My K1 Visa filipina wife left me and is cheating on me..

[Sandra G. 5,057]

Laser1 most of the k1 visa holders do not attend AOS interview.

[agrabs 241]

That sounds strange. The US citizen spouse is required to attend the AOS interview.

Not really, some files are transferred and processed without an interview.

[ca_babe 129]

That sounds strange. The US citizen spouse is required to attend the AOS interview.

My husband and I didn't go to an Adjustment of Status interview either. I just got the 2-year card in the mail.

[Love's JAA 100]

My husband and I didn't go to an Adjustment of Status interview either. I just got the 2-year card in the mail.

Wow, I didn't know that.

[Cathi 5,783]

I agree with Gowon you are being a little extreme in your pursuit to find out what she's up to. The relationship is over, don't waste time trying to fix it just move on. It's nearly impossible to prove she married you with no intention to stay with you. Being married only 10 months will make it very hard for her to adjust her status. Any relationship comes with the risk of ending, you just have to do your best to avoid it. File for divorce and head back to Philippines for the next one.. I'll give you some advice that usually fall on deaf ears, the less you care the more the girl will want you. I feel like you should have a minimum of 100 relationships before you consider getting married, I feel like you fell short of that number. I personally would stay away from craigslist, that's not a huge step up from getting a bar girl. Think outside the box for finding a good girl in Philippines. Realize that there culture doesn't frown that badly on bar girls which is the most degrading thing I've seen in my life. I've met many thai and pinay here in the US that would never in a million years work as a bar girl in there own country but yet are shaking their @ss on stage at a strip club here cuz it's not that bad in comparison. You're single and free again right now, enjoy it!

this is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read here. 100 relationships before you get married? really?????

[Cathi 5,783]

It is time for you to cut this woman loose and never look back. Stop worrying what she is dong with her life and move on with yours. You have had several posts pertaining to her and it seem the advice people have given you has fallen on deaf ears. Not only that long before she arrived you had your doubts about whether or not she would change her mind once here. http://www.visajourn...794-cmptrsdeal/ http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/388950-filipina-wife-abandoned-me-pending-i-485-what-should-i-do/page__p__5686764#entry5686764

Edited October 11, 2012 by mimolicious

[islandgal 74]

So much ####### in this post reply

~"the less you care the more the girl will want you." This is juvenile advice. If you are looking to have a sincere lasting relationship with a true connection to a woman don't follow that advice. If you are looking to play games and get laid by girls with low self esteem then go for it!

~"you should have a minimum of 100 relationships before you consider getting married" I'm 31 and have dated a lot and am nowhere near 100 relationship. That's completely absurd. I whole heartedly believe you will learn more about yourself and what you are looking for in a few long term committed relationships then 100 meaningless flings (because at a number that large, that's all they are).

~"File for divorce and head back to Philippines for the next one." Really?! You make it sounds like picking up a wife is akin to picking up a new weed whacker at Wal-Mart. If you meet someone overseas that is one thing, but looking at the Philippines as a place to serial hook one wife after another until you find something that pleases you is another.

Sheesh....

[libay 0]

omg..that is so frustrating...hope u cud find someone who truly deserves u...

[Bri & Mar 12]

send her back to phil and ask a lawyer for advice..she just using u..give her a lesson..if she truely love u ,she wil not do such things..i am also a filipina..my fiancee process me k1 and still processing now...in GODS well,were ok..because we put GOD in our relationship.. Godbless

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Good idea however at this point of their relationship he can't just send her anywhere's......like it or not she has rights now.

send her back to phil and ask a lawyer for advice..she just using u..give her a lesson..if she truely love u ,she wil not do such things..i am also a filipina..my fiancee process me k1 and still processing now...in GODS well,were ok..because we put GOD in our relationship.. Godbless

[LSnBigBear 61]

Listen------------To all those on this thread and the OP. He/you cannot do anything legally but file for a divorce and report her to USICS and ICE. They are the Judge, Jury and Excecutionor of her life now. One thing we must all learn and remember from this,---- is simple logic, "we do not own our fiancee/wife/husband". We may may petition them and bring them here but good ol' free will takes over if we allow. All OP can do is move on. All the the other advice is just armchair quarterbacks. A lot of good advice from what I read. Age, number of relationships or anything else does not make anyone ready or know what the other is thinking or their objectives in a relationship. How about if everyone lived by WWJD>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Good luck to everyone and sorry for OP and even his wife in this case. Beer, smokes and late night out= TROUBLE! Been there folks and done allllllll that.... This is 46 years and over 100 FAILED "relationships" talking

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Listen------------To all those on this thread and the OP. He/you cannot do anything legally but file for a divorce and report her to USICS and ICE. They are the Judge, Jury and Excecutionor of her life now. One thing we must all learn and remember from this,---- is simple logic, "we do not own our fiancee/wife/husband". We may may petition them and bring them here but good ol' free will takes over if we allow. All OP can do is move on. All the the other advice is just armchair quarterbacks. A lot of good advice from what I read. Age, number of relationships or anything else does not make anyone ready or know what the other is thinking or their objectives in a relationship. How about if everyone lived by WWJD>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Good luck to everyone and sorry for OP and even his wife in this case. Beer, smokes and late night out= TROUBLE! Been there folks and done allllllll that.... This is 46 years and over 100 FAILED "relationships" talking

Same here. Nothing good happens after midnight .

[Moomin 292]

Since you're posting on VJ, i somewhat assume you want advise that's relevant to your situation. I am sorry things have turned out this way.

Firstly, yes it's that "easy" to get greencard. Only some K1's are interviewed for AOS because they already had an interview not long before POE/AOS.

Cheating isn't immigration fraud, niether is moving out, drinking beer or factors like it. It's fraud IF she entered into the marriage(or entered the US) while having other plans than marry you, or arriving with the intention of using you to get a greencard. If you can't prove that she arrived with that intention, or that she e.g. already had a boyfriend in the US, then you can't use it a proof of her doing anything wrong, immigration wise.

A divoce is different though, when taking off the immigration goggles.

If the marriage is annulled, then there's no basis of AOS. But I'd really not go that much into it. Instead, let that be your SO's headache further down the road when she'll have to ROC without you.

So remove her from any joint accounts or things she has access to.

Some marriages simply fall apart. You can't possibly prepare yourself for all the factors, changes, living together.

[Darnell 8,479]

If you have the mail with her green car in it mail it back to USCIS. You can put it in another envelope with a note attached saying she left (date). It is her responsibility to inform USCIS of her address change if she did not return the mail do not open it or mess with it. File for divorce/annulment and move on.

echo...

In the note - state clearly that you are divorcing her because of her infidelity after marriage date, and that you have no idea where she is.

It may be that the green card will be revoked if'n you do this. May_be...

[Hilt 1]

Yes, it is time to move on and put this in the past and hopefully learn how to read people and their intentions better in the future. Like a few people have intimated you are on the verge of going too far, but you haven't yet. Now is the perfect time to totally write her off and not let her actions drag you down.

Good luck my man.