So what happens if it doesnt work?

[Paul+Leticia 1]

So what is the process if the relationship isn't working and she wants to go back? We are scheduled for biometrics this thursday and she doesnt want to go. If we determine she want s to go back can USCIS send her and daughter home if we drop the process?

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

*** Moving from K1 to Effects of Major Changes ****

If she wants to go back, just buy her a plane ticket. Make sure you initiate the divorce, that means she can be cosnidered divorced in the Philippines and marry again if she wishes to.

[bigdog 376]

*** Moving from K1 to Effects of Major Changes ****

If she wants to go back, just buy her a plane ticket. Make sure you initiate the divorce, that means she can be cosnidered divorced in the Philippines and marry again if she wishes to.

:thumbs:Good Luck working this out.

[Caryh 5,206]

*** Moving from K1 to Effects of Major Changes ****

If she wants to go back, just buy her a plane ticket. Make sure you initiate the divorce, that means she can be cosnidered divorced in the Philippines and marry again if she wishes to.

Who files really only matters if the marriage was reported to the local Philippines consulate. She will also need to apply to the Philippines courts to get the divorce recognized as legal in the jurisdiction it was given, and then turn that court document in the NSO so her CENOMAR can be amended. To get the divorce recognized, she'll need the complete divorce papers and copies of local divorce law. The court will look this all over to insure the divorce was properly given.

[Paul+Leticia 1]

Who files really only matters if the marriage was reported to the local Philippines consulate. She will also need to apply to the Philippines courts to get the divorce recognized as legal in the jurisdiction it was given, and then turn that court document in the NSO so her CENOMAR can be amended. To get the divorce recognized, she'll need the complete divorce papers and copies of local divorce law. The court will look this all over to insure the divorce was properly given.

OK, Thanks for your comments!

[Paul+Leticia 1]

*** Moving from K1 to Effects of Major Changes ****

If she wants to go back, just buy her a plane ticket. Make sure you initiate the divorce, that means she can be cosnidered divorced in the Philippines and marry again if she wishes to.

Thanks for your comment.

[Caryh 5,206]

OK, Thanks for your comments!

You're Welcome.

I hope you can find a way through this and keep your marriage together. I know the entire moving to America adjustment has been very hard on my wife. There have been so many times, I wouldn't even try to count them, that she has become upset and unreasonable about anything. "I will never...", "Send me home", "I miss my family", "I hate....", so many hard things said at times when she was emotionally hurting and home sick. For the most part I've managed to stay calm, avoid feeling hurt (even if I was), and did my best to support and comfort her through her pain. Its working, although she's one of those that will only slowly adjust to life in America. There were times I've felt like just granting her wish and getting her a ticket home. But I know I'm the one that needs to be strong for us when she's feeling weak. And its slowly working. The home sickness and related out bursts have gotten less frequent and less painful for her. Instead of trying to push me away during these times, she's moving towards leaning on me for my support. I guess what I'm trying to say is, its not easy for some to make this big move. They will say and do things they really don't mean in their heart because they're hurting. Try to see if the refusal to attend the biometrics is an emotional reaction response, or really a marriage ending. Its not easy trying to deal with an emotionally hurting spouse, and maybe you don't have it in you to. Only you and your wife know if you two can make it or give up. Good luck to you how ever it turns out.

[masipag 6]

Caryh,

Your doing a great job!I wish all of those spouses has same atitude like you do.We need some emotional support during these time not push away or"send him/her back home" what your doing is showing love,understanding,sacrifice & mature one....

[Tahoma 2,292]

So what is the process if the relationship isn't working and she wants to go back? We are scheduled for biometrics this thursday and she doesnt want to go. If we determine she want s to go back can USCIS send her and daughter home if we drop the process?

At this point, if you drop the process, your wife and her daughter eventually will have to leave the U.S. However, the USCIS will not pay for any of their expenses.

[Cathi 5,784]

So what is the process if the relationship isn't working and she wants to go back? We are scheduled for biometrics this thursday and she doesnt want to go. If we determine she want s to go back can USCIS send her and daughter home if we drop the process?

USCIS will not pay for the cost of them returning.

[jaycali 415]

So what is the process if the relationship isn't working and she wants to go back? We are scheduled for biometrics this thursday and she doesnt want to go. If we determine she want s to go back can USCIS send her and daughter home if we drop the process?

Yes, they can send them home as they will have no right to stay. They should leave voluntarily - the USCIS obviously won't pay for it, but voluntary departure without illegal presence will have no consequences for them immigration wise. The only way Homeland Security will pay their ticket home is if they stay illegally, refuse to leave and are arrested, detained and forced home. This is not a pretty way to end it.

Edited December 3, 2012 by Jay Jay

[Xanax 349]

Uscis will not send her back, the cost of that is on you/ her.

I hope you can work things out.