My K1 Visa filipina wife left me and is cheating on me..

[InHisTime 110]

send her back to phil and ask a lawyer for advice..she just using u..give her a lesson..if she truely love u ,she wil not do such things..i am also a filipina..my fiancee process me k1 and still processing now...in GODS well,were ok..because we put GOD in our relationship.. Godbless

Hi "Bri & Mar", it is sad what the OP is going through, but we never knew exactly what is the other side of the story. It is not enough to determine once foreign spouse left the USC -- he or she just married for immigration purpose. It is not right to say the OP's wife just used him to get to the USA as we haven't heard her side. There could be true love, but there are other factors attributed why the relationship change. Right now, you are still in the visa process, you still never know what exactly gonna happen once you get to the US. There are lots of reasons --culture and traditions, money, etc. It is sometimes so difficult to totally adjust life once together in one roof. I could say this as I had been to the US thru K-1. My fiance seemed so very nice to me while he had 2 vacations here of 15 days each and we talked for over 3 years. We never had any arguments. All seemed to be very good for us. But when I arrived there -- all was just a nightmare! I wasn't treated very well especially with one member of the family. They are so attached to their belongings or things at home. They acted like very mean to me. With my almost 3 months stay there I proved that my Fiance loves me very much, but he couldn't fight for our love because of lots of fears. Things turned out not good while I was there. I was scared of how they can be mean to me. I decided not to marry though we already had our licence to marry. I came back home before my 90 days expiration. About 1-2 weeks of stay there, I could already tell that I won't last long if the way they treat me won't change. Very petty things they make it a big deal. I felt like I was dumb. I always talked to my Fiance about my feelings. He listened but it was so hard for him to do the right thing because of too many reasons. I felt really homesick and the more it really pushed me to come home. I had to stay out at the malls or anywhere most of times just to avoid staying in the house and experience more issues with the family. Good for me, I had some cash on hand and at my ATM when I went there so I enjoyed a little of America and did shopping just to lessen my hurts and frustrations. I always thought I have a good life here and a nice and secured job. I truly have loved my Fiance that was why I came to US -- sacrificing to be with him, but it didn't work out the way it should be. I wasn't happy in the US though it is a nice place to live in. I'm a woman who value myself- I cannot exchange it for green card. I was hoping to have a lifetime marriage-- not getting divorce afterwards, so what I've seen around me really scared me off. At least I tried my best and not regret later. I'm back home, having peace of mind and enjoying life once again.

I posted this to let others understand that if the relationship didn't work out -- please don't think that foreigners are just using USCs for immigration. Not everyone! There are truly good people around who have good faith and intentions -- just be nice and treat them fairly to have a lasting relationship.

OP, you may have seen your wife with another man, but you cannot make a conclusion that she is cheating you. I also have met nice friends there -- where sometimes I had to talk to them just to share what I feel deep inside my heart - releasing my frustrations and hurts because if not as if I was getting sick, crazy and heart attack -- but it doesn't mean that I was cheating. Remember, we don't have families and friends near us where we could run to if we have problems -- we are like stranger in America. There are times we have to talk it out just to feel better and make us realize that this is life that we need to accept and be strong enough. It could happen to your wife as well. We never knew. OP, May God bless you and hope you could move on with your life.

Edited October 12, 2012 by InHisTime

[InHisTime 110]

Listen------------To all those on this thread and the OP. He/you cannot do anything legally but file for a divorce and report her to USICS and ICE. They are the Judge, Jury and Excecutionor of her life now. One thing we must all learn and remember from this,---- is simple logic, "we do not own our fiancee/wife/husband". We may may petition them and bring them here but good ol' free will takes over if we allow. All OP can do is move on. All the the other advice is just armchair quarterbacks. A lot of good advice from what I read. Age, number of relationships or anything else does not make anyone ready or know what the other is thinking or their objectives in a relationship. How about if everyone lived by WWJD>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Good luck to everyone and sorry for OP and even his wife in this case. Beer, smokes and late night out= TROUBLE! Been there folks and done allllllll that.... This is 46 years and over 100 FAILED "relationships" talking

Good advice! we all want to hold on to our relationships, but sometimes we just have to let go -- and still be hopeful one day, InHisTime --

'LSnBigBear' all the best for you and your fiancee! God bless!

