Vawa part3

[gizq 2]

Hi Everyone,

So I thought I would write a quick note, introduce myself, seeing as Im now part of the VAWA group.

I married my US citizen wife at the beginning of the year. We filed my adjustment papers in July. In March time she started becoming increasingly emotionally and psychologically abusive, in part due to a heavy addiction to alcohol and drugs. I tried to help her through these problems no matter how many lies I was told. We were married, and my job was to try and fix that problem and try and ignore all the abuse. I had my pending adjustment used against me by my wife almost weekly, with threats to revoke her side of the paperwork. One time she was so drunk and emotionally abusive I threatened to leave the relationship if it didn't stop, to which she just laughed and told me I couldn't leave as I had nowhere else to go, and if I left she would get me deported the next day. About a month ago I started making plans to leave her, but couldn't get very far as my EAD took forever to arrive and I had no access to any other funds. The day after out interview notice came, she changed the locks on our house, cleared out and cancelled all our bank accounts, disconnected my phone, ended the relationship via electronic communication, and left me for dead.

I'm now in the process of trying to figure out my VAWA application to file before our interview date in a couple of weeks.

I don't have any money, so I can't afford any legal help, and legal aid can't help as Im not a permanent resident in the states. Therefore Im forced to file on my own. Im scared and terrified every day, and Im even more terrified I wont get this package in on time. I don't really know how to put the package together, so Im trying to learn as much as I can, get it sorted ASAP, all whilst now applying for jobs with all the free time I have, now that I have my SS number. Im now somehow trying to figure out how to start seeing a therapist/counsellor, so I can start getting the help I desperately need, as well as for my paperwork...somehow without paying for the time being.

Its all a bit of a mess, but Im trying to keep positive, and get through this as quickly and as smoothly as I can.

This is my story so far

What state are you living???

Edited December 4, 2012 by gizq

[Dewave2 17]

What state are you living???

California

[silverlining 0]

I understand that it is overwhelmingly stressful at first, but once you sort out the emotional vis-vis the practical aspects of your situation, you will feel the urge to pursue your case. You can read all of sandranj's posts here to give you a heads up. But as early as now, try your best to be on top of the situation. Find a pro bono psycupiatrist in your area, secure a police clearance. Start collecting your thoughts about what happened and write your story. That will be a big step. I wish you well. I was in your place a few months ago. Keep the faith, brother!

Hi Everyone,

So I thought I would write a quick note, introduce myself, seeing as Im now part of the VAWA group.

I married my US citizen wife at the beginning of the year. We filed my adjustment papers in July. In March time she started becoming increasingly emotionally and psychologically abusive, in part due to a heavy addiction to alcohol and drugs. I tried to help her through these problems no matter how many lies I was told. We were married, and my job was to try and fix that problem and try and ignore all the abuse. I had my pending adjustment used against me by my wife almost weekly, with threats to revoke her side of the paperwork. One time she was so drunk and emotionally abusive I threatened to leave the relationship if it didn't stop, to which she just laughed and told me I couldn't leave as I had nowhere else to go, and if I left she would get me deported the next day. About a month ago I started making plans to leave her, but couldn't get very far as my EAD took forever to arrive and I had no access to any other funds. The day after out interview notice came, she changed the locks on our house, cleared out and cancelled all our bank accounts, disconnected my phone, ended the relationship via electronic communication, and left me for dead.

I'm now in the process of trying to figure out my VAWA application to file before our interview date in a couple of weeks.

I don't have any money, so I can't afford any legal help, and legal aid can't help as Im not a permanent resident in the states. Therefore Im forced to file on my own. Im scared and terrified every day, and Im even more terrified I wont get this package in on time. I don't really know how to put the package together, so Im trying to learn as much as I can, get it sorted ASAP, all whilst now applying for jobs with all the free time I have, now that I have my SS number. Im now somehow trying to figure out how to start seeing a therapist/counsellor, so I can start getting the help I desperately need, as well as for my paperwork...somehow without paying for the time being.

Its all a bit of a mess, but Im trying to keep positive, and get through this as quickly and as smoothly as I can.

This is my story so far

[silverlining 0]

I understand that it is overwhelmingly stressful at first, but once you sort out the emotional vis-vis the practical aspects of your situation, you will feel the urge to pursue your case. You can read all of sandranj's posts here to give you a heads up. But as early as now, try your best to be on top of the situation. Find a pro bono psycupiatrist in your area, secure a police clearance. Start collecting your thoughts about what happened and write your story. That will be a big step. I wish you well. I was in your place a few months ago. Keep the faith, brother!

