Vawa part3

[lorphelpme 9]

I very much agree with Panama Guy i was going to say something too earlier but I did not, maybe I should have but SingleDad you are beind very negative and not encouraging and at the same time I think you are just wrong on a lot of things, the only person should be giving that kind of advice is sandranj - the only one here with multiple approved cases. The rest of us have just one approved case - and singledad I dont know if you got your yet but i hope yours will also be approved if not. PanamaGuy, your case is very similar to mine I relied heavily on my own affidavit which was actually 50 pages. I had NO psychological report from a professional. I did not take photos of bruises or swollen bloody face or any of the other 'typical' things that singledad seems to think are the ONLY things that count. Please singledad, you are going overboard I would love to be able to help panamaguy but I am too overwhelmed by your posts that it deters me from doing so. I beleive Panamaguy will be successful and trust me I have been there too and the very last thing that would have helped me when I first came here would be to get one of your responses on my case - i would still be where i was if that happened. I dont mean to sound harsh but its getting a little scary to read it all.

Oh and panamaguy - unless there is a court order to say you CANT take your child, then there is no court order to enforce.

I think you should help just like others here has helped you don't let anyone prevent you from doing so. Because you would not want someone to be in a position to help you and wouldn't . Good luck with everything

[PANAMA-GUY 21]

Just my two cents singledad if you have no information that will help panam guy then why be at him. It comes across like you have something against his case ( no pun intended). This forum is to help people in a positive way if you think that his case is not strong then feel free to say but at the end of the day is his choice to move forward. It comes across that you are frustrating him and i personally don't think this forum is for that at all. everybody situation is different it doesn't mean because you did something a certain way doesn't mean someone else has to do it that way. Live and let live. Let him do wat he thinks is best for him. Everybody deal with abuse differently some people can walk away easier than other and it makes it even harder for others when kids are involve. That's just my two cents don't be offended in any way.

thanks lordhelpme

it make me stronger now. after singledad2usc messages i alomost start to think that maybe everything that is happening in my case is normal and the things that my wife is doing is normal. thats for you to see how vulnerable someone can get when live comes on you to strong. thank you again to help me see that what is happening to me is not normal and i have to keep the fight.

thank you

[lorphelpme 9]

thanks lordhelpme

it make me stronger now. after singledad2usc messages i alomost start to think that maybe everything that is happening in my case is normal and the things that my wife is doing is normal. thats for you to see how vulnerable someone can get when live comes on you to strong. thank you again to help me see that what is happening to me is not normal and i have to keep the fight.

thank you

Keep on fighting if you need help in anything we are here to help or just direct your question to sandranj or private message her. Good luck with everything

[Faithkeeper 25]

PANAMAGUY just consult with Sandranj and your lawyer as to.the best options regarding your case I have to agree this forum is for one of encouragement and good consul. We are all on this visa journey together so lets life each other spirits up!

[PANAMA-GUY 21]

I very much agree with Panama Guy i was going to say something too earlier but I did not, maybe I should have but SingleDad you are beind very negative and not encouraging and at the same time I think you are just wrong on a lot of things, the only person should be giving that kind of advice is sandranj - the only one here with multiple approved cases. The rest of us have just one approved case - and singledad I dont know if you got your yet but i hope yours will also be approved if not. PanamaGuy, your case is very similar to mine I relied heavily on my own affidavit which was actually 50 pages. I had NO psychological report from a professional. I did not take photos of bruises or swollen bloody face or any of the other 'typical' things that singledad seems to think are the ONLY things that count. Please singledad, you are going overboard I would love to be able to help panamaguy but I am too overwhelmed by your posts that it deters me from doing so. I beleive Panamaguy will be successful and trust me I have been there too and the very last thing that would have helped me when I first came here would be to get one of your responses on my case - i would still be where i was if that happened. I dont mean to sound harsh but its getting a little scary to read it all.

Oh and panamaguy - unless there is a court order to say you CANT take your child, then there is no court order to enforce.

thanks you 37shells

something is hard to do things when you feel like a prisoner and afraid of the security guards. and thats how i feel with my wife, i m afraid even to talk close to her because i fear that she will not what i say and do something crazy. My wife is very smart with somethings, she never hit me to leave marks or anythign because she knows that will affect her if i call the cops, and she will loose the rights, she is the kind that plays the victim and make everyone else look bad. sometimes when my neighbor talk to me by the garage when i come in from work, she comes outside and talk to him like nothing is abnormal, she even give a kiss and call me baby ,ask how was my day at work, she act so normal, because she figure that if she needs to go to court ,she can ask them to testify in her favor. but what she does not know is that the neighbor know how she act and what she do.

my neighbor and his wife saw her with some guys in the pool at the house , they was all high and she dont even know what she was doing, i got a call from them at work , telling me to ask them to stop cursing and make noise at the the house. I asked them to call the police but they was afraid to do. and thats why i created a room at my office for my dautgher and the nanny so they can spend the day around me while I work , and my daugther is away from her and her parties.

