I got a call from consulate

[Tough_Era 71]

I have a question for you zagray....Why are you here? You said before you don't have a religion nor pray, so why speak of the Prophet Mohammed if you have no religion?

never said that.

You copy/pasted AGAIN? Aren't you ashamed of yourself? Can you think for yourself?

I also recall your thread titled something like "older women are the hottest," a declaration to cougar-love.

You and your copy/paste are PHONY.

Also, you don't speak English, you admitted that you and your fiance just communicate on chat. I bet you copy/paste your declarations of love. That is another reason for denial.

In short, you were denied because this relationship and so many other things are FAKE.

just keep assuming things you too.

[kristen_maroc 126]

Zagray, you ask why you might be denied. Then, when people answer your question (even though you have asked it before and had similar answers, and there's a post dedicated to this on almost every page of this forum), you get all butthurt, sensitive, and defensive.

I think you are trolling, and I think that we should probably just stop responding and feeding your crazy ploys for attention. You've proven you have no respect for the people on this forum, no respect for the CO...

[Tough_Era 71]

Zagray, you ask why you might be denied. Then, when people answer your question (even though you have asked it before and had similar answers, and there's a post dedicated to this on almost every page of this forum), you get all butthurt, sensitive, and defensive.

I think you are trolling, and I think that we should probably just stop responding and feeding your crazy ploys for attention. You've proven you have no respect for the people on this forum, no respect for the CO...

Think whatever you want.. I don't need to know what you think.. I had already enough.

I don't like people who help and then speak bad about fiancee who never met her or knew her.. also i don't like the ones who keep guessing why i got denied.. that's my own problem and fiancee and i will figure out later when the consulate of usa receive my case.

And please let the pass rest in peace.. i don't like people who bring it everytime i write a new topic.

You have to stop responding me of you feel like it but don't tell everybody what they have to do.

Anyways, most of them are against me but i really respect who respect me and talk limitely when i need only help not other mocking words.

[kristen_maroc 126]

also i don't like the ones who keep guessing why i got denied.. that's my own problem and fiancee and i will figure out later when the consulate of usa receive my case.

Isn't this what you are asking in these questions though? Don't you want people to explain why you might be denied so you can fix it in the future?

I actually had a conversation about you with my husband a few weeks ago. He sort of rolled his eyes at the whole situation, but put it into context: if you haven't had experience in America or with a lot of Americans, you might think that since we are so "open" with sexuality and other things (as a stereotype) that comments like the one you made about the CO must be appropriate and okay. It might be confusing that in the media, we are presented one way, but then when you think it's okay to say something and everyone jumps on you, it doesn't make sense.

But why not sincerely apologize then? Would you act the way you do here at home with your mother, sisters, aunts, uncles, father, brothers? Again, it's a question of respect. You ask questions and then you don't like the answers so you get defensive.

And you keep your fiancee from coming, which is just a huge red flag. Huge.

Edited November 5, 2012 by kristen_maroc

[Tough_Era 71]

Isn't this what you are asking in these questions though? Don't you want people to explain why you might be denied so you can fix it in the future?

Some people here guess it in a bad way.

[kristen_maroc 126]

Some people here guess it in a bad way.

Some people have experience and evidence and answer honestly with what truly probably ARE the reasons that you were denied. I know you probably don't like the reasons. But people are being honest, giving it to you nichan, direct, a khoya. Trust me-- it's not just you, many people on this forum answer in a way that might seem harsh to people who come.

Because it IS harsh. The whole thing is harsh. It's harsh that the consulate gets to decide our fate. It's harsh that there are scammers who destroy lives to get "the American dream." It's harsh that we spend thousands of dollars and months waiting because of boundaries that were drawn by people who have power, years ago.

If you look back, you'll see that you aren't the only person who has felt "attacked." But you make it worse for yourself when you:

- Refuse to "let" or "encourage" or whatever-- your fiancee to come. I know at this point, it's protection for her and you... but people will be much kinder and softer if she's here too. It might not be fair, but it's for a reason, and a good reason!

- Listen when people tell you things are inappropriate to us. Again-- it's not like it's just you! If ANYONE made some of the comments you made, people would say the exact same thing.

- Don't be so sensitive! If you love your fiancee and are true to her and faithful and treat her well, why do you really care what other people here say?

[teg 6]

You will be lucky if it is only 8 weeks. It will more likely be 120-180 days. good luck

[Tough_Era 71]

Isn't this what you are asking in these questions though? Don't you want people to explain why you might be denied so you can fix it in the future?

