Vawa part3

[Sandra G. 5,051]

sissi1026 can you get some bank statements spanning the time you lived together?, but I think you are good. Do you have any paper from the Court regarding alimony or child support? if yes take the copies with you.

[Ssisi1026 0]

Sandra how can I get copy of tax return of previous year I had Itin number and we could filed taxes together I checked and just had 2008 but I need 2009 ....

Please if somebody have the number that I can call would be great....please help

[indianguyyyy 0]

Sandra how can I get copy of tax return of previous year I had Itin number and we could filed taxes together I checked and just had 2008 but I need 2009 ....

Please if somebody have the number that I can call would be great....please help

Order IRS Tax Return Transcript (Option Fax) otherwise it will send to address located on file.

http://www.irs.gov/Individuals/Order-a-Transcript

[howtosurvive 43]

Hi everyone I'm new to the site but have been reading the thread for the past week. I must say congratulation to everyone who have been approved and I wish endurance on all who are still waiting faith open many door so don't give up or give in a green card is the least if you have overcome abuse. The emotional aspects of the abuse is worst than the physical abuse caz time heal wounds not memories.

I have a case at VSC even though my journey just started I'm going to try and remain diligent and patient. Here's my story; Myhusband and I met in june 2011 we marry june 1,2012 exactly a year later. We move in in the middle of june to a brand new apartment with me being the lease holder since I had a better job and a good credit. The first week went well the his sister came up from the south to visit and that same they I went in his phone and realize he was cheating on me with a coworker. I confronted him and we got into a fight. He's 206lb that time I was 114lb. His sister walked in and heard him fighting me and part us. A couple days later I found out I was pregnant total left field since I just finish nursing school bought a brand new car and had a nice job, was not interested in a baby Caz I was just 23 turning 24. Anywsys he convinced me to keep the pregnancy since it was both of us first child so I did. By mid July the cops were called to my apt over 3 times Caz he was very violent and disrespectful to me. One morning I was getting ready to go for my prenatal check up and he woke up and started fighting me Caz I never told him in advance. He punch me up and slammed me on the floor and the cops arrested him. And I end up bailing him Caz I still loved him (still paying the bail Caz he refuse to pay it). On one occasion he beat me up burst my lips and lock both of us in the bathroom running the pipe while beating on me so no one could here I was almost 3months pregnant. I got a retraining order which he still continue to violate even though he was arrested. When I was eight months pregnant he came home drunk (24 years old) and started going through my phone there was a couple voice mail that I didn't listen and he wanted to listen them but because it requires a password he started to fight me Caz I refused to give him the password he beat me up so bad on Feb 8 of this year I still cry thinking abt it. He said he's going beat me up real bad Caz I always get him arrested I never cover for him. He spot in my face once and in my 9th month he started beating on me and I grab a knife insisting I was going to kill him if he put his on on me again. Thank good for Jesus I had my daughter two weeks ago and she's healthy and thriving. When I was in labor he call me the (b) word. So sad!

My case was filed on January 4 2013, got no on Feb 17 biometric on March 8 did a walk in Caz the appt was too close to my due date. Received Ead last Friday. I got a very experience lawyer with a lot of approved cases. All I do is give him my evidence and pay 1000 part payment. He knows that I'm the only one paying all the bills and I have no family just a aunt here. My mom died when I was a baby and my dad is a douche. I'm happy at the pace NY case is going and I'm prepared to wait been in American for almost 5 years just happy I can work legally even though I always had a job.

I submitted Final Restrained order which he still violate since they never took his keys.

My marriage certificate

Joint lease

My affidavit and one from my best friend since he always call her and curse her out or call her so she can hear him beating up me.

Pics off my camera since he broke my phone.

His birth certificate he was born here.

My due date slip

And police report and a state police clearance.

I'm so embarrassed I only told my aunt, lawyer and NY best friend but every one in my building knows Caz he drag me out the apt push me in the elevator and tried to kick me out the building in the middle of the night in four inches of snow but the super and security stopped him at which time he kick me off the steps and I fell this was when I was eight months pregnant. If I get my hair and nails done he fight me and break my nails sometimes break off even my own nail my left middle finger currently have no nail since Feb 8. He even pull my weave out with chunks of my hair. I'm a mair image of what I once looked like thanks to him. He calls me an immigrant spick!

I have a long rough story.

[Sandra G. 5,051]

sisis1026 as far I know the IRS can just fax over the last 3 IRS transcripts,if you need 2009 you have to go to the IRS office to a copy ok.To get by fax the last 3 years call 1-800-829-1040.

[Sandra G. 5,051]

howtosurvive I am really sorry for everything you suffered, and you need to know it wasn't your fault.He is an evil man.If you didn't start therapy yet I recommend you start asap.It's extremely important to have some counseling to overcome all suffering and to understand yourself better and to develop some mechanisms not to stay one single day in a violent environment anymore.He hurt you physically and abused you mentally but he could not break your spirit.Realize that you are a strong and deserving human being. You are a survivor.

I know you have a child with him, but Uscis say you have to prove commingling finances and commune residence as well.Did you have a joint bank account? did you file joint tax return? .You should try to get an affidavit with the security guard that saw him battering you. File for divorce based in domestic violence. Did you file for child support? Find a good lawyer to represent you in family Court. He is violent and he should never be alone with your child.

Edited April 4, 2013 by sandranj

[howtosurvive 43]

howtosurvive I am really sorry for everything you suffered, and you need to know it wasn't your fault.He is an evil man.If you didn't start therapy yet I recommend you start asap.It's extremely important to have some counseling to overcome all suffering and to understand yourself better and to develop some mechanisms not to stay one single day in a violent environment anymore.He hurt you physically and abused you mentally but he could not break your spirit.Realize that you are a strong and deserving human being. You are a survivor.

