Is my marriage doomed before it begins?

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Is this where rants go? I hope so...

TL;DR/ SHORT VERSION:

Parents think my fiancee isn't good enough for me; so they banish me from their house and I am no longer related to them. give me your opinion.

REGULAR VERSION:

(BTW I am the man and the petitioner)

So here is the deal, I used to live really close to my fiancee; just across the border. I would see her everyday since we worked for the same company. ( Me on the USA she in MX). Company started going down and i was laid off.

On the area I was living, the job market for me (engineer) is pretty much dead, so i made the decision to move with my parents to another city 6 hours away to find a job there.

4 months later I find a very good job with great pay, everything in life is happiness, except that my girlfriend(now fiancee) is away from me and she cannot visit (tourist visa denied)I have made every effort to travel to see her as much as I could so its bearable. I had already made the decision to get married so that I could bring her over and be together and live happily ever after...

As soon as I get my first few paychecks I buy a Ring and propose...

Everything is going smooth... TOO smooth...

So I propose and we are happy, I tell her parents and they agree since they have known me for a while and they know I am a responsible guy ( no drinking, smoking, crazy partying, no drugs etc, typical serious good guy)

unlucky for me, my parents didn't respond the same way.

You see, I am 25, I am an engineer with a bachelors degree making good money working at a great company, I am 'OK' looking, not fat, have my own car, responsible, no drugs or anything like that... I come from a poor family and have worked my own way up to be the first on my family to have a University degree.

She is 20, she did not complete high school and is now working to pay for her own stuff and help her parents since they are not of very big income. She's beautiful in my eyes and MANY other guys' eyes... I know that as a fact. She is very nice person and I like her because she loves me for who I am, she pleases me in every way possible as far as the relationship goes; and she goes out of her way to show that she loves me. Our plan after getting married is for her to come over to the US; where she will get her GED and study to become a school teacher. We don't plan on having kids for now, as we are still young and we rather wait until she is settled on the new big changed that await her ( new language, new country, new HUSBAND, new career, etc)

MY parents are saying that I am COMPLETELY RUINING MY LIFE by getting married to 'HER'.

Basically, my parents kinda have this elitist idea that I should marry this tall, blonde,blue-eyed girl that makes a ton of money and comes from a wealthy family; with perfect body and everything else... Their point is that I am giving EVERYTHING to this girl without anything in exchange... That she doesn't have anything to offer to me and my marriage will fail. They are also enraged that I want to get married since that means that I will move on with my life and they wont be able to do as they wish with me and my money.

Their other point is that i am way too young (25) to get married and that i haven't lived my life, that I need to travel, date many girls, drink, party, etc... things that TO ME;are not appealing AT ALL. I enjoy quietness, being at home and going out once in a while, not everyday, clubbing is not something that I enjoy, I like traveling but I would much rather take her with me, being with her is what MAKES ME HAPPY. I really don't see any reason as to why i should keep being miserable as I am right now, by myself.

it is because of these reasons,that 2 days after i gave them the news, they decided to kick me out of the house right there and then; with no explanation or discussions I was asked to gather my stuff and leave... To be honest, That is exactly what I wanted all along, to be independent from them and live my own life, except that I didn't plan on it being so harshly and with them ending saying that I am no longer their son and that I was always a bad kid. I can assure you, I was not a perfect son in any way, but I also don't think i was the worst there is.

I don't want things to stay this way, needless to say my fiancee is devastated since she already feels unwanted by my family and this is putting even an extra toll on our relationship... as if the distance and the K-1 visa process wasn't enough...

Thanks for reading... even if it was just some of it. ADVICE IS WELCOME.

wish luck in your journey, if this is the girl you love fight for her once your parents see you happy they will have to understand and accept her