Heartbroken, she left me

[aamirpearl 47]

I wouldn't say it's easy, but it's not Nigeria or Morrocco either.

the reason i said this was because i read alot of story on here regarding some filiphino using guys for green card than divorcing them within a couple months of getting marry. I also see that it seems like they are approving people really easily, even 55 year old guy petitioning for 21 year old girl are getting approve easily...

Edited January 3, 2013 by @@mirpeArL

[Caryh 5,206]

the reason i said this was because i read alot of story on here regarding some filiphino using guys for green card than divorcing them within a couple months of getting marry. I also see that it seems like they are approving people really easily, even 55 year old guy petitioning for 21 year old girl are getting approve easily...

Filipinos are the number 2 migrant group in the USA coming second only to Mexico. Given the huge numbers, you're going to hear of more problems. What you're missing is their are significantly more in successful relationships than in unsuccessful relationships. This is just my own observations of the many Fil/Am couples. Out of the many Filipina I know in my location, a smaller percentage have gotten divorced than in the USA's native born population. I do not personally know of even one Filipina that got divorced as soon as she got her green card. I've known some that discovered they were in an abusive relationship right away, more often that not, they've returned to the Philippines to be with family afterwards. There are some bad apple Filipinas that come only for a green card and then leave their husbands, there are even more that wanted to be in the USA so found a USC to marry but they stay dedicated to their marriage, and there are even more that married for love and have good marriages they dedicate themselves to.

[th and jv 3]

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Thanks. It is weird, I hate her for marrying me, she could not love me if she would not contact for me all this time only 2 months after we were married. But in my mind, I wait for her to come back. It is unbelievable someone could befriend you for all this time, and then poof!!! The lure of a green card, and following the rules of not contacting me must be stronger than love. Me on the other hand, I am still considering of giving up on my own country and retiring in the Philippines in 2014. Know any good places that are not super expensive to retire there? Thanks again.

[AJabad 3]

Hey sorry for your loss. Regardless of ethnic background. Not all Filipina girls would do such thing to you and there's a lot of descent Girls out there. It really depends on individual's attitude and way of thinking because you cannot control someone's mind and its emotion. So before you move on to the next page. My advice is get to know the person before you commit on something. I know it's tough but you just got to move on. Always compare yourself to other people who may have even worst situation than you are.

[extremerecluse 32]

Make an INFOPASS and report what happened. You will never know what she said about you but her reports of abuse CAN affect you getting a visa for a new fiance/spouse in the future. It's best you let them know so your story HAS been told.

Get a divorce and move on. You trying to be nice will only backfire. She has planned this from the beginning. You were used. You need to protect yourself and your assets. If you pass away (no-one can guarantee anything) everything will go to her (what abotu your family and the people that love and support you). The longer you're married the more she may be entitled to in a divorce.

Getting a divorce from her does not release you from any liability. She is entitled to come after you for support according to the legal contract you signed in getting the AOS. Be careful guy. Good Luck in your future relationships.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Getting a divorce from her does not release you from any liability. She is entitled to come after you for support according to the legal contract you signed in getting the AOS. Be careful guy. Good Luck in your future relationships.

She is not a party to the contract. You're right she's entitled to try to sue him (anyone really is entitled to sue people) but as she isn't a party, it's rarely enforced. Some people have been successful but the bigger concern is her using means-tested benefits and you having to pay the government.

[jcassidy610ko 0]

im in same spot wife walked out after 14 days in my home from honduras the person she was counting on to pick her up didnt and so she walked over to univ by my house and someone saw her with her bags and took her to a local womens shelter cops call me next day say she says i ran her out, where in truth she left of her own free will and when i aske her where she was going said 'que te im porta" none of my businss, cri is in mail to her , me and my 12 yr old were the ones abused by her!!! do i divorce??? im gonna give it a bit of time but dont i really want her back ive lived 40yrs in my town and never had any police involvement till she got here, i was seting up univ. ESL classes 22hrs wek, etc and i also supporting her family , no appreciation at all, there were many warning signs i ignored ,, but i figued worst case shed juts leave , not stay around1 with only living together 2 wk will anyone believe her story where it comes time to drop the conditional residenny CR1 to R1 ?? we have no financila assests together i put her on a checking account with me for 3 wks but have closed it, even when we signed the papers at bank she didnt want to use my last name! i was a sucker i guess but its like she snapped1not much talking to her no plan to see counselor/marriage counselor shes not interested , still in shelter which she seems to like got more stuff for x mas then i could of given her! any suggestions???

[Sandra G. 5,070]

jcassidy610ko my suggestion for you is NEVER EVER stay alone with your wife, not even for 30 seconds, she just needs to be alone with you and call the cops and say you slapped her, or try to strangle her or you or hit her on the face hard and pushed her in the chest etc, when she realizes she doesn't have enough prove to ROC she can try to be alone with you just to call the cops and make her case strong.

[lufthgiled 6]

does age matter?? - my answer is age does not matter at all..

I was 18 when I met my love of my life that is twice of my age, he was 36 that time..

I was 19 when I decided to live with him

I was 20 when we have a child

4 mos after I gave birth he left Phils and fly to US

after 3 yrs he went back home (Phils)spent 3weeks vacation

and after another 3 yrs (just last year) he went back home again (Phils)spent 3weeks vacation again

and now we are going to 10 years in relation

and we will marry hopefully this year when our K1/K2 visa arrived! (still waiting for noa2)

and he is also a Filipino.

Being truly inlove to the person you cannot live without is a truly blessing!

We don't know the whole story

I say you have done right thing and also done wrong things

I say your wife have done right thing and also done wrong things

it's not your fault and it's not your wife's fault

both of you maybe..

I believe if you don't have an interest to work things out it's nothing and non-sense.

as many of here says, you should file a divorce and it's for the best

then do it..

Not all Filipina are like that, there's a lot of women out there are just aiming on they're own good, selfish and users.

We are all sorry for the relationship you had.

It's easy for us to say you move on because we're not on your shoes

but I say

It's not easy to move on - but you must! and there's a sweet reward after this

somehow, someday, somebody will really love and care you more than you want and expect..

Live your life, be happy, move on step by step slowly but moving..

And may God Guide you and bless you always!