Till my case is approved I will keep it this way.

Edited April 29, 2013 by PANAMA-GUY

[PANAMA-GUY 21]

Keep on fighting if you need help in anything we are here to help or just direct your question to sandranj or private message her. Good luck with everything

thank you very much, i really appreciate it.

[PANAMA-GUY 21]

Hi SANDRANJ

I don't know if you have followed the last messages that I posted, but I would like to hear your input as the experience you have with VAWA cases.

Do you think that I may be over reacting with what is happening with me and my wife, that is not mental,financial abuse?

I do feel very strong with my case and even my wife father support me to file vawa and try to break away from her.

thanks

[PANAMA-GUY 21]

Hi SandraNJ

I sent you a private message to your inbox here on VJ

thanks

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Do i believe Panamaguy is suffering mental abuse and financial abuse?HELL YES , does he have enough proof/evidences ? I can't t answer that because I did not see his file.Does my opinion matter? hell no. Uscis have well trained adjudicators, but i believe you have a vawa case.

You guys are not victims, you are survivors.I f you were battered or suffered mental abuse and you can prove that Vawa Unit will see both cases in the same way.Who was battered does not have a better case than who was mentally abused. We should be here to exchange/provide informations and light up the dark.I read long time ago that ' A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success".

Edited April 29, 2013 by sandranj

[somone 6]

Unless Singledad is a uscis immigration officer working on vawa cases , I think that like the rest of us NOBODY should solely rely on posts from this forum to guess what their chances are !....

Panamaguy...dude, chill for a second and let the haters hate !

Only the Lord is in control and don't let anybody make you forget that...EVER !!!

God bless you !

[Kittykitty1234 2]

Panama guy. My case is a little similar to yours. I understand it's such hassle dealing with drug addicts. Its like you are talking to wall . matter of fact its even worse most of times. He would spent so much money on drugs. I wish i could've helped my soon-to-be ex husband to get into the rehab even after we are seperated already.

Anyway. Be strong, hope you and your little baby stay safe.

[indianguyyyy 0]

panamaguy have you asked your lawyer about EB5- through I-140??

meanwhile you will get result for I-360. I hope you will get approval soon...

[Imperium 81]

I am sorry for induction here. As far as I know financial abuse itself is not sufficient ground for VAWA approval. I am sure panama guy! You have been abused financially but there must have been emotional or psychological affects as well.

I read you post else where that " she try to poison you food" if I am recalling it right. Presumption is that you have been to certain degree controlled and you must show sign of abuse afterwords( cause to effect ).

I think SingleDad is trying to resurface this issue of emotional or psychological abuse as a primary not supplemental factor.

In the end of course you are the victim regardless of type of suffering. However you should focus on emotional or psychological abuse as primary and financial as a supplemental to the former.

I am just trying to rectify how we can assess and suggest you without harsh feeling.

Edited April 29, 2013 by CASE2011

[optimisticchic 7]

@case2011, financial abuse is enough for VAWA approval. There is a gal here called Fehevarig who filed her VAWA in 2010 for financial abuse and to make matters be dramamtic got approval within 2months. She comes to the forum from time to time so I guess she will post something when shesees this . I will look for the link and post soon.

@singledad......, how soon you forget people where condemn you in your former posts about a false claim on VAWA and now you do the same thing to Panama-guy. nobody here to judge anyone. Let support each others and leave the judging to God first and Vermont second.

[lorphelpme 9]

As far as am concern that's wat vawa is about being abused she is abusing him mentally because he feels obligated to her where as No one shouldn feel obligated to no one. It is a mental hold on him hence the reason why he doesn't want to take certain steps. The io knows its hard to come up with evidence because no one is(I would hope) is entering in a relationship premeditating abuse and start collecting evidence while married. When I got my rfe there was stuff they ask me I didn't have I just explained on a written affidavit why I didn't have it and I was still approved. I had no authorities paper I had affidavits,physiological report and proof of bonfide marriage.