Vawa part3

[Ch hope 0]

Hi, how are you all? I'm new here,.. I was following up in 2011 through the processing to get my CR1,..

I met my husband in US 2007 and i travel to another country 2008, married him legally in 2010 in Dominican republic, I enter the states in Feb 2012.

Before I married him he was very good person, he kept very good relationship with me after I left the states until I trusted him more than anybody ever. After marriage I had to wait for over than a year in Jordan waiting for my approval, during this we made a trip to Europe, I noticed during the trip that there is some thing wrong with him I was about to decide not to come to the state, but he made it nice after that until I arrive the stats. He took me to the place he lives in, it was his X GIRL FRIEND APT, whom she run away from him 15 years ago( that's what I found out later) he didn't allow me to use her bedroom and his room, I slept on the couch in a dangerous neighborhood. we planned upon the marriage that's we will get our our house and we will take care of each other until death. Non of these promises was true or real,.. I went through hard time to let get our own little apt, cause of this insisting request he threat me many times, the first one when we were at an empty the train station cause of maintenance, 12 midnight,.. he attacked me there and was having different face and different tone he was really scary I start screaming for security and I run to the street and jumped into a cap, and i called his mom asking her what's wrong with him, she said that he is not good at social behavior and she convinced me that he's not gonna heart me and she pushed me to go back home cause I have no place to go and no money, and she will talk to him to not touch me. Next time after 4 days he threat me and threat other people in the mall showing his patch ( he was court officer for more than 30 years) and he said that he will send me back to my country, that was because he took me to buy a shoe and I was about to pick another shoe than the one he picked for me, while he was yelling he came too close to me like he's attacking me and I run away again, jumped in a cap crying and thinking what should I do, I head to one of my old friends, and my husband kept calling me, he said that he want to make peace with me just not call the police or contact a lawyer and he will get me the apartment and will never heart me and it was just a mistake,.. I felt sorry for him and I went back home. He got the apartment after hard time( no need to mention it) and he stayed with me the first few weeks, missing some nights going back to his old place pretending that he have to collect his stuff, and things to do, then he start spending more night at that old place,.. I tried to discuss it with him during a dinner at the restaurant when he threat me for the third time saying that you want a big scene now? do you want the police to come and we'll be in the news tomorrow? I brought here if I didn't brought here you will be a stripper in Jordan!! (I was a journalist) I got too mad, my ears became like fire, my brain about to explode and I left the restaurant, he ran after me in the street, I hide in grocery store, he stayed outside waiting for me long time I was shaking and afraid too much, until I told him that if he will not leave in 10 minutes I will call the police, after 10 minutes he left. The fourth time he chased me in the blvd and I crossed the street without watching the cars cause i was too scared, I was about to be killed by crazy cars. Plus too many bad names I don't feel good to mention it. I was too much in denial that he is doing that on purpose, he was just too good man, too nice, I always tried to find a way to excuse him. And when ever he feel that I will take an action he comes to me and say I'm your friend pls don't put me in jell. I was good to you please don't destroy my reputation and report me to the police.
I made my researches and I found out that what he is like it's exactly like an asperger syndrome, I called his mom (she is Psychologist) and she said yes he is an asperger on the boarders with autism and he cannot live with some for day to day basis. I felt more sorry for him and I got some relief that I know now what is wrong with him. I start trying working it out with him understanding what he is..

I always wanted to leave, but I have no place to go, new in the city, my old friend couldn't reach any of them, the only one he said he can't do any thing cause he is busy.

Related to financial issues I couldn't just leave, I found out that lawyers and living needs a LOT of money, and my husband used to give me 20 $ to survive for 2-3 days until he will see me next time.

I went to domestic violence they said I have to have police report to file for me as domestic violence, or I have to go to the shelter, were they will not take my cat. My cat was the last thing good left in my life and I'm not ready to give up on her, even if i will be killed. after long trip visiting domestic violence every office of them confirm to me the same thing I deiced to take the life I have or just go back to my origin country where it happened that a civil war start there.

I told my husband that the next time he will try to heart me I will call the police. He tried to be more nice but never nice really, cause he was mostly staying in his old place and when ever he come to our apt he start telling me stories about dead people and crimes happened in the city and stories about his crazy previous criminal sister whom I never had a connection with her, only I met her for 5 minutes only April 2012 when we were moving. And I took what ever I'm having from extreme mental and verbal abuse from him. I had to suck it all the time cause any disagreement will end up threatening me or killing or god knows what. Until I had a little argument with him in the street, the same night 2:45 am I got a phone call from his sister saying to me in a very scary accent that she's gonna me up, my husband never answer my phone calls and I was alone so scared, so I had to call the police as long as I don't know whether she in front of my door or some were else. Later after I report it to the police I found out that my husband was checking my voice mail messages at the time immediately but he never pick the phone or call back, the next day at the the noon one of his relative (godmother) whom I know her she called me from my husband phone and told me that I should not ask him for money, and as long as i will not ask him for money I will be safe. the police report was already done and I became a very confused mind I can't see thing clearly and the fear stopping me from saying the truth, and keep finding him excuses. I got protection order against the sister, and I dropped the charges, I didn't want her to go to jell, and I knew that my husband pushed her to do that and she responded but I have no enough evidence to prove it.

