat that if he didn't stop misbehaving Santa wouldn't give him any presents.

It was July!

[Penny Lane 8,159]

I mean, it is impossible to raise obedient, respectful children without the threat of violence, is it not?

Of course it is. Millions of children are raised exactly that way. Unfortunately to some, violence is always the answer.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

Yep, a lot of my co workers grew up in the same vein, we would rather gargle glass than disrespect our parents, we knew what would happen if we did. Do you remember what would happen if your Mom/Dad had to take off work and come to the school if you were acting up? You knew that was a special butt whooping coming, my mom was a teacher so I didn't even risk it.

Over in Malaysia when I was there for about a month, the kids are very well behave, my new nieces and nephews are so respectful it's scary. My wife just has to say it and it gets done, she had the kids making our wedding gifts and there wasn't a single complaint, they did it without question. I still talk to them on skype, you never hear about them acting up. BTW I signed up for the imageshack, so I will be posting those pics in the other thread, I even did some time over in your favorite country, I'll post those later:)

Those kids in Malaysia sound like the ones over in Europe. Man I thought of that movie the "Stepford Wives" when I saw those kids in action. I mean we got beat but we still were non stop action. If we weren't beating on each other, we were trying to figure out how to beat the system as school or shooting 4-5-6 (west coast version of craps) after church with money we kyped out of the donation plate.

***btw feel free to post any and all pics in the RUB forum. It's not run like the rest of this place. Guys there like pics of chicks and they don't mind saying it.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/98-russia-ukraine-and-belarus/

I'm 55 now, but in 1963/4/5 when I was in Elementary School in Europe, my teacher, God bless her heart, slapped my fingers with a wooden ruler if I pulled a stunt. Twice I had to stand in the corner for the rest of the hour, and I did not turn out a killer or wife or child beater. I had respect for my teachers and I had respect for my parents. I'm not an advocate of violence, but I feel that the lack of respect is one of the main sources of problems nowadays. Kids can call the teachers names knowing there's very little the teacher can do. Spanking a 12-year-old with a ruler until his ####### is glowing red in front of all his classmates may be a better lesson learned than looking the other way.

My dad was married to a gal from Germany for years. They had two kids together and she was just like out of a war movie. She had (still has) that heavy German accent and she wouldn't hesitate beating any of us in a NYC second. I had to do weekends with them and it was like you were walking on thin ice. She didn't have much of a sense of humor and everything had to be in a certain order. When she said something that was it. You did it then or else. Same thing with my uncles ol lady (my aunt). She's from Finland and she has that same mentality. No screwing around and everything is done for a reason.

to this day i hate willow trees

Alder for us but Willow is even more wicked imo. They bend but they don't break.

When I was in primary school in the 70s the teachers had a leather strap over their shoulders. Anyone who did anything wrong had to stand in front of the class and get their hand slapped with the strap. Most teachers gave a token slap that didn't hurt but that was enough because it was embarrassing. There were a few sadistic teachers who did it to hurt. Kids learned very quickly to behave in their classes.

My high school opened in 1979 and they came up with a knew modern system of discipline. There was to be no corporal punishment. Naughty kids would have to do detention and if they were really bad they got what they called the "super safety net" This entailed sitting in the headmaster's office drinking coffee and eating chocolate biscuits and discussing what they had done. It got to the point where the bad kids were doing everything they could to get the super safety net so they could get a few treats and avoid class.

That for me was the start of society going to hell. In 1983? corporal punishment was banned in schools in the UK and from that point on the kids had all the power and they knew it. Now they know that no matter what they do nobody can do a damn thing. Not parents or teachers or the police.

Where's the incentive to behave?

My only look into the UK school system was when I watched Oliver Twist. That right there told me they don't screw around with handing out the punishment over there. I see by your post it's changed a lot from what I had pictured. It sounds like what's going on over here.

I have no idea how my brother and I did not turn into mass murdering, pillaging, crazed hooligans given that my parents never beat us. Nor did their super-Catholic parents ever beat them. I should ask my mom to beat me now to make up for lost time, because one day I might tap into that bottled up crazy. I mean, it is impossible to raise obedient, respectful children without the threat of violence, is it not?

You just need a good hard spanking is all Maven.

You need a spanking.

This

[scotinmass 588]

My only look into the UK school system was when I watched Oliver Twist. That right there told me they don't screw around with handing out the punishment over there. I see by your post it's changed a lot from what I had pictured. It sounds like what's going on over here.

They don't ask "Please sir can I have some more?" now.

They just take it and ask "What are you gonna do about it?"

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

They don't ask "Please sir can I have some more?" now.

They just take it and ask "What are you gonna do about it?"

[sandinista! 1,816]

same here. and i'm even managing to have really sweet, intelligent, and well-behaved children without smacking them. but they're probably ticking little time bombs...

I have no idea how my brother and I did not turn into mass murdering, pillaging, crazed hooligans given that my parents never beat us. Nor did their super-Catholic parents ever beat them. I should ask my mom to beat me now to make up for lost time, because one day I might tap into that bottled up crazy. I mean, it is impossible to raise obedient, respectful children without the threat of violence, is it not?

Edited December 18, 2012 by sandinista!