Hi Everyone,

So I thought I would write a quick note, introduce myself, seeing as Im now part of the VAWA group.

I married my US citizen wife at the beginning of the year. We filed my adjustment papers in July. In March time she started becoming increasingly emotionally and psychologically abusive, in part due to a heavy addiction to alcohol and drugs. I tried to help her through these problems no matter how many lies I was told. We were married, and my job was to try and fix that problem and try and ignore all the abuse. I had my pending adjustment used against me by my wife almost weekly, with threats to revoke her side of the paperwork. One time she was so drunk and emotionally abusive I threatened to leave the relationship if it didn't stop, to which she just laughed and told me I couldn't leave as I had nowhere else to go, and if I left she would get me deported the next day. About a month ago I started making plans to leave her, but couldn't get very far as my EAD took forever to arrive and I had no access to any other funds. The day after out interview notice came, she changed the locks on our house, cleared out and cancelled all our bank accounts, disconnected my phone, ended the relationship via electronic communication, and left me for dead.

I'm now in the process of trying to figure out my VAWA application to file before our interview date in a couple of weeks.

I don't have any money, so I can't afford any legal help, and legal aid can't help as Im not a permanent resident in the states. Therefore Im forced to file on my own. Im scared and terrified every day, and Im even more terrified I wont get this package in on time. I don't really know how to put the package together, so Im trying to learn as much as I can, get it sorted ASAP, all whilst now applying for jobs with all the free time I have, now that I have my SS number. Im now somehow trying to figure out how to start seeing a therapist/counsellor, so I can start getting the help I desperately need, as well as for my paperwork...somehow without paying for the time being.

Its all a bit of a mess, but Im trying to keep positive, and get through this as quickly and as smoothly as I can.

This is my story so far

[nardah1 3]

I have been lurking on this site for awhile, and I have some comments and questions. We all know that VAWA marriage fraud is a growing epidemic in America now. I wonder how many of you so called "abused spouses" are really only trying anything you can to get a green card to stay here? If you were abused, or your marriage didn't work out, why not just go home? Is there another reason for filing a VAWA AOS? Could it be money? If you have no family here, or culture here, why stay? And if you entered into your marriage only for a visa to paradise, then I hope the USCIS starts cracking down on this marriage fraud so many are doing. I dealt with this fraud years ago, before it was advertised on the web as an easy ticket to american residency, and I think the entire VAWA law needs to be reformed. The fraudsters are making it very difficult for honest immigrant spouses to obtain a visa. Just my observations.

[Sahilkundra 0]

I have a quick question .i have filed my vawa on oct 25,2012

And I have one of my friend who is my witness who have seen that abuse .and he is willing to write me affidavit shown that he has seen me going through with my wife and her cruelty .like I have already filed if I want to send them that letter can I do it or should I wait for them to touch my file or send me rfe.please help !!!!!!!

[young Seattle 9]

hi Sahilkundra： VAWA is not a easy case, please ask some professional immigration attorney for help. i am in the same situation as you, all i can tell you is VAWA is a long journey, maybe after you wait two years, you will rethink about this, in other words, you will ask yourself, what is this all about? sorry, i am not some VAWA expert, all i can give you is my own experience. take care brother, best of luck.

[nardah1 3]

For CurlyHoward.....Should be CURLYCOWARD.........I was first upset by ur comment thinking how someone can be so cruel andd malicious but after processing all that u said it is quite obvious u are a person with serious psychological issues and I recommend that u do get help in dealing with your problems. To enlighten u about what we abused people here on the forum is going through, because it might seem to u while u are lurking that this is a easy process. This is called a 'journey' because it is a long process! Long and tiring! No one wants to go through this horror and shame, I personally can speak for myself that if it was for a 'greencard' I would have stayed in the abuse until I got it n then leave. Sorry if u n ur spouse got together for the wrong reason, but I know myself and others here did not!! As for ur question 'y not return home?' We all want to return home we also want to know that we are free to return here! U obviously haven't been to any of the places we are all from....it is beautiful so please don't think this is the only "paradise" as u call it, I can see y ur spouse ran from u, belittling people. The unfortunate thing for a lot of us victims here on the forum is that we sold, gaveaway and left all that we had to come here to a person like u because of the false promises of Love!! Instead to be beaten, humilihated, tortured and disgraced!! No abuser ever want to admit that they are but u know what u are free to "lurk" because our forum will continue with or without low life like u interupting us............we are survivors and united here we stand

Edited December 4, 2012 by nardah1

[rolin123 0]

Hopefully I hear sth from them about My i-360 NOA so i can apply for Work permit later on. I've tried email, letter and phone calls.

