Can the Sponsorship be cancelled?

[jaycali 415]

Can she still harm me in any way by telling USCIS that my marriage was fraud even if it wasn't and we're still together?

If your brother-in-law signed the affidavit, he is financially responsible for you until you either 1. Become a USC, 2. Work 40 quarters, 3. Abandon/lose your permanent resident status.

Divorce doesn't even end this obligation, and certainly not an angry mother-in-law.

While they may or may not be able to jeopardize your marriage, there's very little your in-laws can do to jeopardize your immigration status. The USCIS won't make a decision on your case based on a mother-in-law's claim that it was fraud. While it might raise an eyebrow or two, your evidence that it is bona fide is what really matters.

Edited November 8, 2012 by Jay Jay

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Thanks for your advise. The whole situation is screwed up. Three seperate checks are not possible, I talked to my former realtor about it. We are still figuring this out.

Worries after worries... what happens if she leaves on the 10th but doesn't return the keys or just one (we have two)? And she comes back to the house? Can I call the police for trespassing or not such a good idea? I would also call our landlord and take her off the lease as a depended to make sure. Would that be possible?

The changing of the locks depends. You would want something showing that she doesn't live there anymore (such as the eviction letter).. especially if her ID or drivers license shows she does because then she could try and claim you illegally changed the locks on her residence. Spouses can't just change the locks on each other either if they have broken up.

Re the checks... if they're not willing to give a separate check, have you asked your bank about cashing or banking the check with all names on it?

Basically I'd tell her you're not PAYING her to move out. She isn't entitled to live there. What she is doing is considered blackmail. I would tell her unless she signs the check to enable you to cash it and give her ONLY her share, then you will contact the police about her attempts at blackmail. Do you have any proof of who paid the initial deposit? She could try claiming that she paid it all and is therefore entitled to all of it, but with 3 names on the check you would assume that's a 1/3 situation... I would tell her you'll give her cash for her signature in the amount ONLY of her share. If she wants to go to the bank with you and your husband you could speak to a banker BEFORE handing the banker the check asking them to ONLY hand out the 1/3rds from cashing the check to each person.

Honestly she's being ridiculous but sometimes you need to fight crazy with crazy.

[little immigrant 801]

Thankfully she doesn't show anything on that address. In fact, even her SSN is still linked with a Florida address.

I also want to tell my landlord that she's moving out. Hopefully she can update the lease or something.

I gave her all the check FOR NOW but I told her I want my 1/3 part of it back. She agreed. I know she's basically blackmailing me but all I care about is that she leaves.

I got a car two days ago MIL was thinking my husband and me would lose our jobs once she's out.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Thankfully she doesn't show anything on that address. In fact, even her SSN is still linked with a Florida address.

I also want to tell my landlord that she's moving out. Hopefully she can update the lease or something.

I gave her all the check FOR NOW but I told her I want my 1/3 part of it back. She agreed. I know she's basically blackmailing me but all I care about is that she leaves.

I got a car two days ago MIL was thinking my husband and me would lose our jobs once she's out.

Excellent You know, I don't know how much the check is for but maybe if she's causing so much stress and anxiety it's worth the money. Maybe she needs it for a deposit on a place?

Congrats on the car

[little immigrant 801]

I found out that she knows my SSN and I'm afraid she's going to steal my identity and orders credit cards in my name and what not. Also she really did try to cancel the sponsorship. I found the letter she sent off to her brother (my sponsor). I cannot describe how furious and anxious I am.

[Darnell 8,478]

are you filing police reports at the police station, or no ?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I found out that she knows my SSN and I'm afraid she's going to steal my identity and orders credit cards in my name and what not. Also she really did try to cancel the sponsorship. I found the letter she sent off to her brother (my sponsor). I cannot describe how furious and anxious I am.

Has she moved out? Today was the day right?

Re your SSN stuff, you can put a fraud alert on your credit report. I would look into that.

[justashooter 430]

Thanks all! She tries to threaten me and take my husband away from me

sometimes it is best to live at least 60 miles away from your mother in law. in no case give her keys to your house.

[justashooter 430]

whoops, just read the rest of the thread...your husband is married to you. be glad that he knows that. be sympathetic to him, but firm in your commitment to each other. he needs your help to be strong enuf to leave her to fend for herself, but this is really his problem, not yours.

[little immigrant 801]

She didn't leave yet.

My husband just received a text message from his uncle (my sponsor) that he's dropping sponsorship.

If anything fails could I just sponsor myself?

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

It isn't up to your sponsor if he wants out. It is up to the government and I have never heard of them allowing a sponsor loose after the green card is issued. They are playing with your mind.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

She didn't leave yet.

My husband just received a text message from his uncle (my sponsor) that he's dropping sponsorship.

If anything fails could I just sponsor myself?

He CAN'T drop sponsorship. Sure he can send a letter but they'll just ignore it. As soon as your GC was approved he was "locked in". Do NOT worry about the sponsorship thing. You are not even remotely at risk.

Have you discussed kicking her out? She told you 11th, she told you if she got all that money. Get her out for your own sanity. Your husband needs to be dealing with this.

[little immigrant 801]

I know she said she wanted to go. She doesn't have money at this time anymore. She spent it all on... something. I'm not sure on what. My husband overheard her having a conversation with her other daugther to send her money so she can leave today (15th). I really hope she does leave. I'll see what today brings.

I also saved the text message from my sponsor just in case. Thanks for reassuring me that he cannot do anything. My MIL is mostly screaming and threating but never takes any action. My husband and me called his dad who regret marrying her. He assured us she wouldn't attack us in any way.

My hubby and me are going to have a celebration once this drama is all over!

[VanessaTony 3,567]

My hubby and me are going to have a celebration once this drama is all over!

I would too!!

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

As soon as you and your husband turn 18, you can start behaving like adults, perfectly legally.

If I was you and my loving husband didn't kick that evil mother of his down the stairs, I'd have sex with him and the moment he gets ready to . . . um . . . have a happy ending, I'd stop and tell him that you will continue once you have the house for yourself.

Edited November 16, 2012 by Brother Hesekiel