Horrible marriage interview part 2

[JayNarl 3]

My wife and I went to our marriage based AOS interview on the 4th of September 2012. All my paperwork met the requirements and beyond to satisfy the elements needed to prove a legal and good faith marriage. The officer called my wife around 12:30pm. Our appointment was originally set for 11 am. We approached and she asked “Who are you?” there was a clear and evident raise of tone and attitude and we immediately felt something was wrong. She then told us “Get in the first office please.” Then she said, “Who is *****.” She screamed again a few times, “Who is *****? Why are you lying?” These questions were shot at my wife before she could even answer. My wife then said “Are you talking about Laura ****?” She looked again and said, “How do you know Laura *****, who’s John ****, Where did you meet him my name? my name are you lying? Why are you lying? Where are your kids at?” My wife didn’t even get a chance to answer any question before officer

screamed, “Why are you lying myname? Answer the question!”

I saw my wife start to cry. This crushed me in side. I love my wife so much. To see her fall apart like this broke me. Myname is black and I’m a white male. A lot of people out there still just don’t like a white man with a black woman. I was surprised to find this happening at the USCIS. I told Officer, “That’s Laura’s maiden name and John and her are obviously married.” She then glared quickly to myname and said, “myname where did you meet her? I’m going to ask you again!” She never even asked my wife that question. I sat there and watched her say something completely different, then belittle my wife as my wife became hysterical with tears. Then Officer continued saying, “Why aren’t your children with you myname? Where are they?” My wife was so traumatized. I was about to ask for the interview to stop because Officer was attacking my wife. This was when Officer pushed two pictures in front of her; my wife was in such shock from Officer inappropriate actions and conduct, which were clearly unethical and malicious in all nature, that she couldn’t answer who her kids were. I answered for my wife saying that is her sons, name called.

I was so afraid if I stood up for my wife that the officer would become even more malicious. This is when the officer started to yell at me. “I asked her!!!” she said as she pointed to myname, “You be quiet!!!!!”

Then she looked at me sarcastically as she looked through my income, What are you doing married to her and why do you have her son here when you can’t even take care of yourself with your disability?

Aren’t you 29? Why do your parents own your home?” I felt embarrassed as this lady discriminated me for being disabled. My wife and I just need some time to adjust. I am a certified paralegal and I also have a bachelors in Bio chemistry. I am just getting out of school. My wife who you all know as Jaynarl is a published author of 2 books on endangered animals in the Caribbean.

This lady was trying to say we have no right being married because we didn't have a big bank account?? What did it matter if my parents owned our home? They own a realty company and they also own my brother and sister homes.

She pointed a finger at a picture of my wife that she held up. “Who is this?” Officer kept repeating over and over again, to intimidate her. My wife said nothing. I was so confused myself as Officer just told me seconds before that she’s not asking me questions and to keep my mouth closed. After she discriminated against me, she was trying to tell my wife that a woman in the picture she was holding was not her and actually a photo of one of her former friends, as if my wife didn’t know what she looked like. They are both black. Officer then continued saying over and over again why is she wearing a wedding ring in the picture? My wife tried to answer, but her voice was so weak. She tried to tell her that she was the one wearing the rings in the picture and not her friend. Her friend who was previously getting married was not in that particular picture but the one before.

I answered and told Officer, “If her friends are wearing or not wearing rings this has nothing to do with our marriage.” Our marriage is a normal legitimate marriage we have plenty enough pictures all ranging from different seasons to different places we went and with different members of our family and friends. I grabbed my wife hands. I needed to let her know that I was there and I was at her side. This was not how we should be treated. I was feeling fear and I felt like crying and I constantly told myself (in my head, in the interview) that I cannot live without my wife in my life. This lady was clearly discriminating against my wife for her race and me for my disability. Officer did not want us to be together.

Then out of all my paperwork she grabs two pictures with another white male and black female couple, which wasn’t even us, but rather our friends. The lawyer suggested that in the future whenever someone has an interview and it becomes like ours that the Us citizen spouse immediately stop the interview and ask to call his or her lawyer. Do not leave the office without asking to speak to the district officer to file a complaint. Just some useful advice. Now we have to wait for a new interview. I guess they would probably visit our home, or jobs. This we would welcome.Its just so heart wrecking that when you have a legitimate marriage you have to face this #######.

My lawyer says this is not a normal interview. This officer has no right to discriminate against anyone. Discrimination is not a tactic used by the USCIS. You should never be judged or discriminated by anyone in public office. This law makes it illegal to discriminate against someone on the basis of race, color, religion, national origin, disability or sex

This is just a summary of the interview. My wife was called a bad mother because her kids were in Trinidad. When I explained that we have her son here living with us, and that we are adjusting his status she went on to say why one son? Why do your parents have to take care of her and her son? The entire interview was demeaning and no one should be this.

