NEED HELP!!!!!!!!

[loonphang 0]

i am so frustrated now. i dont know who to talk to.

my fiancee and i seperated in this january, but before she left we have already planned for the fiancee visa, collecting all required evidence. i visited her last week and stay over the japan for 23 hours and come back to USA because i have to work. i flew there to see her parents , but her parents refused to see me. i am so dissapointed. her parents were stongly disagreed with our marriage because i am still in school and dont have a stable job. I will stop school for a year so that i can always fly there and visit my fiancee, and of course after my fiancee comes to america and everything becomes sable, i will go back to school.

now my fiancee is hesistated that i should apply the fiancee visa now. i am so sad after i have heard this. Well she is still thinking about it, i am just so worried what if she wants me graduate from school first, which will be another 3-4 years. i am 22 years old now. Long distance relationship is definetely hard to keep.

Please anyone give me what you think about this? hwo should i over coem this ?

[motu 6]

Finish your school first and get a decent job before you take on additional responsibilities - remeber this is not a cheap process and she won't be able to work without EAD and may have problems finding a good job in the beginning. If she sticks it out with you; fine, else find someone else. Good Luck

[loonphang 0]

my fiancee work here before. that compnay she worked for promise to hire her once she got a legal status in USA.

[thai2luv 0]

llonphang,

The advice you want seems to be of a much more personal nature.

Are you sure you want relationship advice from total strangers?

Edited February 28, 2006 by thai2luv

[UmmSqueakster 54]

my fiancee work here before. that compnay she worked for promise to hire her once she got a legal status in USA.

That's nice, but it can take months and months to get an EAD so that she'd be able to work. We're nearing the point where my husband will have been in the US for 5 months, and we still don't have the EAD. How will you guys survive in the mean time?

Do you have someone to cosponsor you, or are you making enough to sponsor her yourself? I would guess if you have enough money to fly to Japan frequently, you have money coming from somewhere.

As for her parents' reservations about your marriage, I would say they're valid. My parents also strongly and strenously disagreed when my husband and I were engaged while in college. So, we waited until I graduated and had a job before bringing him over here. It didn't solve all of our problems, but at least it showed our parents that we were responsible adults who could support ourselves. We ended up waiting until 4 years after we met to file the K-1. We also went more than 1.5 years without seeing each other at certain points in our relationship. Long distance relationships are hard, I know, I've been there. But, being married and not having a sound financial footing is even harder.

[scorpio232 0]

Just have her come here and marry and she and you can see for yourself... You do not need a K Visa to marry... Just being honest... She is Japanese... and does not need a Visa to visit... And you are allowed to marry on a visitors Visa...

File your papers once you are married and in 3 to 4 months she will have the EAD and the I-131 she can leave and go back without abandoning the Petition of the AOS....

But be warned... 2 years later when you get the AOS interview.. You will be grilled about the relationship..... As long as the relationship is real and you can prove it.... Then you and her will be fine... And you can show her family that your marriage did work.....

This is what I did with my EX Japanese wife.... She still lives and works in Hawaii... with my daughter...

She did legally inter the U.S.... So she did not break the law.... She did not evade immigrant laws.... She was allowed to come into the U.S... She decided to marry and she filed to change Status... This is not breaking the law...

[Miranda&James 8]

Just have her come here and marry and she and you can see for yourself... You do not need a K Visa to marry... Just being honest... She is Japanese... and does not need a Visa to visit... And you are allowed to marry on a visitors Visa...

File your papers once you are married and in 3 to 4 months she will have the EAD and the I-131 she can leave and go back without abandoning the Petition of the AOS....

But be warned... 2 years later when you get the AOS interview.. You will be grilled about the relationship..... As long as the relationship is real and you can prove it.... Then you and her will be fine... And you can show her family that your marriage did work.....

This is what I did with my EX Japanese wife.... She still lives and works in Hawaii... with my daughter...

She did legally inter the U.S.... So she did not break the law.... She did not evade immigrant laws.... She was allowed to come into the U.S... She decided to marry and she filed to change Status... This is not breaking the law...

Coming to the US and happening to fall in love and get married is not illegal, yes, but what you are telling him to do is. His girl would be coming to the US with the intent to marry and that isn't allowed. Besides, her coming here and marrying him won't solve their problems. It seems to me like the OP needs to seriously sit down and talk with his fiancee and discuss if they are willing to be apart for the time it takes for him to get a stable job and a degree or if they feel that the risk is worth it. I can't tell you which is right, I'm in college and I don't have a full-time job making a lot of money so James will be here not working for awhile and things will be tight, but this is what we decided to do. I think you know in your heart what is best!