Usc wife told husband to pack out from the house while husband still ve 2yrs green card at hand

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

1. Smoking "weed" does not make your wife a drug addict. In fact, there have been numerous studies that have concluded that marijuana produces no physical dependence. Some studies have linked marijuana with psychological dependence, but other studies have disputed those claims.

2. Marijuana is decriminalized in many states (i.e., the maximum penalty for possession of small amounts is a ticket). In some states it's legal to use marijuana with a doctor's prescription.

My point in making the above two statements is that marijuana use is nowhere near the big issue you're making out of it. I'm not saying you have to like it, nor that you have to tolerate it. I'm saying your wife is not the crazy drug addict you're making her out to be. If you don't like her smoking marijuana, and you've discussed this with her and she refuses to quit, then divorce her and move on with your life. She's not abusing you.

[Peter_Pan 661]

Who bought you the home theater? I agree, something's fishy.

[Sven Nancy 3]

Good morning to all my vj family, first of all I want to thank each of every one you guys for all your posts and comments

where I was reading all your immigration experience and difficulties from, I thank God for giving me 2yrs green card for my

journey to start in the state...

This is the problem I ve been having with my usc spouse and I will like anybody that have the experience on how I will treat

this bad moment and move on with my life.

Earlier this year my usc spouse was asking me to raise sum of 5,000 dollars for her that she want to use it for something important,

while she know that husband don't even have social security number, she told me to see if I can borrow money from anybody from my country

living in the state, I told her that I don't used to ask people to give me money and I like to hide myself, my usc spouse's mother is a rich

woman, I told her to go and borrow money from her mother, I knew she will not go or her mother to give her money either, Her mother knows that

she is a drug addicted, my wife uses all the money I manage to raise from people for our rent and bills for drugs, one day I went to my friend

house to visit him while before I left I told my usc spouse that I want to go visit my friend, My wife guessed the time she think I may stay in

my friend's house and she text me on the phone and told me to borrow morning 2000 dollars from that my friend and I text her back why, she replied

me that what do I mean by why, I replied her back that what do she mean by 2000 dollars, she text me that I should come carry my property out of the

that she is packing all my ###### in a gabbage bag, I text her why but she never respond again, in the night around 11 pm the same day, I was in the public

bus coming home becos I never have ssn or driver license to drive, I got a call from her mother that my wife dropped all my stuff in the front of her house,

I mean in the street in her mother's place, I went down from the bus to connect my self to another bus going to her mother, I reached to her mother's house

all my stuff was in the gabbage bag and some of my cloth was outside the bag in the street, even my home theater set and flat screen tv, my laptops and other

things, I went inside to ask her mother to see if she will allow me to keep this in her basement, her mother respond fast that I should be bring them inside

then I never knew that my mother in-law is the one that told my wife to push me, after I finished bringing them inside, it was around 1:20 am, I started talking

her mother that this action her daughter acted is strange to me, I told her mother that where I came in Africa that woman doesn't marry a man no matter what

what condition, I was trying to tell my mother -in law some culture in my country and her mother was saying a different thing then I knew that she was part of

the deal, I ve two blood married cousin living in the same city with, her mother ask me if I ve call my cousin or my mother people in Africa this action, I told

her no, she said I should not tell them, after I went inside the bathroom and called my two cousin sister and let them know what their brother is going through

actually one of the cousin brought me to this country before I met my wife, immediately I called them, one my cousin is at work and other one at home, the one

at home told me that she is coming over to my mother-in law house in a few moment, I told her not to come that my mother in-law will be mad at me, my cousin

reply back she is my cousin that she ve to come so we were dragging it , she said she is the one that invited me to this country and anything that happen to me

she will be responsible when people in Africa ask, immediately I felt that blood relationship, I said aunty do whatever you want to do in a moment she arrived

but she never ask me or my mother-in law any question, she started crying, I started crying too, for over past 25 yrs back I never cried, after the crying my

called outside and told me to hang in my mother in-law's house then she left, I slept there that night, the next day the second cousin came there from her

working place, she came in immediately and ask my mother-in law what brought about this her daughter action, my mother in-law to her there are side of the story

to hear, I told my cousin to tell my mother in-law to arrange a meeting wit five of us, but my mother-in law declined, becos there she knew I will bring up the

the drugs her daughter used to in the house, I left with that my cousin that morning but my property is still in mother's house, five days later I moved back to

my wife house, she started telling me stuff that her mother told to push me out, I kept quite but I gently let my cousins to know.

