The Interview Process

[The Mean Lady 604]

Just out of curiosity, how bad is it if when they ask 'why do you want to come to the US' my husband answers 'I don't'?

Because honestly he doesn't. But he finally realized it's only fair to give the states a chance because that's what we had agreed upon before getting married. I left behind a LOT of family and it's difficult for me to work remotely from the computer all of the time so I think he just finally caved and literally said to me 'it's only fair.'

I know you're not supposed to lie soooooo... just wondering if I should help him come up with a slightly more appealing answer lmao

Or maybe they want to hear that because then they know he isn't coming just for citizenship? lol!

[decocker 7,198]

why say he doesn't want to come to the u.s.? why not reframe (in a sense) the question with the answer " i want to be with my wife".

i know that's the only reason orfee is here - because i'm here. i have a son from my previous marriage and even though i want nothing more than to get the hell out of this crazy place - we're stuck in the u.s. for the time being. i don't believe they ask that question to see if you're enthusiastic about the united states, they want to see if you're vested in the relationship..

[The Mean Lady 604]

why say he doesn't want to come to the u.s.? why not reframe (in a sense) the question with the answer " i want to be with my wife".

i know that's the only reason orfee is here - because i'm here. i have a son from my previous marriage and even though i want nothing more than to get the hell out of this crazy place - we're stuck in the u.s. for the time being. i don't believe they ask that question to see if you're enthusiastic about the united states, they want to see if you're vested in the relationship..

Well that's what I was asking, if we should work on his response a little bit.

My husband is VERY straight forward and tells it like it is, so I feel like his immediate response to 'why do you want to come here' would instantly be 'i don't' ...He's not really a people person...

[Cathi 5,755]

He wants to come to the US to be with his wife. I'm hoping that is why he caved, and really why he is coming...

[The Mean Lady 604]

He wants to come to the US to be with his wife. I'm hoping that is why he caved, and really why he is coming...

No I think his elaborate response would be more like 'my wife has been bugging me and complaining for 2 years that I don't want to be here and I was tired of listening to her cry so I finally decided to just go'

[Krikit 1,164]

I responded in your other thread but I will repost here:

The question about why you want to move to the US is not about your feelings. Leave feelings out of it. They are asking for the reason related to the visa application.

[Anh map 2,098]

Well that's what I was asking, if we should work on his response a little bit.

My husband is VERY straight forward and tells it like it is, so I feel like his immediate response to 'why do you want to come here' would instantly be 'i don't' ...He's not really a people person...

Here's hoping that he's a smart person and can understand what the purpose of the interview is: to obtain the visa, not be a wise cracker.

Perhaps you should explain to him what this means to you. This isn't a game and has real world ramifications.

Edited October 2, 2012 by Anh map

[Teddy B 17,252]

Just out of curiosity, how bad is it if when they ask 'why do you want to come to the US' my husband answers 'I don't'?

Because honestly he doesn't. But he finally realized it's only fair to give the states a chance because that's what we had agreed upon before getting married. I left behind a LOT of family and it's difficult for me to work remotely from the computer all of the time so I think he just finally caved and literally said to me 'it's only fair.'

I know you're not supposed to lie soooooo... just wondering if I should help him come up with a slightly more appealing answer lmao

Or maybe they want to hear that because then they know he isn't coming just for citizenship? lol!

How bad would it be if they took your husband by his word and then honored it?

Edited October 2, 2012 by Teddy B

[at long last 58]

How bad would it be if they took your husband by his word and then honored it?

Be careful what you wish for...

Diplomacy is best in this situation in my opinion.

Terri

[decocker 7,198]

Well that's what I was asking, if we should work on his response a little bit.

My husband is VERY straight forward and tells it like it is, so I feel like his immediate response to 'why do you want to come here' would instantly be 'i don't' ...He's not really a people person...

maybe i don't understand your question, this really isn't difficult. he can say "i don't" just add eight little words "but i want to be with my wife". i don't see how clarifying the "i don't" detracts from being straight forward. unless his reason is more to shut you up then to live with you... if that's the case - yeah, he should keep that to himself.

[The Mean Lady 604]

maybe i don't understand your question, this really isn't difficult. he can say "i don't" just add eight little words "but i want to be with my wife". i don't see how clarifying the "i don't" detracts from being straight forward. unless his reason is more to shut you up then to live with you... if that's the case - yeah, he should keep that to himself.

lol thanks.

[The Mean Lady 604]

Do I get to be there during his interview? Or no? I think I read that he can come to mine...

[decocker 7,198]

Do I get to be there during his interview? Or no? I think I read that he can come to mine...

uh i dont know what process you're involved in but, normally only the beneficiary has an interview. and yes you can attend..

[The Mean Lady 604]

uh i dont know what process you're involved in but, normally only the beneficiary has an interview. and yes you can attend..

The beneficiary meaning the sponsor?

They never interview him?! I'm confused now lol.

Edited October 2, 2012 by KDubovik

[Flames9_RN 358]

The beneficiary meaning the sponsor?

They never interview him?! I'm confused now lol.

The Canadian is the one that will be interviewed......The American will NOT be. The American may goto the Consulate and be with the Canadian, but may or may not be allowed to go into the small room where the interview takes place. In Canada the American does NOT have to attend......In other countries with high fraud rates, the American is strongly recommended to attend...Not thew case in Canada

Edited October 2, 2012 by Flames9_RN