All I can do is wait I guess

[CurleyHoward 1]

For CurlyHoward.....Should be CURLYCOWARD.........I was first upset by ur comment thinking how someone can be so cruel andd malicious but after processing all that u said it is quite obvious u are a person with serious psychological issues and I recommend that u do get help in dealing with your problems. To enlighten u about what we abused people here on the forum is going through, because it might seem to u while u are lurking that this is a easy process. This is called a 'journey' because it is a long process! Long and tiring! No one wants to go through this horror and shame, I personally can speak for myself that if it was for a 'greencard' I would have stayed in the abuse until I got it n then leave. Sorry if u n ur spouse got together for the wrong reason, but I know myself and others here did not!! As for ur question 'y not return home?' We all want to return home we also want to know that we are free to return here! U obviously haven't been to any of the places we are all from....it is beautiful so please don't think this is the only "paradise" as u call it, I can see y ur spouse ran from u, belittling people. The unfortunate thing for a lot of us victims here on the forum is that we sold, gaveaway and left all that we had to come here to a person like u because of the false promises of Love!! Instead to be beaten, humilihated, tortured and disgraced!! No abuser ever want to admit that they are but u know what u are free to "lurk" because our forum will continue with or without low life like u interupting us............we are survivors and united here we stand

Sweety, i hav been to more countries than you can name. Lived in many for months. I'm just concerned that, maybe not you, but many on here, are only concerned with a path to america, which as you now know, is not the paradise all from the developing world think it is. Myself I had way rather go live in some poor cheap country, than here. someday. have u looked at those russian sites that openly advertise to (mostly) girls, how to do the VAWA process? Its ridiculous. if you are honest about your problem, good for you, now go home. Hopefully, someday, congress will fix these loopholes that allow fraudsters to stay here. But, still, I love foreign women!

[silverlining 0]

My EAD will expire in April 2013. Will i have to pay another set of fees for the renewal? How soon should I file for renewal?

[silverlining 0]

I am praying that more news of appeovals will be posted here this week. I believe our time wil come. Very soon.

[Sahilkundra 0]

hi Sahilkundra： VAWA is not a easy case, please ask some professional immigration attorney for help. i am in the same situation as you, all i can tell you is VAWA is a long journey, maybe after you wait two years, you will rethink about this, in other words, you will ask yourself, what is this all about? sorry, i am not some VAWA expert, all i can give you is my own experience. take care brother, best of luck.

Thank u bud but I am just started n I am so worried plus not in situation to do nothing.just hopeless

[Sahilkundra 0]

For CurlyHoward.....Should be CURLYCOWARD.........I was first upset by ur comment thinking how someone can be so cruel andd malicious but after processing all that u said it is quite obvious u are a person with serious psychological issues and I recommend that u do get help in dealing with your problems. To enlighten u about what we abused people here on the forum is going through, because it might seem to u while u are lurking that this is a easy process. This is called a 'journey' because it is a long process! Long and tiring! No one wants to go through this horror and shame, I personally can speak for myself that if it was for a 'greencard' I would have stayed in the abuse until I got it n then leave. Sorry if u n ur spouse got together for the wrong reason, but I know myself and others here did not!! As for ur question 'y not return home?' We all want to return home we also want to know that we are free to return here! U obviously haven't been to any of the places we are all from....it is beautiful so please don't think this is the only "paradise" as u call it, I can see y ur spouse ran from u, belittling people. The unfortunate thing for a lot of us victims here on the forum is that we sold, gaveaway and left all that we had to come here to a person like u because of the false promises of Love!! Instead to be beaten, humilihated, tortured and disgraced!! No abuser ever want to admit that they are but u know what u are free to "lurk" because our forum will continue with or without low life like u interupting us............we are survivors and united here we stand

Here u go. Best answer . We all are warriors n just trying to get justice n we will get it one day. Bless us all my lord !!

[rolin123 0]

My EAD will expire in April 2013. Will i have to pay another set of fees for the renewal? How soon should I file for renewal?

Hello,

Someone just asked this question.

Please see previous page, u will get the answer..good luck

N short answer Is no!