October 2012 I-130 Filers

[catsutton148 2]

I'm feeling very low because my husband has to go back home this week. I just broke down crying in the supermarket when I thought that I was planning the last meals before he left. I have to drive him to the airport and then somehow I have to drive back home alone. I just don't know what I'm going to do with myself after he's gone. I don't have any local friends or family to go see. At least he's coming back someday. I wish I knew when.

I hear ya Can't stop crying recently! I think it's the not knowing when and not being able to count down the days till next seeing each other that makes it worse. I'm seriously contemplating going over on an ESTA just to be able to spend the next 3 months with hubby - but problem is I need to be here fore the next steps to do all the paperwork There's just no easy way of going through this process

Keep your chin up - I know nothing takes away the pain we are all feeling, but at least we are all in this together! It's nice to have a visa journey family who truly understand what we are going through when friends and family have never experienced it!

P.s. Noticed you guys got married in Aberdeen - is your hubby Scottish?

xxx

[catsutton148 2]

I'm feeling very low because my husband has to go back home this week. I just broke down crying in the supermarket when I thought that I was planning the last meals before he left. I have to drive him to the airport and then somehow I have to drive back home alone. I just don't know what I'm going to do with myself after he's gone. I don't have any local friends or family to go see. At least he's coming back someday. I wish I knew when.

I hear ya Can't stop crying recently! I think it's the not knowing when and not being able to count down the days till next seeing each other that makes it worse. I'm seriously contemplating going over on an ESTA just to be able to spend the next 3 months with hubby - but problem is I need to be here fore the next steps to do all the paperwork There's just no easy way of going through this process

Keep your chin up - I know nothing takes away the pain we are all feeling, but at least we are all in this together! It's nice to have a visa journey family who truly understand what we are going through when friends and family have never experienced it!

P.s. Noticed you guys got married in Aberdeen - is your hubby Scottish?

xxx

[catsutton148 2]

I'm feeling very low because my husband has to go back home this week. I just broke down crying in the supermarket when I thought that I was planning the last meals before he left. I have to drive him to the airport and then somehow I have to drive back home alone. I just don't know what I'm going to do with myself after he's gone. I don't have any local friends or family to go see. At least he's coming back someday. I wish I knew when.

I hear ya Can't stop crying recently! I think it's the not knowing when and not being able to count down the days till next seeing each other that makes it worse. I'm seriously contemplating going over on an ESTA just to be able to spend the next 3 months with hubby - but problem is I need to be here fore the next steps to do all the paperwork There's just no easy way of going through this process

Keep your chin up - I know nothing takes away the pain we are all feeling, but at least we are all in this together! It's nice to have a visa journey family who truly understand what we are going through when friends and family have never experienced it!

P.s. Noticed you guys got married in Aberdeen - is your hubby Scottish?

xxx

[catsutton148 2]

So sorry guys my computer went haywire and posted multiple times! (And I can't work out how to delete the duplicate posts!)

Apologies!

[YA 1127 6]

I have faith that it will be approved soon , i have been postponing my trip to go see him cux in NY we are getting smaller paychecks due to te taxes sooooo you already know its getting harder in ny to do anything financially

[jdba 22]

I hear ya Can't stop crying recently! I think it's the not knowing when and not being able to count down the days till next seeing each other that makes it worse. I'm seriously contemplating going over on an ESTA just to be able to spend the next 3 months with hubby - but problem is I need to be here fore the next steps to do all the paperwork There's just no easy way of going through this process

Keep your chin up - I know nothing takes away the pain we are all feeling, but at least we are all in this together! It's nice to have a visa journey family who truly understand what we are going through when friends and family have never experienced it!

P.s. Noticed you guys got married in Aberdeen - is your hubby Scottish?

xxx

Not sure if its the weather or the process but I am the same lately. The last 2 weeks I have floated between crying and anger and then crying because I am angry. I even booked a trip to go see my husband for 9 days in March. I thought planning the trip would help. But I'm not sure how I will leave him there again. . And its hard to keep busy when you're in these types of moods.

[YA 1127 6]

Yup i feel you i booked a trip and i have been postponing it cux cant bear to leave him there again and come back alone

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Not sure if its the weather or the process but I am the same lately. The last 2 weeks I have floated between crying and anger and then crying because I am angry. I even booked a trip to go see my husband for 9 days in March. I thought planning the trip would help. But I'm not sure how I will leave him there again. . And its hard to keep busy when you're in these types of moods.

Yup i feel you i booked a trip and i have been postponing it cux cant bear to leave him there again and come back alone

Eeek, I am so worried that I'll be coming back mid-May without him. I really don't want to do it, but my daughter needs to go back to America and return back to going to camp and having fun with her friends.

I'm holding out some hope that if we get approved in the next 2 weeks, he'll be able to come back with me, but I'm not betting on it.

[speedwell 224]

Thanks, Cat. My husband's from Northern Ireland but he's part Scottish. We got married in Aberdeen because I was there on an extended business trip. Interestingly I did not have to apply for a separate marriage visa for the UK because I was already there with a work visa that had all the necessary biometric info and so forth.