I will make it so short now and on.. it's too long stories about many kinds of abusing, until I've been totally domestication the way he want. I lost the power of my mind, I got margin, I went to the emergency several times when he found out he forbid me doing that. I couldn't get a job, even I apply for almost thousand place. I'm surrounded with my screaming thoughts, sorrows deep depression and controlling fear.

I went to a therapy November 2012, my Psychologist was old man couldn't concetrat all the time, take a little nap :0 but he take my insurance. I stopped going to him after a month. It was the holidays when I had some calm days with my husband still not that good. he agreed to give me money for expensive every 10 days. but he still trying to avoid it in every way.

I still doesn't have the money, the only asset I have my wedding value ring, which will loose the value of the brand name so it could bring me only 1000 $ if I deiced to sell it.

I got few panic attacked last few days, and latterly I feel that I'm about to loose my mined in one second cause I'm can't control my mind any more for almost specially during the night , I close my eyes and see people laughing in my face, huge men coming to attack me, I' not sleep, just awake, I open my eyes start reading and holding my brain trying to keeping my loosing mind, late night I saw my husband in my dream pushing me from the stairs, I wake up cannot blink my eyes withing hearing the movement of my eyes in my brain like shutting doors with huge liquid pressure in my brain. That's happened after an argument with him about the expensive money which he does not want to pay and I told him that I'm going to the court to file for spousal support and divorce and warn him to not try to heart me and if he did I will be ready for that.

I'm blocking my door since that happened day and night from door to wall with my couch and travel baggage, cause he own 3 licensed guns, which I don't know for what reason he having it. I went back to my psychologist to continue last week, and he refer me to a psychiatrist cause he think that i need medication. he said that he will discuss the report next session, he look like he have no experience in such kinds of reports for immigration.

I deiced to file for vawa and Divorce and disappeared from the city, I have some issues keep thinking about it:

1- my conditioned green card will be expired in Feb 2014 and I have to file to remove condition end of Nov 2013 less than 7 months from now, if I filed for vawa I will go through hard procedures the same time I'm extremely tired and depressed and I'm afraid to be in worse situation after doing that financially and emotionally.

2- The money issue

3- my safety cause my husband will not like the idea of divorce or leaving him and he will look up for me every where, and I have to out of this state when I do that at least. to be kind of safe, and again , moving cost money.

what I have:

1-Condition green card,

2- My American husband birth certificate and passport (copies)

3- Tax return together

4- Apt lease both names

5- Joint account

6- Family phone plan me and him.

7- Few mails to his name and my name the same address.

8- Mails and letter from his mom sent to me and both me and him.

9- Pictures me and him and his family as well.

10-A lot of hand writing notes and greeting cards from my husband.

11- Protection order against the sister and police report.

12- I can get good moral character from police station I guess. but not from my country cause of the big war there no way to some body can volunteer to do it.

14- Emergency rooms visits and reports 2-3.

15- Report from neurologist (migraine September 2012)

16-My passport copy and social number.

17-Legal marriage certificate.

Please I need a fair advice please what is the right thing to do in my case and what do u think my chances is?

so sorry for telling such a long story.. ((((

[indianguyyyy 0]

you have condition green card...its very easy for you to convert through vawa or you can convert using I-751 and send your proof...sorry for your situation..you will get 100% permenant green card....

you have strong case because you already had condition green card that satisfies lot of things through I-485 interview which you did in past...

Waiver for Perm Green card.. if you are divorced...

A waiver of the termination is granted to the alien if the alien can show that the marriage was a union in good faith and the alien was not at fault for his failure to file the joint petition to remove the condition.

http://www.hooyou.com/divorce/aftercgc.html

if you are not divorced than you can get easily green card by just send what proof you had with I-751...

Edited May 6, 2013 by indianguyyyy

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Ch hope filefor divorce and your divorce is finalized file I-751 based in bonafide marriage and you can submit restraining order along with your forms just to explain why you decided to get divorced. I seems you suffered mental abuse but I would not choose I_751 based in extreme cruelty.You have a problem here it seems your husband did not live with you and he just spent it a few day per month in your house. Does he rent a different place for him? Do you have utilitis bills in name of both? Do you have at least 3 tax return filed jointly?

[nep28 2]

Hi Sandra,

After waiting two years my vawa was denied for reason 5 and 7. Is it better to reapply or appeal?

[missymd 5]

Nep sorry to hear that. What is reason 5 and 7?can u please share if u dont mind...