This was our first interview and we were granted a second interview thanks to the director. We walked in thinking we were being given a second interview completely new and not a Stokes. But we were immediately separated and given a Stokes. I would post a copy of our Stokes interview for you to read.

[JayNarl 3]

SECOND INTERVIEW

We got to the interview around 8 am although the interview was scheduled for 8.30am. Promptly a petite girl around 25 called my name. My husband myself and lawyer approached her but she stopped us and said that she only need me and my lawyer oh and to walk with all the documents. I was neither surprised nor afraid. I understood this was going to be a stokes interview. The interview so many people dreaded. I smiled to my husband and followed the lady into her office.

You see my husband and myself welcomed a stokes interview. We knew this interview would definitely prove that we were indeed a true married couple.

I was sworn in and then she explained the process to me. Never once mentioning the name Stokes interview. I was ready and she started the questions

What is my name? Address? Date of birth? Husbands name, birth date. Do i have kids and what is their names and date of birth? Where was I born? Where was my husband born? What is my parents name and address? Tell her about my sisters and brothers. Do they live in the USA? Has my husband ever met any of my family? How about my in laws have I met them? When? Does my husband have siblings? What are their names and ages? These questions seem to form in succession. But the strange things was that they were already prepared like that.

How did you meet your husband? How long after did you move in together? Who lived with him at the time? Who invited who for a date first? Who does the cooking at our home? What school does my son attend? What grade? Whats his legal status? Who did he live with in Trinidad and Tobago? Where does his biological dad live?

She took a few moments to look over my paperwork and keeping the documents that were copied and placing them in a pile. She asked did i have these in the last interview and I answered yes! But the officer did not look at them.

Do you and your husband go on dates? When was the last date? Where did you go to? Did your son go with you? I see you have car insurance now, why didn't you have it before? I answered " I had just gotten my SSN number a few days before the last interview and the drivers license took some time to come in the mail. So my hubby did not have a chance to add me to his insurance.

Do you guys own your two cars? What type of cars are they? What color are they? Who bought the two cars? Who owns the home in which you live? Who helped you move into the house?

She stopped again and verified the documents. Tell me about your marriage? How many people were there? Did you have a reception after? What church do you attend? When was the last time you both attended church? Who married you? Why did you choose him to marry you? Did your husbands family attend the wedding?

Ok everything looks fine. I need to get two copies of these documents and I would walk you to the door. Do you have any questions you wish to ask me?

She walked me to the door and called my husband in. He was sworn in and asked the same questions. After about an hour she came out and called me, my son and my best friend who accompanied me to the interview for moral support in.She asked them how do they know me and she asked my son about his relationship with his step dad?

She explained that she had all that she needed and she would get in touch with us. My lawyer thought it all went professional and now were waiting for an answer.

Personally I felt 100% confident at the interview with our lawyer there. The officer was professional and never once was rude. I hope this can help others. I would let you guys know just as soon as I hear anything. Thank you for reading

[JayNarl 3]

Our family and friends called to say they got called by immigration as to attest to the validity of our marriage. They all spoke of their love and friendship with us. Today I was enjoying the beautiful weather outside and as I walked back into the house I noticed a black government vehicle drive by slowly past our house. I cannot say that it was immigration doing final checks but we got an approval later on in the day. Yes this is so real now. Thank you for everyone who helped with helpful words. We are approved now and I hope our experience can help someone else.

[ceadsearc 516]

So glad to hear things worked out! People fear Stokes interviews but if you are legit with nothing to hide then you have no reason to worry, as you can attest to.

[HELP me please 17]

Wow, that is insane! I hope we don't have to go through something like that. I am glad that you were approved. Congratulations!

[MrsOyetunji 9]

I'm very happy for you, at last you got what you deserved. Congratulations

[Lonelywithouthim 5]

Congrats

Thank you for posting your experience, it's always good to know and understand your rights.

[JayNarl 3]

Wow, that is insane! I hope we don't have to go through something like that. I am glad that you were approved. Congratulations!

Just go in there and be confident. Remember to pray before walking in the room and even while you are in the room. It should be fine

[JayNarl 3]

My hubby is so excited he is planning our trip home to the Caribbean! Thank you guys

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Congratulations! I am so glad that you were treated properly and got the chance to prove your marriage at the second interview. While you won't know what actions were taken with regards to the first officer I suspect that she will not get away with her behaviour unscathed. Good luck to the two of you.

[mrsGORE 13]

Congratulations! I am so glad that you were treated properly and got the chance to prove your marriage at the second interview. While you won't know what actions were taken with regards to the first officer I suspect that she will not get away with her behaviour unscathed. Good luck to the two of you.

CONGRATULATIONS

[bigdog 376]

Way to hang in there, congratulations.

[mounir412 101]

Congratulations!

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

What a freaking nightmare. Congratulations on your resilience and stamina. True love won again !

[Jason and Shifa 4]

that must be hard for you during the 1st interview glad you were approved

congratulations :dance: