Lagos consulate officers

[OgaMum 4]

Sorry for the denial but what did the CO discover to make him reach that conclusion? It's sad despite having a fair CO he still manage to get denial anyway... Hope you both have found a way... How long did you both live together in lagos? Are you nigerian-american? If you don't mind making your post helpful... Take care

I am American and my husband is Nigerian. I decided to live with my husband after they denied his visa the first time because we clearly didn't marry for immigration purposes. They denied him in 2011 after speaking to him for 10 minutes so I been with him since then.

They said that he was nervous and stuttered so because of that he only married for immigration purposes. My husband has a thriving business in Nigeria...he doesn't need American papers to survive. I met my husband in America but I was friends with his brother so that is how we met. We didn't date until months later because I take things slow. We dated the old traditional way...you know having blessings of the parents etc. My husband was shaking and stuttering when talking to my parents. LOL. My dad threatened to shoot him if I came home pregnant. LOL.

Now my daddy can't leave my husband alone! They are like best friends and I am jealous! Grrr. They want us to come for Thanksgiving and Christmas but the visa thing is crazy.

We are together so that is important. I love his family and they are very protective of me. I can't go nowhere in Lagos alone!! Grrr!

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The first interview..we had a white guy who was fairly nice but he denied my husband stating that he married for immigration purposes....mind you we are living in the same house in LAGOS!

My husband wants to raise his children in Nigeria but pursued immigration so that he is able to travel to US without issues and if we wanted to stay in US for some time...we can.

Not everyone partake in scandalous things. Nigeria has a very bad reputation unfortunately.

First let me apologise to you for the idiotic accusation.

Second, as USCs we need to do something, not sure what, to remind the Connoffs in Nigeria that one of the tenents of American way of life is to judge EACH person on their own character and evidence provided.

Being nervous and stuttering or using an intepreter are not valid reasons for denying family based immigration applications.

Everytime I hear oh it's Nigeria, oh it's the worst Embassy ever, oh theirs scams in Nigeria I get sick. Folks need to stop the nonsense. How can a Conoff possibly have a complete picture in 10 minutes? Especially of someone nervous and stuttering?

Yes there're are scams in ALL countries and this is why it's insulting to those of us with legit petitions who are then denied for bogus reasons like bonafide relationship or immigration purpose.

[onye uwaoma 131]

I see how delicate the CO's job can be... I would rather resign at an immigration worker if I hate to see couples reunited... Now, it can be acceptable if a co denies typical fraudulent marriage which is obvious to any reasonable person-tough job there! I'm sure many interracial marriages are basically a matter of choice and not just for immigration purposes IMHO... If I were a CO I wouldn't denied genuine couples their priviledge to live together in one of the greatest countries in the world-USA-if that's where they desire to live and qualify to live there... Why are you breaking homes in the name of "immigration purposes only"? Don't you realize life is shot? Pls for the sake of accountability to God almighty, who is the head of the institution called marriage, allow the married couples to live their lives the way they choose and wherever they desire... All around the world today, some marriages are clashing even though that was not what they asked for when the union was consummated-but fwiw at least they have got the privilege to be marriage and learn one or two things therein... You know in the world today, it doesn't matter if the couple are both of one culture, tribe, language, religion etc etc when they can't resolve their differences, they part ways, and you cannot accuse either party of any immigration benefit! O yes because most people don't marry because of immigration purposes only just like indian marrying an indian for example and along the line they break up and still they're both privileged to be indians living in india... I get pissed off when all the time I hear you're in marriage for immigration purpose only? It's most time not the case even though I understand it does exist but if you can't figure it beyond any reasonable doubts, hey! Get some good conscience because you're not perfect either... I hope someone responsible will turn a new leaf and give married couples the breathing space...