[Ch hope 0]

Hi Sandraj, thanks very much

He lives in his X girl friend apartment and he is paying her her bills and he calling all the time, but she left him 15 years ago to seattle and he still taking take of her, se makes visits to here stay with him in the apt once a year for a month, and he own a house as well, and our apt so it's 3 places. he have

I have 2 tax returns, the bills like electrisity he want to keep to him self every month I still have only one, plus i can down load the phon bill which is in his name and he 's being but I'm authorised on the aacount of the phon bell.

last month I heard his cursing me talking to his friend for 12 minutes non stop cursing although we spend nice day together that day. he wanted me to renue protection order against his sister for no reason for me, he slip the money under the mat latly and giving me very hard conversation like crazy person talking, not able to have a conversation with him at all. and whenever I mention divorce to him I get scared too much from his reaction like becoming unnormal and he disappeared for few days then he start acting nice, he mention he guns to ma all the time and long time ago he threat me in Europe using this gun. My health becaume not good at all.

Edited May 6, 2013 by Ch hope

[Ch hope 0]

we paid the rent for the apt I'm living in throygh our joint account, as well

[Ch hope 0]

you have condition green card...its very easy for you to convert through vawa or you can convert using I-751 and send your proof...sorry for your situation..you will get 100% permenant green card....

you have strong case because you already had condition green card that satisfies lot of things through I-485 interview which you did in past...

Waiver for Perm Green card.. if you are divorced...

A waiver of the termination is granted to the alien if the alien can show that the marriage was a union in good faith and the alien was not at fault for his failure to file the joint petition to remove the condition.

http://www.hooyou.com/divorce/aftercgc.html

if you are not divorced than you can get easily green card by just send what proof you had with I-751...

Thank you Indianguyyy

I'm afraid that I can't get divorce degree by Nov, the date to file for I-751

plus I'm not sure that they will approve it as I know they don't approve it easlly

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Nep 28 please specify the ground for the denial .The immigration law has thousands of grounds with number 5 and 7.Are you talking about 237(a)(7) or what? I have to know in order to give you my opinion.

[nep28 2]

They said I did not prove extreme curelty and good faith marriage.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Ch hope your GC is valid until FEv 2014 it means you can submit until Jan 2014 without any problem,you can submit 90 days prior the expiration date but you are still good to submit a few weeks before of the expiration date as well.You have time enough to file for divorce and have your divorce finalized in Jan 2014 and even if the divorce is not finalized in .Jan 2014,I doubt,you still can submit I-751 waiver and around May/June Uscis will send you and RFE asking the divorce decree and you have 87 days to submit,as you can see you have a lot of months ahead .I would say that you have 80% of chances to prove bonafide marriage and 50% to prove mental abuse. You can tell your story why you are divorcing in your waiver but the base for filing I-751 I suggest bonafide marriage instead ntal abuse,but it's up to you. If he had 2 houses rented in his name when still having a marital relationship with you then you may be in trouble to renew your green card since sharing 1commune residence is mandatory..

[nep28 2]

We were lining together with his mom. Bills and lease was in her name. I send in court documents showing that we went to court re the abuse, affidavits from his sister and friends but they claime the affdavits vague.

I am so depressed because the i485 and the i360 is denied.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Nep 28 just 1% .0f appeal is approved.I would refile but if you are going to submit same proof again they will deny again.To prove bonafide marriage you need to have commingling finances and commune residence,even for Vawa cases.Did you ssubmit your vawa based in mental abuse? Did you submit a psychological evaluation stating you suffered or are suffering post traumatic disorder or severe depression? If you can't prove that they will deny your case again.The ground for mental abuse it must be EXTREME CRUELTY.

[Ch hope 0]

Ch hope your GC is valid until FEv 2014 it means you can submit until Jan 2014 without any problem,you can submit 90 days prior the expiration date but you are still good to submit a few weeks before of the expiration date as well.You have time enough to file for divorce and have your divorce finalized in Jan 2014 and even if the divorce is not finalized in .Jan 2014,I doubt,you still can submit I-751 waiver and around May/June Uscis will send you and RFE asking the divorce decree and you have 87 days to submit,as you can see you have a lot of months ahead .I would say that you have 80% of chances to prove bonafide marriage and 50% to prove mental abuse. You can tell your story why you are divorcing in your waiver but the base for filing I-751 I suggest bonafide marriage instead ntal abuse,but it's up to you. If he had 2 houses rented in his name when still having a marital relationship with you then you may be in trouble to renew your green card since sharing 1commune residence is mandatory..

Thank you very much Sandranj, the only rent house in his name and my name is our apt, and he own another house for summer long time ago before marriage, the third apt not in his name, it's his girl friend name.

Do u think that the best option to me to take the medication from the psychiatrist and stay the same way and file together, or just go for contested divorce right now, cause he will not sign uncontested divorce, plus I will be in danger once I ask him for that.

Edited May 6, 2013 by Ch hope

[Ch hope 0]

But on the other side his girlfriend apt and his summer house are his billing addresses.