Husband kicked me out:-(

[shin shin 3]

i say the date of seperation (per him) is important, because he is seemingly seeking to tie the seperation date into green card issuance date.

If he prevails or if that one data bit is not challenged, then he will most likely represent that 'fact' to USCIS when he submits evidence of a sham marriage.

shin shin - challenge the date of seperation, as IMO, it's going to be important for you.

I dont know how he can prove that its a sham marriage after all hes the one who really get married anyway now I just realized coz he's getting pay more(BAH) and didnt provide any food,clothing for me...

Thats why I wanna fight the date of separation because he's really lying....maybe I can use the bank statement to prove that I still living with him till the date I moved out(paid the internet bill,food delivery,went grocery shopping in our area)

Or even I am willing to get check up and see when was the last time I had sex with him(i dont know if theres a way to do that)

All I want is the truth to come out and I know the way he can fight back is messing up with my stat and make false accusation to USCIS that he already told my sister he called imiigration and told them that I married him for GC right after I report him to Military Police...

[shin shin 3]

Centrum are horse pills! Typical vitamin D pills are tiny, softgels that are easy to swallow. If you have trouble taking meds, might be a good idea to not attempt!

Some stores that sell supplements may have an "easy" vitamin, usually softgel, that's easier for people to swallow. Also, who's to say you can't have chewable?? They have those for adults too!

I think I can try soft gels and put in apple sauce or pudding

[Darnell 8,478]

that's my point - challenge that one data point (date of seperation)

and you force the edit to what it actually is.

[dekedwin 52]

I will agree with two posters here, not that all of them are not good, but cry out to God for help for you! He is there to help you! Contacting your family in the Philippines is great to give you encouragement in your troubles and hard times. Vitamins are okay, but a Seventh Day Advent Doctor told me that if I would eat right I shouldn't need all those vitamins I was taking, so, they are in a box somewhere yet, and that was in 1986! Walking is the best exercise you can do, if you can do it safely. I normally walk 6.5 miles each day, but I got busy with some of my projects, and I have been working hard instead of walking. My doggies are missing the walks though. I could have walked and had the time a couple of days ago, but walking to get the mail I was having a hard time standing up because of wet, warm, slick snow. So, I don't walk when it is too cold, too slick, and when the wind is blowing hard. Many people walk in the shopping malls for exercise. Walking is low stress on your joints, and there is something that lifts your spirits as you walk. You can pray when you walk. But just make sure you are safe!

[InHisTime 110]

so are you back in the PI?? Yeah I was back in the Philippines, but I'm in Netherlands now on work-related travel.Good for me, I didn't resign from my good job when I got my K-1 visa. So I'm back to my work and good life. I always have faith in GOD I am Born Again Christian used to be worship leader in our church back home,youth leader and some ministries... Oh we are same, I too a born again Christian woman.

I just hate the fact that whats happening to me really eating my real personality jolly,talkative,always laughing and smiling

right now most of the time I'm staring blankly.. Yeah, these were exactly what happened to me while there, I used to be a jolly person, always love to smile and laugh. I'm back to my old self now after all what I had been through.

But God is my refuge and strength and He will never brought me this far just to leave me

thanks thanks thanks

Sis, there are times we need to let go of things, though we really hope it to work out. Don't exhaust too much of your energy, just try doing your best, if it doesn't favor you after all then let God handle it for you. Don't worry about your immigration, if it doesn't work out, you may come home and start life once again. Important is you have peace in your heart and mind. God is good and will never leave you alone and empty. Continue to trust God and take care of yourself.

I will ask about that EAP on Monday..thanks thanks

I will start to do tomorrow..thanks Darnell

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Depression is really hard to deal with. I keep very busy every day and try to cope with it. I moved back to the U.S. and took at job 14 hours away from any one I know because I could not find a job in my city. I am scared to see a psychiatrist because I dont know if they will report to my job. My depression is getting worse but I keep praying and hoping to survive. For me it is always the worst at night. My nights are quite sleepless. Max is sometimes 3 hours. I went through so many changes, 3 years overseas, moving back to the U.S. but not being able to be close with my family and I left without my husband. Life

sucks but we just have to keep going. Good luck to us all.

[MIDUVIL 34]

Sorry shin shin,

I hope that you're in a better mood today. I won't be long, I have to go to church.

My husband will give you the same advice than Darnell: Go exercise! well I Hate this idea of doing exercise, but I have to recognize that it's efficient.

For the pill's, one of my young (student ministry) was breaking the pill in small parts to take it. If it's a softgel, you can take vitamin in liquid form (break the softgel).

(I'm able to swallow 5 pills together lol).

Pray a lot, rest well, eat well, exercise well, those are the most important, and don't forget "don't worry for tomorrow"!

Have a nice day! I have to go

Miduvill

Edited December 2, 2012 by MIDUVIL

[rade2rising 205]

well he still have right to leave you if he wish. sometimes things dont work out. he has right to move on wid his life instead of dedicating himself to your immigration status.

[shin shin 3]

that's my point - challenge that one data point (date of seperation)

and you force the edit to what it actually is.

thanks again

[shin shin 3]

well he still have right to leave you if he wish. sometimes things dont work out. he has right to move on wid his life instead of dedicating himself to your immigration status.

