My K1 Visa filipina wife left me and is cheating on me..

[InHisTime 110]

Please don't hedge the OP on. He's already tethering on the edge of stalking and he doesn't wnat to add a violent confrontation to this debacle.

Very right and Thanks Gowon! God bless...

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

Hi "Bri & Mar", it is sad what the OP is going through, but we never knew exactly what is the other side of the story. It is not enough to determine once foreign spouse left the USC -- he or she just married for immigration purpose. It is not right to say the OP's wife just used him to get to the USA as we haven't heard her side. There could be true love, but there are other factors attributed why the relationship change. Right now, you are still in the visa process, you still never know what exactly gonna happen once you get to the US. There are lots of reasons --culture and traditions, money, etc. It is sometimes so difficult to totally adjust life once together in one roof. I could say this as I had been to the US thru K-1. My fiance seemed so very nice to me while he had 2 vacations here of 15 days each and we talked for over 3 years. We never had any arguments. All seemed to be very good for us. But when I arrived there -- all was just a nightmare! I wasn't treated very well especially with one member of the family. They are so attached to their belongings or things at home. They acted like very mean to me. With my almost 3 months stay there I proved that my Fiance loves me very much, but he couldn't fight for our love because of lots of fears. Things turned out not good while I was there. I was scared of how they can be mean to me. I decided not to marry though we already had our licence to marry. I came back home before my 90 days expiration. About 1-2 weeks of stay there, I could already tell that I won't last long if the way they treat me won't change. Very petty things they make it a big deal. I felt like I was dumb. I always talked to my Fiance about my feelings. He listened but it was so hard for him to do the right thing because of too many reasons. I felt really homesick and the more it really pushed me to come home. I had to stay out at the malls or anywhere most of times just to avoid staying in the house and experience more issues with the family. Good for me, I had some cash on hand and at my ATM when I went there so I enjoyed a little of America and did shopping just to lessen my hurts and frustrations. I always thought I have a good life here and a nice and secured job. I truly have loved my Fiance that was why I came to US -- sacrificing to be with him, but it didn't work out the way it should be. I wasn't happy in the US though it is a nice place to live in. I'm a woman who value myself- I cannot exchange it for green card. I was hoping to have a lifetime marriage-- not getting divorce afterwards, so what I've seen around me really scared me off. At least I tried my best and not regret later. I'm back home, having peace of mind and enjoying life once again.

I posted this to let others understand that if the relationship didn't work out -- please don't think that foreigners are just using USCs for immigration. Not everyone! There are truly good people around who have good faith and intentions -- just be nice and treat them fairly to have a lasting relationship.

OP, you may have seen your wife with another man, but you cannot make a conclusion that she is cheating you. I also have met nice friends there -- where sometimes I had to talk to them just to share what I feel deep inside my heart - releasing my frustrations and hurts because if not as if I was getting sick, crazy and heart attack -- but it doesn't mean that I was cheating. Remember, we don't have families and friends near us where we could run to if we have problems -- we are like stranger in America. There are times we have to talk it out just to feel better and make us realize that this is life that we need to accept and be strong enough. It could happen to your wife as well. We never knew. OP, May God bless you and hope you could move on with your life.

I agree, and I plan to try again. We were talking before she came over here and we got married for close to 3 yrs. I had thought I knew her. I know 3 ppl that are married to filipinas and they have perfect lives and have familys, no issues, but I try it, I get issues. but I'm not giving up on filipinas... ;-)

[InHisTime 110]

I agree, and I plan to try again. We were talking before she came over here and we got married for close to 3 yrs. I had thought I knew her. I know 3 ppl that are married to filipinas and they have perfect lives and have familys, no issues, but I try it, I get issues. but I'm not giving up on filipinas... ;-)

Hi, it is good to know that you now becoming hopeful! That is life -- you have to try and try until you succeed. Just learn from your past mistakes and always be positive, I am sure you will find a good woman who will cherish you for the rest of your life. Just be nice and of course know what you really want in life! Don't settle for less. God bless you !

[clueless55 18]

Cover your butt. Start divorce proceedings.

You'll also want to send in a statement to USCIS,with her A# on it, and in detail tell them when she moved out and that you haven't been living together since whatever date it was.

We were married XXXXX

She moved out XXXX

You want to remind them she probably hasn't been updating her current address or status as she is supposed to. Cover your butt legally, that is the best revenge. You want to be through with her 100%, and move on with your life.

Keep away from her, and don't talk to her without witnesses.

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

Cover your butt. Start divorce proceedings.

You'll also want to send in a statement to USCIS,with her A# on it, and in detail tell them when she moved out and that you haven't been living together since whatever date it was.

We were married XXXXX

She moved out XXXX

You want to remind them she probably hasn't been updating her current address or status as she is supposed to. Cover your butt legally, that is the best revenge. You want to be through with her 100%, and move on with your life.

Keep away from her, and don't talk to her without witnesses.

Anything else I should include in that letter, besides A#, Date married and date she abandoned me.... Do I tell them how things have been since we've gotten married and how it all changed once she got friends and a job and didn't need me anymore? What does you or anyone else suggest I add to the letter I will send to USCIS? Should I also send it to ICE?

