DIVORCE 6 times.

[Filipinalover21 5]

Have you met this person " In Person " ?

Yes.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

So since 6 could survive, what do you think you and him have different than the last 6? Why do you want to marry him, why is he even looking for number 7?

This is exactly what will be asked of you at the interview. Can you answer these qustions yet?

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

So since 6 could not survive; what do you think you and him have different than the last 6? Why do you want to marry him, why is he even looking for number 7?

This is exactly what will be asked of you at the interview. Can you answer these qustions yet?

Edited October 6, 2012 by LIFE'SJOURNEY

[sjr09 155]

one of his ex wives passed away.

yes i definitely want to know who have been here in this situation. Thanks.

So since 6 could not survive; what do you think you and him have different than the last 6? Why do you want to marry him, why is he even looking for number 7?

This is exactly what will be asked of you at the interview. Can you answer these qustions yet?

Actually one didn't survive. One patay, five divorced?

Edited October 6, 2012 by sjr09

[John and Ann 10]

Thank You.

Filipinalover21, why haven't you filled in your timeline, or inserted what type visa you have applied for, or put any pictures on your page????

Are you asking these questions about something you "thought" you heard about, or wondering why your Ex girlfriend is moving on? How many people have you friended on VJ?? Hmmmm???

FYI...none of the things you've been asking about or telling people are true....and, IT WON'T MATTER........

Edited October 7, 2012 by John and Ann

[Kajikit 65]

I don't know about the Immigration people... but if somebody has been divorced more than twice it puts a big red warning sign on them, and the more times they've been divorced the brighter the warning gets. Anybody can have ONE bad marriage, and it's not uncommon to go from one bad marriage to another that you think will be perfect only it's not any better... but you're supposed to LEARN from your life experiences. Six divorces? FERGET IT! There's got to be a reason for so many marriages, and it's not going to be a good one. Either they have totally unrealistic expectations about what a marriage should be (you burned the toast, I want a divorce!), or they have confused lust with love. Either way, the word 'commitment' isn't likely to be in their vocabulary.

And I'd be VERY concerned that all the failed marriages were to Americans... they didn't work so he's looking overseas and he's found you - but what does he really expect from you in the marriage? Does he think a foreigner will be more obedient and biddable, or a better housekeeper, or what? Marrying for all the wrong reasons is a disaster even if you don't go halfway around the world to do it.

[RickJovi 81]

Hi Just want to ask if being "DIVORCE" for 6times is a red-flag?Will really appreciate for those who responded.

I was divorced 4 times and everything was okay. CFO will have you jump through hoops as it may be a red flag to them, but they are no one. Just bring the additional requirements they ask.

[thinkerlove0212 158]

Hi Just want to ask if being "DIVORCE" for 6times is a red-flag?Will really appreciate for those who responded.

Really 6 times? WOW i am so confused Something is wrong, got divorce for 6 times, i am absolutely not gotta marry that person... Sorry!!!

Goodluck....

[Frenchican 13]

Leaving immigration on the side, just think about your future with this person. Don't take for granted everything he says.

If you are really interested to build a life with this man. He would understand your curiosity about failed marriages and wouldn't care if you ask him to talk to a couple of his ex.

Like, does he has children with those women? you could ask to talk to the mothers of his children, and meet the children before getting into marriage.

the only way I wouldn't see a red flag on 6 divorces is if he was 70 years old and each marriage lasted 10 years! Is he 70? lol!

[Justud 42]

I know its been said many times here, but i would fel wrong if i didnt say "RUN AWAY" from this.

[khwaidee1 196]

I sense that there may be a prenuptial agreement in your future.

[LSnBigBear 61]

I would say that your best bet is to get married in RP and do the Spousal Visa. Once you are into #7 then all you will get is someone shaking their head at USICS instead of denial. They then may ask many many many questions during the process. I would think remembering all 6 marriage dates and divorces for the paperwork will be more than enough work to approve you if all matches correctly lol. Keep in mind your fiancee will have to know all about your past divorces as they will ask her many many questions at her Interview. I think you are in for a long haul with RFE's if you go K1 route. They will not deny based on 6 marriages. They will question a lot about your relationship now and go from that information.

Good luck

[rlogan 2,036]

Yes.

So you've met in person. But when he comes next month you will apparently be discussing for the first time face-to-face his six divorces. Therefore, he did not tell you about these six divorces until now.

That is more of a problem than the six divorces. This is called a lie by omission. It will not be the only lie, and probably has a lot to do with why he got divorced six times. Nobody is perfect. Especially me. But I told my wife immediately about divorces and everything else she would want to know about me before we even started a relationship.

Look carefully at how this made you feel. This is your future with such a person. The tactic he is using is called the double-bind. Manipulative people specialize in the double bind: they put you in a position so that no matter what choice you make - you lose. He withheld the truth and got you to agree to come here and marry him. Then he reveals his six divorces. If you leave him then you feel bad for leaving him. But if you stay with him you feel bad because he lied to you, and you have these worries about immigration and what else he may have lied about. Double bind: both choices make you feel bad.

Get used to the way you feel right now. Understand that he knew you would feel this way. But he did it to you anyway. This is what the rest of your life with him will be like: the anguish of making choices among bad alternatives. Except it is going to be worse when you get here. Because you'll be all alone, you will have put all this effort into immigration and worry about ever being able to do it again if the right man comes along.

There is no emergency here to get married to this guy.

[mrsean 4]

any logical person would have nothing to do with a 7 timer please do your self a big favor and RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

[abner137 48]

lol.......it should be a red flag for you, or whoever is considering being with them.......