[Chris&Lainey 2]

First, I'm sorry to hear what you're going through and I can understand completely why you're upset. For starters, before USCIS can approve or give someone a green card base on a Fiancee petition, the Petitioner & the Foreign spouse must attend an Interview, and I know this for that fact because my wife and I just had our AOS Interview at USCIS today. Now, there's only two things you can do: First if you receive her green card on the mail, don't open it nor do anything except to write RTS (Return to Sender) and Note on the mail: she left and move on. Second, you can try to ask her diplomatically to talk to you in private and talk to her for once and for all to see if there's anything you guy's can work out or do to save you marriage, but base on the myriad things you mentioned about what she's doing to you its look like she's not planning to come back or have the willingness to save yours marriage. In that case just move on and take your time to meet someone who have the right qualities that you are looking for someone.

Note: A Conditional Permanent Resident is normally issued to a Fiancee base petition if the marriage is less than 2 yrs old. Since you mentioned you guys been married for 10 months.

Now, 3 months or 90 days prior to her 2 yrs conditional residence she must apply for petition to Lift the 2 Year Conditional Residence, the reason why is because the USCIS will check on you both marriage and how everything's coin. Since she left you, she wont be eligible for Permanent Residence Green Card because basically she enter's into a fraudulent marriage.

[bigdog 376]

<br />Step #1 = Lawyer<br />Step #2 = get divorce ASAP and don't give her anything.<br />Step #3 = Put it behind you and move on to the next adventure.<br />

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Short and sweet, action plan

[Removed-02242014 19]

And he looks like a Californian which means 'no fault divorce' -- proving anything has no bearing on the divorce. It doesn't matter here. One person wants a divorce, it gets granted -- period.

[rade2rising 205]

dump that trash and forget about her. look for someone who really cares about you its defintely not her. Do not waste your time pursuing her anymore. I don't know why you didnt realize she is this type of person to begin with??? anyways in future stay away from high fraud countries and you will decrease the likelihood of something like this happening again....

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

That sounds strange. The US citizen spouse is required to attend the AOS interview.

yea I thought so too and I thought I was required to attend also. When she got her green card in the mail, it was a totally different photo I've never seen. I keep thinking could have she gotten a lawyer and paid enough to get around it or could have she took another guy and said that was me and they never checked his ID and so they believed her? That's messed the 'F' up.

[Bumbero 130]

So, after reading all the OP's threads about this topic, I have found one thing in common. He posts something about poor poor me, people give him great advice, he disappears and isn't really heard from again except to post another poor poor me comment.

There is some great advice here! On all of the original posts he received the same advice! She is gone, it doesn't matter who's fault it is. It's a horrible situation but it really does sound like time to move on before you do something that could land you in trouble.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

send her back to phil and ask a lawyer for advice..she just using u..give her a lesson..if she truely love u ,she wil not do such things..i am also a filipina..my fiancee process me k1 and still processing now...in GODS well,were ok..because we put GOD in our relationship.. Godbless

Girl,I'm a Filipina as well and I've been here in the US 2 yrs and couple of months now...all I can say about your post is that we really don't know what happened with their relationship...there's three sides of the story: the girl's story,the husband's side of the story and the TRUTH...FYI he can't send her back to the Philippines unless he can prove that his wife came here just to get a green card or prove that she is a FRAUD w/o any proof/evidence which he can present to the USCIS there's nothing he can do.All he can do is file for an annulment or divorce and move on.I'm not saying what our fellow Filipina did to this guy is right like I said we really don't know the whole story .We have no right to point who's who here.Sometimes in our life there are changes,there are things that happens unexpectedly.Based on my own experiences,you will never know what's life to be with someone unless you lived with them.Another mistake doesn't make it right at all,God speed.

