Husband kicked me out:-(

[LSnBigBear 61]

My suggestion is go see a counselor as you have great insurance. If this has mentally drained you as much as you are acting then get some emotional help while you have his insurance.

As others mentioned you appear to be good for removal of conditions. I would not go to your home country until the divorce is final. You need to be close so he does not play games as in can't find you to have you attend the mediation or final hearing. Take his divorce docs when you receive them and go to an Attorney yourself to check your options. Don't allow him to bully you,

Good luck

Edited November 28, 2012 by LSnBigBear

[shin shin 3]

My suggestion is go see a counselor as you have great insurance. If this has mentally drained you as much as you are acting then get some emotional help while you have his insurance.

As others mentioned you appear to be good for removal of conditions. I would not go to your home country until the divorce is final. You need to be close so he does not play games as in can't find you to have you attend the mediation or final hearing. Take his divorce docs when you receive them and go to an Attorney yourself to check your options. Don't allow him to bully you,

Good luck

so i cannot visit my family this January??? just waiting for the divorce papers then I'll contact the Jag lawyer again for my next step as i cant afford to hire lawyer to represent me..

[Sandra G. 5,047]

He filed for divorce then DO NOT travel abroad, wait for the divorce to be finalized, file form I-751 waiver, get the extension letter and then travel abroad.

Edited November 28, 2012 by sandranj

[shin shin 3]

He filed for divorce then DO NOT travel abroad, wait for the divorce to be finalized, file form I-751 waiver, get the extension letter and then travel abroad.

so you mean while divorce is pending i cannot travel abroad???

[Sandra G. 5,047]

shin shin you can travel while the divorce is pending but it's not a good idea at all. We,lawyers, as a precaution advise not to travel abroad when there has been a pending divorce.

"The above is general information only, not legal advice, and does not create an attorney-client relationship".

[shin shin 3]

shin shin you can travel while the divorce is pending but it's not a good idea at all. We,lawyers, as a precaution advise not to travel abroad when there has been a pending divorce.

"The above is general information only, not legal advice, and does not create an attorney-client relationship".

i think it will be a simple summary of dissolution as were only married for 8 months...I asked 2 lawyers too and said there will be no problem for traveling abroad but Im still doubt it though..thats why i posted here....

thanks for the advise but my family really wanna see me after learning of whats goin on with me right now..

I just dont know how

[masipag 6]

Shin shin,

You got a nice idea there posted by sandranj.If you want to face any trouble & doubt at all during re-entry as your main concern then you should think about every decision you ganna make.for the meantime take a break maybe we can chat sometimes to lessen your pain I am filipina too.pm me & relax.

If you don't want to face trouble or doubt I mean*

[shin shin 3]

My life sucks...sometimes I just wanna go back to my home country for good this is too much stress for me...

No family,no friends,no money,no job,no car,no place to stay and no husband....I am only 28 but feel like I"m 60 because of whats goin on....

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Based on what you have posted above, why do you feel the need to stay. What will be keeping you here after the divorce, how will you start over

[shin shin 3]

Based on what you have posted above, why do you feel the need to stay. What will be keeping you here after the divorce, how will you start over

i dont know what i want right now...starting to look for a job and will get drivers license...then will get a car

have to get back on my feet...

[Caryh 5,206]

i dont know what i want right now...starting to look for a job and will get drivers license...then will get a car

have to get back on my feet...

You are totally within your rights if you wish to stay in the USA. But are you sure you want to with no family, friends, job, home, car, etc? I know many in the Philippines think life is so easy in the USA, and we're all rich. But by now you've gotten to see thats not really true. I know my wife, who is also from the Philippines, would jump at the chance to live there again. Even though we're married, if I said it was OK that she lived there and I here, she'd be happy to do that. Although I know my wife a bit better than she does herself at times, and I know us being apart would make her sad a lot. Still she see's life in the Philippines as being an easier life than what we have in the USA. I guess what I'm saying is, make sure you're not also acting on the emotions of the divorce and deciding you should stay just because your husband wants you to leave.

[shin shin 3]

You are totally within your rights if you wish to stay in the USA. But are you sure you want to with no family, friends, job, home, car, etc? I know many in the Philippines think life is so easy in the USA, and we're all rich. But by now you've gotten to see thats not really true. I know my wife, who is also from the Philippines, would jump at the chance to live there again. Even though we're married, if I said it was OK that she lived there and I here, she'd be happy to do that. Although I know my wife a bit better than she does herself at times, and I know us being apart would make her sad a lot. Still she see's life in the Philippines as being an easier life than what we have in the USA. I guess what I'm saying is, make sure you're not also acting on the emotions of the divorce and deciding you should stay just because your husband wants you to leave.

thanks for the input,,but right now i dont wanna make any decision based on my emotions....

i know I'm hurting but Im sure I'll get through it...I have in my Lord

[Caryh 5,206]

thanks for the input,,but right now i dont wanna make any decision based on my emotions....

i know I'm hurting but Im sure I'll get through it...I have in my Lord

Thats good. You sound very level headed even though you're going through a very emotionally hard time. I've known a lot of people who have gone through a divorce, including myself. It never ceases to amaze me the stupid things we can do to ourselves because we're blaming and trying to get back at the other person for that divorce. You soon to be ex will do them, and so will you. Being aware, helps to prevent you from doing too much stupid stuff or getting too angry when they do, pushing you to do even more stupid stuff. I wish you luck and the lord's blessing and guidance in what you have ahead of you.

[rlogan 2,036]

thanks for the input,,but right now i dont wanna make any decision based on my emotions....

Good for you! That's what the professionals say. One really great thing about the military is that they don't put up with B.S. from husbands on wives. The CO and Jag office were very good ideas for you, and they'll continue to help so long as you are married.

One step at a time. The people telling you not to travel are not legally correct. You have a green card. Our friend the lawyer posting here did not point to any statute or policy that says you cannot travel. Lawyers will do that (cite the source) when they are legally correct. So the lack of that source tells you this "precaution" is not based on the law.

Going home will set you back in terms of finding the job and getting on your feet with the license and everything else though so this may be a more important consideration.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

rlogan when you get a Law degree, pass the bar exam then maybe I will respond your nonsense comment.

I don't have to mention any Law. I am not representing anyone here.I am not getting paid for that.As I said before if you want to tell me that I am wrong first get a freaking Law degree and work in my field at least 25 years.Have a good day!

Edited November 28, 2012 by sandranj