I actually had a conversation about you with my husband a few weeks ago. He sort of rolled his eyes at the whole situation, but put it into context: if you haven't had experience in America or with a lot of Americans, you might think that since we are so "open" with sexuality and other things (as a stereotype) that comments like the one you made about the CO must be appropriate and okay. It might be confusing that in the media, we are presented one way, but then when you think it's okay to say something and everyone jumps on you, it doesn't make sense.

But why not sincerely apologize then? Would you act the way you do here at home with your mother, sisters, aunts, uncles, father, brothers? Again, it's a question of respect. You ask questions and then you don't like the answers so you get defensive.

And you keep your fiancee from coming, which is just a huge red flag. Huge.

why he rolled his eyes? it depends what you told him and you don't know me at all, you have judged me like anybody else through what i wrote here only.

You will be lucky if it is only 8 weeks. It will more likely be 120-180 days. good luck

Thank you for wishing me luck.

I hope i'm lucky guy.

[Peace.... 281]

1352159365[/url]' post='5803307']

Some people here guess it in a bad way.

Have you considering going to another immigration website, where they will tell you what you want to hear. You asked, we told, you don't like, move else where......it's that easy zagray.

CO did not believe your relationship was real

Fiancé only visited once right? Not enough visits to prove your relationship is valid

You said your English is not good, CO probably noticed that, and communication is very important, instead of charades online.

Age difference....28 you, 45 her

Your online activity in chat rooms the last five years probably screwed you royally, and all your deleted chats they retrieved.

You received a 221g right off the bat before the interview, this is not a good sign unfortunately. You were busted before you even entered the building.

So why be mad....at all this, it's the truth, you asked, we told.

Now pull your big boy pants up and move on.

[MIBEN 83]

Aayyyy bendito all I can do is shake my head, good luck on your journey you will need it...

[Tough_Era 71]

Have you considering going to another immigration website, where they will tell you what you want to hear. You asked, we told, you don't like, move else where......it's that easy zagray.

CO did not believe your relationship was real

Fiancé only visited once right? Not enough visits to prove your relationship is valid

You said your English is not good, CO probably noticed that, and communication is very important, instead of charades online.

Age difference....28 you, 45 her

Your online activity in chat rooms the last five years probably screwed you royally, and all your deleted chats they retrieved.

You received a 221g right off the bat before the interview, this is not a good sign unfortunately. You were busted before you even entered the building.

So why be mad....at all this, it's the truth, you asked, we told.

Now pull your big boy pants up and move on.

Everything you have written here i was the one who wrote it all to you to help and make me understand things and not to bully me with all these stuff ok? and if you didn't like my behavior, or whatever else you can stop respond or check the topic i write here.. i'm not forcing you to type.. so don't bother yourself anymore. ok?

[Darnell 8,478]

o k !

[Tough_Era 71]

Some people have experience and evidence and answer honestly with what truly probably ARE the reasons that you were denied. I know you probably don't like the reasons. But people are being honest, giving it to you nichan, direct, a khoya. Trust me-- it's not just you, many people on this forum answer in a way that might seem harsh to people who come.

Because it IS harsh. The whole thing is harsh. It's harsh that the consulate gets to decide our fate. It's harsh that there are scammers who destroy lives to get "the American dream." It's harsh that we spend thousands of dollars and months waiting because of boundaries that were drawn by people who have power, years ago.

If you look back, you'll see that you aren't the only person who has felt "attacked." But you make it worse for yourself when you:

- Refuse to "let" or "encourage" or whatever-- your fiancee to come. I know at this point, it's protection for her and you... but people will be much kinder and softer if she's here too. It might not be fair, but it's for a reason, and a good reason!

- Listen when people tell you things are inappropriate to us. Again-- it's not like it's just you! If ANYONE made some of the comments you made, people would say the exact same thing.

- Don't be so sensitive! If you love your fiancee and are true to her and faithful and treat her well, why do you really care what other people here say?

I really like this post. i can tell i can see myself from another view after reading these.

thank you and sorry if i say something bad.

You're right i don't have to care of what others say here. I will try to ignore things that i don't like to read next times. and move on to next levels of my journey.

Good night.

o k !

Good night Darnell, Please don't get offended.

You're one of my favorite member.

It's late here i see you tomorrow.

Good night everyone.

[Peace.... 281]

1352160869[/url]' post='5803348']

o k !

Ok lol here too....

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

So a legit question Zagray. Regardless of why anyone here thinks you were denied... out of the reasons it could be... Why do you think you have been denied?

Edited November 6, 2012 by ~PalmTreeGurl~