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I see how delicate the CO's job can be... I would rather resign at an immigration worker if I hate to see couples reunited... Now, it can be acceptable if a co denies typical fraudulent marriage which is obvious to any reasonable person-tough job there! I'm sure many interracial marriages are basically a matter of choice and not just for immigration purposes IMHO... If I were a CO I wouldn't denied genuine couples their priviledge to live together in one of the greatest countries in the world-USA-if that's where they desire to live and qualify to live there... Why are you breaking homes in the name of "immigration purposes only"? Don't you realize life is shot? Pls for the sake of accountability to God almighty, who is the head of the institution called marriage, allow the married couples to live their lives the way they choose and wherever they desire... All around the world today, some marriages are clashing even though that was not what they asked for when the union was consummated-but fwiw at least they have got the privilege to be marriage and learn one or two things therein... You know in the world today, it doesn't matter if the couple are both of one culture, tribe, language, religion etc etc when they can't resolve their differences, they part ways, and you cannot accuse either party of any immigration benefit! O yes because most people don't marry because of immigration purposes only just like indian marrying an indian for example and along the line they break up and still they're both privileged to be indians living in india... I get pissed off when all the time I hear you're in marriage for immigration purpose only? It's most time not the case even though I understand it does exist but if you can't figure it beyond any reasonable doubts, hey! Get some good conscience because you're not perfect either... I hope someone responsible will turn a new leaf and give married couples the breathing space...

IMHO they should approve any approved petition from USCIS unless they have a clear case evidence of fraud (not just a suscpicion). Then they can add certain actions to the visa such as removng the 10 year green card, placing demand that the foreign actor MUST leave the USA if the marriage terminates and readjust status from the original country, etc

[OgaMum 4]

IMHO they should approve any approved petition from USCIS unless they have a clear case evidence of fraud (not just a suscpicion). Then they can add certain actions to the visa such as removng the 10 year green card, placing demand that the foreign actor MUST leave the USA if the marriage terminates and readjust status from the original country, etc

It seems to me that Embassies are not trusting USCIS' decision to approve petitions. If USCIS felt that our marriage was fraudulent then they would have never approved us. I am not saying living together or sharing kids is bona fide but look at evidence presented before making a decision to say hmmmm.

I understand CO have a job but discriminating without reason is tacky and uncouth. A friend of mine married a guy from Spain and his visa was approved less than six months but he he was cheating on her and had a child with his mistress while married to my friend!!

She found out and called USCIS and he is bye bye.

[OgaMum 4]

First let me apologise to you for the idiotic accusation.

Second, as USCs we need to do something, not sure what, to remind the Connoffs in Nigeria that one of the tenents of American way of life is to judge EACH person on their own character and evidence provided.

Being nervous and stuttering or using an intepreter are not valid reasons for denying family based immigration applications.

Everytime I hear oh it's Nigeria, oh it's the worst Embassy ever, oh theirs scams in Nigeria I get sick. Folks need to stop the nonsense. How can a Conoff possibly have a complete picture in 10 minutes? Especially of someone nervous and stuttering?

Yes there're are scams in ALL countries and this is why it's insulting to those of us with legit petitions who are then denied for bogus reasons like bonafide relationship or immigration purpose.

We were furious! I expected something like oh..he has a wife and five kids or he is wanted by FBI in five continents! We got our letter from USCIS explaining the reasons for denial and we were like huh? Stuttering is a form of speech impediment so when have Embassies denied applicants with disabilities????????????

For some people nervousness make them act crazy and interviews can be scary at times. They also said my husband didn't know my name....uhhhh we share the same SURNAME!!! My first name is very common and short. (screaming loud)

My husband said the guy was talking very fast and he kept asking the CO to slow down. My husband will not answer questions he does not understand and he requested a translator. It was horrible that day!

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Great thread. Funny comments and heartbreaking comments. Sigh ! I just wish this all would be easier than it is.

My fiance is Nigerian also but was refused in Cyprus, so even if a Nigerian interviews in another country, the same stereotypical excuses used for Nigerians by CO's still apply and it is just as crazy there.

A simple "gut feeling" according to our CO was the reason to refuse the visa after leaving us for 16 months in the dreaded AP pit.

Horrid !

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We were furious! I expected something like oh..he has a wife and five kids or he is wanted by FBI in five continents! We got our letter from USCIS explaining the reasons for denial and we were like huh? Stuttering is a form of speech impediment so when have Embassies denied applicants with disabilities????????????

For some people nervousness make them act crazy and interviews can be scary at times. They also said my husband didn't know my name....uhhhh we share the same SURNAME!!! My first name is very common and short. (screaming loud)

My husband said the guy was talking very fast and he kept asking the CO to slow down. My husband will not answer questions he does not understand and he requested a translator. It was horrible that day!

Bingo.

I agree, come forth with unrefutable evidence for denial.