[Kathryn41 3,205]

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[Ayman___ 92]

A total sad situation

[SteveKarlaMayer 21]

We've been married for 10 months now, and shortly after she got her job, she started having less and less to do with me. I've been doing my best to be the best husband and she stopped being affectionate and started staying out 3 or 4AM at night and going to the bars with her friends. Then when I started to have a problem with her actions, that's when she moved in with her co-worker, she's younger than her and not married, but overall, I've been trying to work with her to resolve this and get her to move back in and she has stopped all communication for a full 3 wks now and now I see she added some guy on her facebook that lives here in the city. She never does that and I have a feeling she's been cheating on me and that's why she doesn't want anything to do with me now. I ended up running into her at the gas station by my work and she bought beer (she never drinks beer) and cigarettes and then ended up sitting in her car talking on her phone for like 10 minutes and then an SUV pulled up and a guy got out of that car and got into her car and I recognized him from a guy she added on her FB. She had posted a video on her wall with all <3 <3 <3 <3. She blocked me before she ever moved out almost 2 months ago, but I had another account for my job and that's how I am able to still see her FB. Also before she left, I checked her immigration status and it said this: Your Current Case Status for Form I485, APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS

Card/ Document Production

On September 13, 2012, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you. If you move before you receive the card, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283

We have not went for any type of interview or anything, since she went for her EAD. Is getting a green card REALLY this easy? She ended up getting it in the mail like a few days later. How does this work? I tried calling immigration and they told me they couldn't discuss it with me without her being there with me. I don't know what else to do? She lied and did NOT have true intentions when she came here. What should I do or what steps should I take if any?

Gather all evidence you can prove that she's cheating and came there with false pretenses. I know it may be hard but you need to spare yourself from this woman because you can't trust her anymore after cheating you after 10 months of marriage. I'm so sorry you ended up in that situation. Move on for YOURSELF.

[rlogan 2,036]

This is the girl who said she did not want to come in the first place, not just the topic of one thread but at least two. One of which was whether he was being paranoid with her complete lack of enthusiasm. Right before coming here they were in a big fight over who was paying an $11 cab fare. Then after she came she hated it, moved out immediately, and wanted to go home.

But the OP would not pay for her ticket. He insisted she stay, marry him, and work it out. So she was going to the consulate to have them help her get home. Within weeks of that they were apparently married and he was back on visajourney asking for adjustment of status advice.

It is little wonder this one didn't work out. The OP is still in denial. She was figuratively dragged down the aisle with her heels dug in. There is no room for complaining about her leaving, finding a boyfriend, and applying for means-tested benefits. Those are her rights and the OP is obligated to reimburse the state for them. I do not relish the suffering of someone, even when they have been in such amazing denial. But these were the choices made, and the consequences he agreed to. He insisted on them.

The lesson others have to learn is that the affadavit of support actually means what it says. Don't go into a marriage when the woman is saying she doesn't want to come here in the first place, wants to go home when she gets here, moves out, and literally pushes you away when you try to give affection. Do not sign an affadavit of support and then come back saying you don't feel it is your obligation. I have made big mistakes in my life but owned up to them and looked in the mirror for who was responsible.

[Bumbero 130]

This is the girl who said she did not want to come in the first place, not just the topic of one thread but at least two. One of which was whether he was being paranoid with her complete lack of enthusiasm. Right before coming here they were in a big fight over who was paying an $11 cab fare. Then after she came she hated it, moved out immediately, and wanted to go home.

But the OP would not pay for her ticket. He insisted she stay, marry him, and work it out. So she was going to the consulate to have them help her get home. Within weeks of that they were apparently married and he was back on visajourney asking for adjustment of status advice.

It is little wonder this one didn't work out. The OP is still in denial. She was figuratively dragged down the aisle with her heels dug in. There is no room for complaining about her leaving, finding a boyfriend, and applying for means-tested benefits. Those are her rights and the OP is obligated to reimburse the state for them. I do not relish the suffering of someone, even when they have been in such amazing denial. But these were the choices made, and the consequences he agreed to. He insisted on them.

The lesson others have to learn is that the affadavit of support actually means what it says. Don't go into a marriage when the woman is saying she doesn't want to come here in the first place, wants to go home when she gets here, moves out, and literally pushes you away when you try to give affection. Do not sign an affadavit of support and then come back saying you don't feel it is your obligation. I have made big mistakes in my life but owned up to them and looked in the mirror for who was responsible.

I agree 100%!

A lot of people blame his wife for this mess. She WANTED to go home! She was unhappy and didn't want to stay here. Doesn't sound like fraud, that sounds like cries for help to me. Something wasn't right and she realized she wasn't happy. Suffering and loss are horrible but the warning signs could not have been more clear!

Reading all the other posts from this OP it sounds like this was a train wreck to begin with.

[martinbr 1]

Hello, i caught this thread and i now it's old, but i am going through the same thing right now, and was wondering bow your madriage turned out. My wife is havinf a affair but still living with her. I don't know what her next move is going to be, but i am preparing fpr the worst. I think she is going to split and have me hangimg. You can email privately if ypu want because i need someone to talk to that is gping tjru the same tjing, thanks, martinbr.

[DJ&L 83]

Hello, i caught this thread and i now it's old, but i am going through the same thing right now, and was wondering bow your madriage turned out. My wife is havinf a affair but still living with her. I don't know what her next move is going to be, but i am preparing fpr the worst. I think she is going to split and have me hangimg. You can email privately if ypu want because i need someone to talk to that is gping tjru the same tjing, thanks, martinbr.

martinbr,

Rather than necro an old post, send the OP a direct message if you have a question for him or feel free to start a new topic. Many people here can offer advice.

If you look through the OP's history, you'll see he's no longer married to the woman discussed in this post.

Good luck.

[TBoneTX 45,537]

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