abnormal and gross

[Jenn! 918]

Gee I hate it when I work all day and miss the good stuff

but with 74% saying they are not offended and two days of discussion wy peopleare offended doesn't add up...but then I am not a math person.

Ohhhh Jenn... where are you?

Hehehe. I am mathed out for today.

My conclusion: people are lying.

[chri'stina 190]

Oh, yes, you're a little candle in the midst of the darkness. Please. I haven't even seen the post in question because no one can seem to find it, which is starting to make me think it doesn't exist.

If you are referring to a relationship being called "gross and abnormal", it was said many times.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Oh, yes, you're a little candle in the midst of the darkness. Please. I haven't even seen the post in question because no one can seem to find it, which is starting to make me think it doesn't exist.

If you are referring to a relationship being called "gross and abnormal", it was said many times.

On many threads.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Oh, yes, you're a little candle in the midst of the darkness. Please. I haven't even seen the post in question because no one can seem to find it, which is starting to make me think it doesn't exist.

If you are referring to a relationship being called "gross and abnormal", it was said many times.

Yep it was. However I never said I don't like old people or that I don't respect them. I was also called racist which I am not. NO proof. boohooo.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I missed you being called a racist.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Oh, yes, you're a little candle in the midst of the darkness. Please. I haven't even seen the post in question because no one can seem to find it, which is starting to make me think it doesn't exist.

If you are referring to a relationship being called "gross and abnormal", it was said many times.

Yep it was. However I never said I don't like old people or that I don't respect them. I was also called racist which I am not. NO proof. boohooo.

We can make a poll about it

[Veiled Princess 1]

Oh, yes, you're a little candle in the midst of the darkness. Please. I haven't even seen the post in question because no one can seem to find it, which is starting to make me think it doesn't exist.

If you are referring to a relationship being called "gross and abnormal", it was said many times.

Yep it was. However I never said I don't like old people or that I don't respect them. I was also called racist which I am not. NO proof. boohooo.

We can make a poll about it

Missed that

[Caladan 19]

I read where Bosco said 'abnormal' and then explained already she didn't mean it as an insult but just as 'not usual'. I read where people said "I can't imagine dating someone 20 years older, that would be gross!" Or "if I dated someone 20 years younger, I'd be a pedophile", which is totally true when you're only 25. You can't date five year olds. The poll asked for people's opinions on their own experience.

I'm not getting where they're passing judgment on you or your attractiveness (presumably the women posting here aren't interested in older women), since it seems they're talking about their own choices and preferences. But suppose they are passing judgment on you... who cares? I mean, really, people don't understand why I'm petitioning for a foreign fiancé.

People might think I'm a ####### for not wearing a veil, because I'm an evil Western woman, but really, who the hell cares if people I've never met think I'm a #######? Who cares if someone thinks that a 50 year old dating a 25 year old is icky?

[sarah and hicham 3]

Oh, yes, you're a little candle in the midst of the darkness. Please. I haven't even seen the post in question because no one can seem to find it, which is starting to make me think it doesn't exist.

If you are referring to a relationship being called "gross and abnormal", it was said many times.

On many threads.

so what? Do you want me to say it again?

[Sofiyya 1,687]

It happened long before Bosco's comment. Infact, there have weeks of insults about age difference relationships that just came to a head in the last two days. Sorry you missed it but it was a series of statements that made the whole.

[sarah and hicham 3]

The part that made me wonder is how age gap relationships were being compare with interracial and interfaith marriages.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Age difference relationships weren't being compared to interracial and interfaith marriages. It was what could be said about them that was being compared. Why is it deemed acceptable to say someone's age difference relationship is gross and abnormal (in general, not as one's own preference), but to say the same thing about an interracial or interreligious relationship is despicable? For some reason, I could not get a civil and comprehendable answer to this question for all the hostility aimmed at me for asking.

All are personal choices and to defend smearing one while the other two are off limits is a double standard.

There is no reason why age difference women here should be subjected to insults under the guise of "personal preference" any more than racially diverse or religiously diverse couples should be. Calling one of you in such a marriage gross and abnormal would be deemed hostile, as it should be.

Why isn't that so for us who are merely much older than our husbands? Why aren't our choices respected as are yours? Why should we feel safe coming here knowing that people are holding their noses when we discuss our marriages? Older men don't take this ####### as much as do older women, and here, we have to take it from other women!

You still don't get it? Not my problem.

Edited October 31, 2006 by szsz

[jordanianprincess 0]

You still don't get it? Not my problem.

Did it ever occur to you that we do get it, and we just don't agree with you? You have given up on this subject so many times in so many threads just to run back and keep kicking a dead horse. Can you just agree to disagree?

[sarah and hicham 3]

Age difference relationships weren't being compared to interracial and interfaith marriages. It was what could be said about them that was being compared. Why is it deemed acceptable to say someone's age difference relationship is gross and abnormal (in general, not as one's own preference), but to say the same thing about an interracial or interreligious relationship is despicable? For some reason, I could not get a civil and comprehendable answer to this question for all the hostility aimmed at me for asking.

All are personal choices and to defend smearing one while the other two are off limits is a double standard.

There is no reason why age difference women here should be subjected to insults under the guise of "personal preference" any more than racially diverse or religiously diverse couples should be. Calling one of you in such a marriage gross and abnormal would be deemed hostile, as it should be.

Why isn't that so for us who are merely much older than our husbands? Why aren't our choices respected as are yours? Why should we feel safe coming here knowing that people are holding their noses when we discuss our marriages? Older men don't take this ####### as much as do older women, and here, we have to take it from other women!

You still don't get it? Not my problem.

I think you have missed something. I never insulted anyone for being involved with a younger man. I wouldn't do it, I think it's gross. If I did it it would be against the law. I can't imagine myself marrying someone 20 years younger than myself even when I am 50. That's my opinion that I have the right to say it. Those are not insults but obviously you are very sensitive about marrying someone 20 years younger than yourself.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I'm not interested in what you think you did or did not do anymore, Sarah. And you are obviously not interested in how anyone who sees what you say as insulting feels about it.

I get that.