is it possible to block a person in the embassy?

[Moomin 292]

Yeah, Thank you for this..actually the wifes origin country was the same with the girl, so sounds really a hard situation....

Well, there are several issues. When the fiancee hands in evidence, she might be setting herself up for being scrutinized if she ever had to go to an interview.

The wife can still go overseas and return as long as her greencard is unexpired. The fiancee would have to mail the "evidence" to the embassy, and even if she did, they'd have to look at it and send it to the right place. The embassy will not let anyone in without an appointment letter. The wife doesn't have anything to do with the embassy unless she gives birth in her home country and needs to report it to get passport, or unless she loses greencard when visiting, or needs a re-entry permit.

It's just too much drama for me so I'll leave it at that and keep this reply neutral regarding immigration.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Ok, let's see if we got the story straight here...

US citizen male is married to a girl, presumably from the Philippines since most other people don't refer to "USEM" unless they're talking about the US Embassy in Manila. Marriage is on the rocks, but no divorce yet. US citizen male has hooked up with a new girlfriend, also in the Philippines. US citizen male wants to divorce wife and petition girlfriend for a visa. Wife is furious, she has evidence her husband has been fooling around, and she wants to notify the "USEM" that her husband's girlfriend was fooling around with a married man, presumably to try to shoot down any visa she might eventually apply for.

Is that about the gist of it?

Ok, this isn't really an uncommon scenario. The wife thinks she got damning evidence against the girlfriend, but in fact it's the opposite. If the divorce goes through, and the husband petitions for the girlfriend, then the girlfriend is going to have to go to the embassy and convince a consular officer that she's got a legitimate relationship with the petitioner. And what evidence does the wife (now ex-wife) have? Well, she's got evidence that the girl has a legitimate relationship with the petitioner. Instead of hurting the girlfriend's chances of getting a visa, the ex-wife might actually be helping her. After all, if the angry ex-wife is convinced the relationship is real then the consular officer is likely to believe it, as well.

Scenarios like this do often cause problems, but not because the petitioner and beneficiary were fooling around before the petitioner got divorced. The consular officer isn't a priest. He doesn't care if the petitioner was being unfaithful if the person he was being unfaithful with was the beneficiary. What he's more concerned about is whether the sole reason for the relationship was to help the beneficiary get a visa, and if the recent divorce was obtained solely to make the petitioner eligible to submit a petition. This is the sort of thing they're suspicious about when there's a recent divorce involved. They suspect the divorce was obtained to make immigration possible, and that the divorced person, whether petitioner or beneficiary, still has a relationship with the person they divorced, and that they plan to resume that relationship when the immigration process is completed.

If the marriage really is terminal then the man should go ahead and divorce his wife, in spite of her threats. He should also tell his wife to go ahead and send her pictures to the embassy as it will save him the trouble of having to prove his relationship with the beneficiary. If the wife thinks about it in those terms she'll probably reconsider.