Edited October 12, 2012 by Ron and Rhea

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

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Please do, I can give you her facebook info and her cell phone and where she works too. I know it's mean but I'd love to make her life a living hell. I have a few friends that are highly upset cause even americans here in the states can't get a job and my wife came here and used me and left me and I received confirmation that she is with that guy she picked up at the gas station. They got together before she moved out of the apartment with me. Now she's going to use her newly found freedoms and she told a friend of mine, she's going to apply for Medicaid and see if since she says she's living by herself, but truly she's not, she's going to try to get on food stamps so she can just use her money for spending money. The guy is paying her rent and all that. He's more well to do than me, probably why she left me, cause she had a good life in the philippines and with me, we didn't have the best life, but we were together and the bills got paid, but she didn't want to pay any bills with me, she said it was her money, she worked for it.

Edited October 14, 2012 by Kathryn41
to remove quoted TOS violating post

[Bumbero 130]

Posted Today, 01:47 PM

Now she's going to use her newly found freedoms and she told a friend of mine, she's going to apply for Medicaid and see if since she says she's living by herself, but truly she's not, she's going to try to get on food stamps so she can just use her money for spending money.

Contact a lawyer and protect yourself. This could cause a lot of problems for you because she's under your sponsorship.

[aaydrian 479]

Posted Today,

Please do, I can give you her facebook info and her cell phone and where she works too. I know it's mean but I'd love to make her life a living hell. I have a few friends that are highly upset cause even americans here in the states can't get a job and my wife came here and used me and left me and I received confirmation that she is with that guy she picked up at the gas station. They got together before she moved out of the apartment with me. Now she's going to use her newly found freedoms and she told a friend of mine, she's going to apply for Medicaid and see if since she says she's living by herself, bkut truly she's not, she's going to try to get on food stamps so she can just use her money for spending money. The guy is paying her rent and all that. He's more well to do than me, probably why she left me, cause she had a good life in the philippines and with me, we didn't have the best life, but we were together and the bills got paid, but she didn't want to pay any bills with me, she said it was her money, she worked for it.

No, no, no. Don't be vindictive, it never works out for you in the end. Let karma do it's job naturally. Just cut this woman out of your life. Protect your money and your sensitive information that she may have had access to. If you added her name to anything get it off. She may be all happy and carefree now but if she truly has wronged you the way you say, whether it's tomorrow, next year or 20 years from now, she'll get exactly what she deserves.

I don't think there's anything you can do about the Medicaid issue since you agreed by signing a contract with the government that you would be financially responsible for any means tested benefit that your immigrant has received.

[InHisTime 110]

Posted Today, 01:47 PM

Please do, I can give you her facebook info and her cell phone and where she works too. I know it's mean but I'd love to make her life a living hell. I have a few friends that are highly upset cause even americans here in the states can't get a job and my wife came here and used me and left me and I received confirmation that she is with that guy she picked up at the gas station. They got together before she moved out of the apartment with me. Now she's going to use her newly found freedoms and she told a friend of mine, she's going to apply for Medicaid and see if since she says she's living by herself, but truly she's not, she's going to try to get on food stamps so she can just use her money for spending money. The guy is paying her rent and all that. He's more well to do than me, probably why she left me, cause she had a good life in the philippines and with me, we didn't have the best life, but we were together and the bills got paid, but she didn't want to pay any bills with me, she said it was her money, she worked for it.

OP, I am seeing here the reality -- I know you are angry, but you don't have to get into a revenge! That is not good and you are putting yourself into future trouble. Let your heart not weary much and more! You have to move on with your life. As long she is not getting your properties or money or not asking you any favor, let her achieve her own life that she deserves. You don't own her life. You cannot control her. Only God can control it. Have faith in God. I'm sure things happened for a good reason. Have a good life after all.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

OP,doing another mistake won't make everything right at all.Just move on and make sure you have her totally off with all the properties you have or any sort of stuffs.I know it's not easy but you need to move on as that's the best thing to do.If she really did that to you then she'll get her own dose of medicine someday.Just seek God's help for you to stay calm and not make mistake that you'll surely regret in the future.Think twice before you do stuffs,make sure you look at it in different angles.God bles

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

He doesn't have to get revenge. I'll kick her #### for him. Hell hath no fury...

Please don't hedge the OP on. He's already tethering on the edge of stalking and he doesn't wnat to add a violent confrontation to this debacle.