Boohoo

[Apapaia 25]

This is a self pity thread so if you're depressed enough already, I strongly recommend you don't read any further.

Post in here if you really really need to vent, cry, get some sympathy, feel like comforting someone or just want to read and think "thank god I'm not that guy".

Well here I start with my whining.

In 6 days will be 6 months I have been away from my husband. He's currently in Georgia (US of course) and I am in Italy. Our relationship before our marriage was a long distance one and before last year we hadn't met for 4 years. He's been with me when my life was literally falling apart (without him I would probably be under a bridge doing drugs) and when I was sure that life wasn't really worth living he "rescued" me. I was "alone in the crowd" and somehow he found me and never left me alone anymore. After 8 months together (while waiting for my change of status) I had to leave and come to Italy knowing that it meant that I had to send an I130 petition and wait here until the approval.

Well it's been 6 months now and our case is still in the "initial review" phase. I am stuck here surrounded by horrible memories, horrible settings and a horrible overall mood. I knew I was gonna wait for a long time but this wait is making me feel so powerless that I don't think I can take it anymore. I am beyond the stage of impatience and anger but I feel hysterical, I feel like my mind is so messed up that I can't "untangle" it. I am always miserable and my mood swings between "I don't care if I die" to "Oh my Gosh I have a cold am I gonna die?". I feel like I am stuck in the past and have no chances to get out not just physically but also mentally. It took me a long time to feel good again and now I am again on the edge. I am afraid I am never gonna "recover" from this deep state of sadness and it's going to ruing the relationship with my husband.

I know there are no real advices for a situation like this since it's all just in my head but has anyone ever felt this way?

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

It'll happen soon enough...just try and have the strength to pull through. I'm feeling a lot the same way about living in Denmark and can not wait to leave. Depression tends to be cyclical and some times you just have to wait out the cycle.

It has been almost 4 months since my dad died. He was my best friend and my favorite person to talk to. I miss him soo much. I spent all Thanksgiving crying and I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with it.

My husband and I had an early miscarriage in November and it was super super painful and now we have to wait to try again for a long time. It makes me sad because we really want to have a child together and my daughter keeps talking about her imaginary brother.

I get more and more depressed with each passing sunless day and I really need to get back somewhere with more direct sun, but I can't leave my husband. We seem to have missed DCF filing and then the petitions filed from abroad getting approved in 2 weeks or a month. We stupidly got married a month before our I-129F was approved.

[C-ma'am 684]

Hang in there, ladies

This too shall pass

[TBoneTX 46,122]

Hang in there, ladies

This too shall pass

Si, man.

Keep the faith.

[Apapaia 25]

It'll happen soon enough...just try and have the strength to pull through. I'm feeling a lot the same way about living in Denmark and can not wait to leave. Depression tends to be cyclical and some times you just have to wait out the cycle.

It has been almost 4 months since my dad died. He was my best friend and my favorite person to talk to. I miss him soo much. I spent all Thanksgiving crying and I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with it.

My husband and I had an early miscarriage in November and it was super super painful and now we have to wait to try again for a long time. It makes me sad because we really want to have a child together and my daughter keeps talking about her imaginary brother.

I get more and more depressed with each passing sunless day and I really need to get back somewhere with more direct sun, but I can't leave my husband. We seem to have missed DCF filing and then the petitions filed from abroad getting approved in 2 weeks or a month. We stupidly got married a month before our I-129F was approved.

I am so sorry about your loss. They say time heal, I just think you learn to coexist with the pain. Sounds like you have a lot of good memories about your dad and even though it is painful try to focus on those. Doesn't matter how old you are, parents should never go away.

I am also sorry for your miscarriage. Lots of people say "nature knows" or that it wasn't a "real baby" yet. Well, that might be true but not if you see that with the "mom's eyes". I think a woman becomes a mom right in the moment she knows she's pregnant and the pain for the loss is something that other people can't understand.

I have no words to tell you how to deal with this situations but when they'll pass you will be a stronger person and will be an even better mom to your daughter and hopefully the child that will come later on. When you know what being in pain means you understand people better and you learn to be closer to your loved ones. Your husband and daughter are lucky to have you in their lives! Be strong and I really really really hope you'll get good news soon.

About the sun, might sound stupid but have you ever thought about painting a big one on a wall? It could be a relaxing process and a nice thing to look at when you are upset.

Best wishes to you and your family! I really really really hope you will feel better soon. Hugs