Third party affidavit from Russian family

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Gary is giving you good advice, although I can see that his tone may be a little harsh. No one here is trying to imply that your marriage is not legitimate. The point is that if it weren't, you could still probably come up with some affidavits. Of course, with sufficient resources and motivation, most types of evidence can be manufactured. What Gary is saying is that some types of evidence are easier to manufacture and affidavits are high on the list of things that you can easily manufacture.

Changing insurance beneficiaries and 401k beneficiaries, adding people to bank accounts, holding property together, and other such things are somewhat more difficult to do. Moreover, they are things that people who didn't really trust each other would be more hesitant to do. This makes them better evidence.

I think you got your answer as to how the affidavits should be done. All Gary is saying is that you may want to try and come up with some more evidence. It's your application and you're the only ones who have a vested interest in making sure it gets through. Affidavits may be sufficient; they may not be. Take it from there.

My tone is direct, not harsh. USCIS is direct. So am I.

Right! It is not even so much a matter of being more "difficult" to change beneficiaries but it shows a committment in assets that a partner to a phony marriage simply would not be expected to make. Affidavits show only that SOMEONE wrote SOMETHING that cannot be verified and the notary simply verifies the signature is that person. Nothing else. Would anyone present an affidavit that their marriage was NOT genuine? Seriously?

CVhanging those thinsg are also somethign a woman entering a marriage should expect from her husband. The woman has commited to him, has commited to moving across the world. If he dies, what do you get to put your life back in order? I mean a wife expects to be her husband's beneficiary. Saying "We will wait until you are here" is either ignorance or lack of caring. I would do anything to protect my wife and do it as soon as possible, as any husband should.

Edited December 19, 2012 by Gary and Alla

[Hollyday 122]

My tone is direct, not harsh. USCIS is direct. So am I.

Right! It is not even so much a matter of being more "difficult" to change beneficiaries but it shows a committment in assets that a partner to a phony marriage simply would not be expected to make. Affidavits show only that SOMEONE wrote SOMETHING that cannot be verified and the notary simply verifies the signature is that person. Nothing else. Would anyone present an affidavit that their marriage was NOT genuine? Seriously?

CVhanging those thinsg are also somethign a woman entering a marriage should expect from her husband. The woman has commited to him, has commited to moving across the world. If he dies, what do you get to put your life back in order? I mean a wife expects to be her husband's beneficiary. Saying "We will wait until you are here" is either ignorance or lack of caring. I would do anything to protect my wife and do it as soon as possible, as any husband should.

Hi again, I just wanted to thank you for your advice. Most likely we'll be filing in the next couple of days and in my last visit there we've done quite some of the things you've recommended. To start with, we made PoA's for each other for property management and medical decisions and all that, as well as opened a joined account. And also (not altogether related but nonetheless) we made an offer on an apartment which would be in our names together and it's already stating that in all related documentation (it'd take a while to close the deal because it's a short sale, but at least we can show we're on the way with it).

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hi again, I just wanted to thank you for your advice. Most likely we'll be filing in the next couple of days and in my last visit there we've done quite some of the things you've recommended. To start with, we made PoA's for each other for property management and medical decisions and all that, as well as opened a joined account. And also (not altogether related but nonetheless) we made an offer on an apartment which would be in our names together and it's already stating that in all related documentation (it'd take a while to close the deal because it's a short sale, but at least we can show we're on the way with it).

Good luck!

[Hollyday 122]

Good luck!

Thanks! I'm quite excited to get started (there's still a chance i might not have to face another winter here. Lol).

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Thanks! I'm quite excited to get started (there's still a chance i might not have to face another winter here. Lol).

My wife moved to Vermont. Winter is about the same.