My wife was doing all sort bad thing in the house, smoking weeds and cigarette in the living and bed room, I told her to be going to the porsh to do that not

inside the house, she always tells that she is the one marrying me sofer america is concern, everyday in the middle of night she will start smoking weed on the

bed while we were sleeping, sometimes after smoking that she will put on the music very loud by 2, 3 am becoas she don't what she is doing then

I used my phone to video her several times when she is molding and smoking the weed in the house, I started videoing her becos I told her I will call police for her and she said that she will denied it, so when she start smoking or rapping the weed, I usually pretend that I am reading news in my phone facing her but she never knewthat she is beind videoded, I had alot video when she was rapping and smoking the weed in the house,

She take my stuff outside the house for several times, I later convince her for our interview which God made his name, I got my 2yrs green card, but the next two weeks she was smoking the weed very wild in the whole house and I told her to take it but she was trying shout on me that she is in charge of everything. she

never knew that I got my 2yrs green card becos I used my po box for my mailing address for my immigration stuff, she told me to give her the keys, and I should

pack all my things and leave her house, I left the house last month and I don't want to go back there again, I was telling some of my friends how will I remove

the conditional green in 2014 without her, some are telling me to use lawyer by then with those video and file for waiver as abuse if she didn't divorce me by

then WHILE other friend were telling to go back and beg my wife to let in again so that she will file for the removal of the conditional green card with me in

2014, the told me those video where she was smoking weed will not help me as prove of abuse during that time, that immigration may deny me for the 10 yrs green card by 2014 with without my wife filing it together with me..Two of my cousin's husband told me not to divorce but I should keep all those video that is a prove

of abuse when filing alone, that I will tell them I was having issue with weed she was smoking in the house and sent me out..

MY QUESTION IS, I am not living her anymore so what will happen if she divorce me before 2014 or if we are still married till 2014 but not living together..

Am I going to have a problem when I want to remove the conditional green card with lawyer by 2014?

Are the going to approve my case with that prove of abuse? Thanks

Basically, you have no idea who you were marrying. Wow, what a shame. You should have not married so quick then but seems like you really wanted to come to the US during that time so it didn't even matter. Didn't you see this coming while you guys were "dating" online or phone--know who she is and what she does?? If there is anyone to blame, it should be you because you chose to married her for a quick access to the country. Doesn't anyone take marriage seriously anymore? How about trying to work with your marriage and getting her into counseling or rehab? I married my wife who is a US Citizen, and I made it clear marriage is a lifetime through good and bad, even if one of us goes down, we'll one will help the other to get back on feet. If nothing can save the marriage and it doesn't work out between us in a few years, I'm coming back to my home country (Belgium). I married her for love. Okay, enough of the negatives. On the positive hand, your "wife" may be a pot-head lunatic(still, you should have known who you were marrying). Best advice for you is to get yourself an attorney. Best of luck, mate.

[bigdog 376]

See both an immigration and divorce attorney and move on.

[Ban Hammer 13,527]

Yes I can see my post was removed, but all I did was question the OP for name calling. I did not call anyone anything! Please read the posts more carefully before removing them.

yours was removed for quoting only - that was covered in my initial post. as it covered the name calling by another member, there wasn't really any reason to return it to viewing.

Edited October 29, 2012 by charles!

[Sunnyland 639]

Your case seems to be complicated for what you mentioned. One thing I dont understand... How you got your GC but you dont have the SS #? Why you did not get the SS#? You already got your EAD and GC but you are not working. You said your wife said she is in charge of everything...Maybe thats why your wife is going tru a meltdown.

You said she put your stuffs in the street (TV, laptops etc) but if you did not work, how you bought them? She did?

Did you ever think of going back to your country? Do you want to save your marriage and make it work (if thats possible) or are you more interested in staying in US with or without a wife?

Try to get a job (Something) so you can be independent from your wife. Good luck.