We brought my husband over on the VWP for a long visit expecting that we might have to send him home early for paperwork (he was optimistic). The difference between a fully refundable fee and a regular fee almost doubled the cost of the fare itself, so we just got a regular fare and planned to "eat" the change fee and fare difference if necessary. It turned out not to be necessary. Compare prices and see what works out for you. Don't forget to be prepared to show your NOA1 and ties to the UK if asked at the port of entry. My husband flew from Dublin because he can go through immigration pre-clearance there and we had some peace of mind that he got through it OK before he got to the US.

All I want is for this whole thing to be over and for him to be safe at home with me. I'm finding a harmless supplement called L-Theanine to be really helpful with the anxiety and depression. It doesn't completely take away the sadness and fear but it keeps me functioning and off heavier drugs for the moment.

[catsutton148 2]

Thanks, Cat. My husband's from Northern Ireland but he's part Scottish. We got married in Aberdeen because I was there on an extended business trip. Interestingly I did not have to apply for a separate marriage visa for the UK because I was already there with a work visa that had all the necessary biometric info and so forth.

We brought my husband over on the VWP for a long visit expecting that we might have to send him home early for paperwork (he was optimistic). The difference between a fully refundable fee and a regular fee almost doubled the cost of the fare itself, so we just got a regular fare and planned to "eat" the change fee and fare difference if necessary. It turned out not to be necessary. Compare prices and see what works out for you. Don't forget to be prepared to show your NOA1 and ties to the UK if asked at the port of entry. My husband flew from Dublin because he can go through immigration pre-clearance there and we had some peace of mind that he got through it OK before he got to the US.

Nice, I'm from just a few hours north of Aberdeen

So just out of interest, if I went over and showed my NOA1 (or even NOA2) - would the prospect of having to return for my interview, etc be enough to prove ties to the UK (if they asked) or are they likely to think I'm trying to come in and stay permanently before my visa is issued? (I ask because I would probably have to leave my full time job to be able to go over for 3 months) so therefore wouldn't be able to use my job as a 'tie' to the UK. Ugh, I just hope they pull out all the stops this week and approve, approve, approve! I know they have a lot but it just seems crazy that it takes so long to approve I-130s of people who have nothing that would stop the approval! In my books it should be 'look at app, yup it's fine, approve' - Haha I'd get through like 20 an hour!!

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

I know they have a lot but it just seems crazy that it takes so long to approve I-130s of people who have nothing that would stop the approval! In my books it should be 'look at app, yup it's fine, approve' - Haha I'd get through like 20 an hour!!

I don't really get it either, in so many countries it is a process that takes less than a month or is an on the spot thing.

[NikLR 13,227]

It's the US government. It's hurry up and wait. It's 9/11. It is what it is. Sometimes they're backwards as heck. Other times they're more forward than anyone else. My husband was amazed that I had a chip on all of my cards, heck even the parking card! They are still signing cheques for things. #######?! I This whole process should be entirely online. I'm very happy I have EP and can do online forms. *phew*

[speedwell 224]

Nice, I'm from just a few hours north of Aberdeen

So just out of interest, if I went over and showed my NOA1 (or even NOA2) - would the prospect of having to return for my interview, etc be enough to prove ties to the UK (if they asked) or are they likely to think I'm trying to come in and stay permanently before my visa is issued? (I ask because I would probably have to leave my full time job to be able to go over for 3 months) so therefore wouldn't be able to use my job as a 'tie' to the UK. Ugh, I just hope they pull out all the stops this week and approve, approve, approve! I know they have a lot but it just seems crazy that it takes so long to approve I-130s of people who have nothing that would stop the approval! In my books it should be 'look at app, yup it's fine, approve' - Haha I'd get through like 20 an hour!!

Cat, it is up to the immigration officials at the port of entry (Dublin/other preclearance facility, or your US landing point) to decide that and no information I can give you is 100 percent. My husband took his NOA1, a letter from me asking Immigration to please let him visit and saying we didn't want to do ANYTHING to harm the pending visa process, and my latest pay stub to show that I could support him while he was in the US. The immigration official grumbled and said "I'm not supposed to do this", but my husband stayed calm and insisted that it was just a visit and that he had to be back anyway for the interview and medical in London, and in the end he was not even sent to secondary processing. He actually did not have any significant ties to the UK to show, and people frequently quit jobs, give away possessions, and leave family anyway in order to illegally immigrate to the US. The most conclusive proof I can think of for you to show is a home mortgage and a letter of leave from your employer saying you are expected back by a certain date. You may or may not even be asked for it.

I notice you also hang out at the BritishExpats site and we've posted together there. I know some of the people there have addressed this same issue... in fact I think I asked about it there once myself. Do a good search there and look at the sticky post "WAIT! Can I visit while I am waiting for my K or Immigrant Visa?????" that is at the top of the Marriage-Based Visas section.

For those watching who are not applying for a UK citizen, the above may not (probably doesn't) apply to you.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

I notice you also hang out at the BritishExpats site and we've posted together there.

Even I have an account there, but nobody really knew how to help getting my UK passport and there was a lot of grumbling about America...so I thought maybe not for me.

[speedwell 224]

Even I have an account there, but nobody really knew how to help getting my UK passport and there was a lot of grumbling about America...so I thought maybe not for me.

Yeah, they grumble, lol. I really confine myself only to the USA portion of the site, and they are pretty nice to me considering I'm the USC.