I am not forcing him to stay with me what I did is asked him to come with me at marriage counseling I think thats the right thing to do as husband and wife try to work it out right???

and FYI I didnt asked him to dedicate his life to my Immigration Status silly....

What I'm fighting for is whats my rights and I am abused by him....

[shin shin 3]

Sorry shin shin,

I hope that you're in a better mood today. I won't be long, I have to go to church.

My husband will give you the same advice than Darnell: Go exercise! well I Hate this idea of doing exercise, but I have to recognize that it's efficient.

For the pill's, one of my young (student ministry) was breaking the pill in small parts to take it. If it's a softgel, you can take vitamin in liquid form (break the softgel).

(I'm able to swallow 5 pills together lol).

Pray a lot, rest well, eat well, exercise well, those are the most important, and don't forget "don't worry for tomorrow"!

Have a nice day! I have to go

Miduvill

Dont forget to include me in your prayer

Yes I will take some Vitamins and I walked today and try a little exercise....

Yes I will also try not to worry for tomorrow I will LET GO AND LET GOD..

Depression is really hard to deal with. I keep very busy every day and try to cope with it. I moved back to the U.S. and took at job 14 hours away from any one I know because I could not find a job in my city. I am scared to see a psychiatrist because I dont know if they will report to my job. My depression is getting worse but I keep praying and hoping to survive. For me it is always the worst at night. My nights are quite sleepless. Max is sometimes 3 hours. I went through so many changes, 3 years overseas, moving back to the U.S. but not being able to be close with my family and I left without my husband. Life

sucks but we just have to keep going. Good luck to us all.

Well get through this have faith and one day when we woke up everything is fine...

Let GO and let GOD..God Bless your heart

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

How long did your marriage last

This seems to be a short marriage, therefore don't expect anything great out of the divorce. I think the expectation surrounding the divorce will be a disappointment to you.

Edited December 2, 2012 by LIFE'SJOURNEY

[Villanelle 4,122]

If you have bank statements showing activity at the residence it could be helpful to establish a date of separation, but its not really the type of evidence you need. What you need is statements from people who were involved. You said you left when he 'kicked you out' and went to a friends house. Have your friend write a simple statement saying on X date shin shin arrived stating her husband threw out her and she had no where to go. Get a statement from whomever it was that you reported the incident to in the Military police as well. (on X date shin shin reported her husband threw her out on X date and xyz happened) That is your evidence of the date of separation.

You MUST have that date as the date of separation on the final divorce. If your husband wont agree to it, then you have to let the judge decide. You would present your evidence (statements from everyone you went to when he threw you out) He would have to present his own evidence on why he wants a different date. What evidence would he have for a different date? nothing since you were living there there would be nothing he could show to prove otherwise.

Secondly the OP lives in CA. It is a community property state. That means she is entitled to half the marital assets regardless of how short the marriage was plus spousal support. If she can prove abuse and/or she was completely dependent on him (not having a DL, and he restricted her financial independence) the court can and most likely will award her spousal support.

[MIDUVIL 34]

Dont forget to include me in your prayer

Yes I will take some Vitamins and I walked today and try a little exercise....

Yes I will also try not to worry for tomorrow I will LET GO AND LET GOD..

Well get through this have faith and one day when we woke up everything is fine...

Let GO and let GOD..God Bless your heart

I will pray for you.

When I was talking about exercising, I'm including everything, as well as walking. I'm not a fan of any sports or physical exercises, and I never asked my husband what he means by exercising- I know only that it's something that i can't appreciate.

But sometimes I walk, to entertain my toddler. And for hubby, it's goood! ( ) so...

Edited December 2, 2012 by MIDUVIL

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

If you have bank statements showing activity at the residence it could be helpful to establish a date of separation, but its not really the type of evidence you need. What you need is statements from people who were involved. You said you left when he 'kicked you out' and went to a friends house. Have your friend write a simple statement saying on X date shin shin arrived stating her husband threw out her and she had no where to go. Get a statement from whomever it was that you reported the incident to in the Military police as well. (on X date shin shin reported her husband threw her out on X date and xyz happened) That is your evidence of the date of separation.

You MUST have that date as the date of separation on the final divorce. If your husband wont agree to it, then you have to let the judge decide. You would present your evidence (statements from everyone you went to when he threw you out) He would have to present his own evidence on why he wants a different date. What evidence would he have for a different date? nothing since you were living there there would be nothing he could show to prove otherwise.

Secondly the OP lives in CA. It is a community property state. That means she is entitled to half the marital assets regardless of how short the marriage was plus spousal support. If she can prove abuse and/or she was completely dependent on him (not having a DL, and he restricted her financial independence) the court can and most likely will award her spousal support.

so let me get this right:

They lived in military housing half of that is zero.

She talked about a car for $5000, half of that is 2500

She went to his commading officer to get some money after he ASKED HER TO LEAVE, SEEMS LIKE HIS MILITARY RANK IS LOW, HER SPOUSAL SUPPORT WOULD BE WHAT THE MILITARY GIVES HIM FOR HAVING A SPOUSE.

Spousal support is only for a short period of time, could be only 6 months if granted

OP can't finance a lawyer, so let say she gets a lawyer, the spousal support will be deleted with the cost of a lawyer and the filing for her ROC after the divorce.

I will not given advise on her pending divorce since I am not a divorce lawyer, but with her lack of finance and her state of mind right now, it best that she understand her situation in reality rather than false hope.