I know you have a child with him, but Uscis say you have to prove commingling finances and commune residence as well.Did you have a joint bank account? did you file joint tax return? .You should try to get an affidavit with the security guard that saw him battering you. File for divorce based in domestic violence. Did you file for child support? Find a good lawyer to represent you in family Court. He is violent and he should never be alone with your child.

We file joint return this year. I have a great lawyer very experience and assuring. We have a lease in both of us name we have bills at the same address. He on my phone contract. No he still living in the apt with me even though I have a restrained order he said he has no where to go and yes on the lease. I'm waiting to move in June when the lease end as to not mess up my credit any worst. He's violent when I was four days postpartum I as him to follow me to my daughters doc appt to follow up her billirubin Caz I shouldn't lift the car sear so soon. When I was driving he started sticking his finger down my ears Caz we had an aguement and he was slapping away my hand while I was driving with the baby in the car. He putting my daughter's life at risk.

[Sandra G. 5,051]

howtosurvive you did not ask my opinion but i will give anyway, you are responsible for your child's safety and if he is still living in your house is because you are allowing. This is the United States of America, there is no way on earth he will be living under the same roof if you call the cops.You said he was arrested and came back, then you should call the cops again or for God sake change the freaking door locks. After ignoring the restraining order twice they will put him in close custody until he complies with such requirement. This man can kill you and kill your child as well. As a mother I can kill to protect and defend my children.

Edited April 4, 2013 by sandranj

[BUTTERnFIREFLIES 2]

Howtosurvive if you love your daughter and you, you must NOT let him in the house or near you and your daughter ebecause entually if you DO NOTHING TO PREVENT YOUR CHILD FROM HARM, your child will be removed from you to Foster care for her own safety.

I am not trying to scare you, but you have to stand up for you and your daughter.

[BUTTERnFIREFLIES 2]

Reread your own words, you are putting your child in danger by letting him near you and your daughter.

You need to do something to end this NOW or when it came to divorce and custody you will loose the custody just like him for not protecting your child.

[finally26122012 20]

HI SANDRANJ GOOD MORNING I JUST GOT OFF WORK AND IS ABLE TO REPLY TO YOU MY UPPDATES SAYS THAT MY I-1485 FORM HAS BEEN TRANSFERED TO MY LOCAL OFFICE SINCE DECEMBER 26TH, 2012, SO IS IT NOT OUT OF PROCESSING TIME HAS ITS BEEN OVER 100 HUNDRED DAYS NOW

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Question: howtosurvive mentions "restraining order", but not saying enough. Is the order "full" (not allowing any contact) or "limited" (not to harass you)? Has the husband, on his part, ever had any order against her? Just by reading, I get the feeling that the situation in that apartment is not one-way...

Butter brings up Child Protective Services appropriately: in my case, they were not allowing me to keep the children - as long as I let my wife be still present in the house... Children were placed into foster care, until Family Court Judge ruled discharge into my care - which took a year to accomplish. I co-operated fully, and they are still supervising/helping many years later. But they were highly adversarial at first, as long as I was willing to give marriage another chance...They don't allow a child in a DV household even a day

[howtosurvive 43]

Its a no contact order. I called the cops so many times and if I called from the apt he leaves and if I leave the appt and call he never open the door when the cops come. One cop said I was trifling because his name is also on the lease not factoring the FRO. Its one sided. I'm very petite he's very muscular how can I abuse him. He never ever said I abuse him one judge read my file and said I was no match for him. We have several case in court. He said he's going to tell USCIS that I was working so my lawyer advised me to resign. When u have a new born baby its not easy to do much especially when its still cold. I'm going to move once the lease expires things take time its not easy as it sound. "Rome wasn't built in a day". I will protect my daughter till the day I die. She's all I have and it breaks my hear to know that she's going to grow up without a father.

[BUTTERnFIREFLIES 2]

I know it ' s hard now but I will tell you what my therapist told me before" the date you left him, the World doesnt end," " your daughter is better growing up without an abusive role model than one she calls Dad who hurts her mother and her."

Also I have a friend who suffered domestic violence for 28 years and decided to end it but her children have suffered emotionallyand her reason was just because she felt like you right now... Her children needed a Dad. But turn our They didnt, dont and never will. She suggested me to end it before the hildren could even remember or have to suffer along with you ir witness the abuse.

We are here to help you... You will be fine....

I know it ' s hard now but I will tell you what my therapist told me before" the date you left him, the World doesnt end," " your daughter is better growing up without an abusive role model than one she calls Dad who hurts her mother and her."

Also I have a friend who suffered domestic violence for 28 years and decided to end it but her children have suffered emotionally and her reason was just because she felt like you right now... Her children needed a Dad. But turn out they didnt, doesnt And never will

She suggested me to end it before the children could even remember or have to suffer along with you or witness abuse.

We are here to help you... You will be fine....

Sorry for my so called smart phone typo.

[liveurlife 0]

Did Liveyrlife get his/her GC yet?

Oh guys, i've been very busy.Yes, i got my green card in hand now.It arrived since the 16th march.I was interviewed on feb 25th, approved and have been a residence since march 6th.Card mailed out on the 12th march.

By the way, i love my GC & i loved the picture used, i really rocked that pic.I remember closing my eyes several times during my biometrics appointment, after several attempts, we got some nice pics and i chose this one with me smiling.

Congrats to all who got approved and to those waiting for interviews.