DIVORCE 6 times.

[DoneWaiting 15]

Probably Elizabeth Taylor may have the right answer,

But on a serious note, whether or not the prior marriages were intended for immigration reasons, the CO will defensibly question the integrity and will dig into the divorces, timing, reasons, any possible compensations, etc, etc. You will need to present a strong filing with proper and reliable documentation

Good luck

[A + M 29]

Just want to ask if being "DIVORCE" for 6times is a red-flag?

6 times? The answer is YES.

Edited October 2, 2012 by A + M

[Jessi Smie 0]

He was not the one who starting divorce that what he told me.

Yes and beside he was not the one starting divorce.

The fact that he wasn't the one who wanted the divorces is a GIANT flag that there could be some deep seeded issues/negative behaviors he's harboring. I would genuinely question him on all of the marriages, as you will need to know about them at the interview, and as this is the man you're intending to marry and spend the rest of your life with, you should know every detail about him.

Who knows, maybe he was just unlucky in love....or maybe there is something you should watch out for?

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Hiya!

Not trying to be mean but like I never heard about having divorce 6 times.ohhh boy my husband is divorce twice & everytime we had argument his favorite word is "ill send you back home with one way ticket & let's get divorce I'm like you kidding me you just said everyday that u love me and be with me for the rest of ourlives??!!!!!seriously!!!!!!grrrrr I'm tired of it.

Anyway back to topic seems like the LOVE can't fix the problem so the answer is always DIVORCE honestly I can't trust this kind of character.I understand the love you are talking about.well hope at this time no more divorce & that you would be the last women in his life.God bless.

Masipag

You should be tired of that.

[mrsGORE 13]

Goodluck to your journey but you should know him better first before its too late...

God Bless

[tortuguita 1]

Sounds like all the above posts have pretty much given you your answer.

Although love is most often why people choose to marry, as another poster mentioned, LOVE is not enough sustain a marriage. Not withstanding the cultural differences you both will face (and you will), marriage is WORK, plain and simple. It's worth every minute of it, but I hope that you will take the time to get to know your fiance well enough to recognize whether or not he is willing or capable of doing his part in this marriage. If not, you may be setting yourself up for a world of hurt. Please be careful. I may be generalizing here, but it's just my opinion that we all, to some degree or another, put on our best faces while we are dating and "in the throes of new love". It's the long term, it's the "dirty socks and unwashed dishes" of life that show our true merit and the depth of our love.

I wish you the very best. God Bless.

[Laura&Nando 6]

The issue with this is that your fiance has demonstrated a failure to commit to a marriage (this is something you already know). What you can expect is that they will require more evidence (as another VJer said) of a strong relationship. They may require a second sponsor in the US so that if you and your fiance do split up, you won't become a burden to the state. Your fiance will (and may already have) commit to supporting you (this is the affidavit of support). This is a contractual obligation between him and the US government. If you marry then divorce, your husband can write saying that he withdraws sponsorship because of whatever reason. Ultimately, I don't think you have much to worry about IF your relationship is genuine and you trust him. But, you have to ask yourself - do you really want to marry someone that has been divorced SIX times? Carefully think about what would happen to you if you move to the US, are completely dependent on him, and then you break up. Love CAN conquer all - but don't let it conquer your common sense and planning.

Good luck!

[Tintin and Mike 127]

It could be a new 7 times a charm but I always believed in 3 strikes out

Good luck and hope it works out this time!

Edited October 2, 2012 by Tintin and Mike

[Shiobhan 235]

My girlfriend in Fl married 3 times all marriages lasted over 6 yrs (she's unable to have kids) 2 marriages were to JAs other USC her marriages were real

5 yrs ago she met a man who is in the entertainment industry after 2.5 yrs they were married, now he's wlnding dowm his travels with the band, getting

older, wants to spend more time at home-base with her so she petitioned him, she was sent a letter from uscis not to petition any more husbands, she says this marriage will last its an older person, he already has kids & its not like in her younger years whethose husband went out & got kids.I told her get an atty. Yes

they will look at previous petitions for foreign spouses

[InHisTime 110]

Hi Just want to ask if being "DIVORCE" for 6times is a red-flag?Will really appreciate for those who responded.

Hi! Personally, it is a huge red flag in a relationship, but maybe there is a possibility that you would be approved for visa during the interview if you would be able to answer very well all questions asked by the CO and have passed all requirements for K-1.

I am not sure if you really love him though you said it here. Your love alone may not enough to survive marriage to him. When you both start living together in one roof, after few months or years, things would change because of other forces like everyday expenses, bills, household chores, among others. You may find him nice, for now, since you both live apart, but mind you, there would be changes when you get to the US and live together in one roof. Emotional maturity, patience, and having a compassionate heart help improve marriage. You may want to find out the true reasons why his 6 marriages failed ? I doubt if you may find the true answers now, of course, he won't tell it to you all.

There are people who seems to be very nice at the beginning especially when there is no pressure at all or he/she is on vacation mode or still visiting.

Hopefully, you aren't marrying him for immigration purpose. You might be adding to his bad experiences in marriage -- going to be the 7th divorce.

Girl, hope you find time to reflect in silence -- if he is really the man you want to spend for the rest of your life. Be honest to yourself. I am sure you don't want to experience divorce. It's not easy going through this especially when you are away with your own family. Also, you should consider the implications if you are going through K-1 route as you still need to AOS after marriage so you could legally stay in the US. Your potential husband should be very supportive of you with all the processes of immigration.

May God bless you and hopefully God would reveal to you His plans in your life and relationship. Take care always.

[Love's JAA 100]

Hi Just want to ask if being "DIVORCE" for 6times is a red-flag?Will really appreciate for those who responded.

I'm sure that when you heard he's divorced six times, that it was a red flag for you personally.

For me, if someone's married six times, it's a deal breaker. I don't mean that he might not turn out to be a great guy this time, but that's too high risk for me. In most fields, that's called a trend. The more data points you have confirming the trend, the more solid the evidence that the trend will continue. You have a lot of data points here. Don't sell yourself short, your life is worth too much.

[aaydrian 479]

I think more than 2 marriages in most countries is odd unless their spouse died

Divorced 6 times?

For me simply running away is out. Running to the hills and mountains ain't good enough. My best bet would be hopping a ride with the Rover NASA sent out before it left. That multi divorcee wouldn't find me.

It's a bit worrying considering that a prenup is involved. Seems that as soon as your stuff's gotten enough wear and tear he'll move on. Still the prenup could just mean he's been taken to the cleaners and he's cautious. Anyway, if you feel this is it and you guys are gonna last, at least, for the next few years then good luck to you. Just learn as much as you can about your husband's previous failed marriages even if he'll be at the interview. You never know what could be that little extra that convinced the interviewer to approve or the little you didn't know that had you guys being denied.

Good luck on your interview and marriage.

[Moomin 292]

I'm just thinking about how massive the petition will be with 6 divorce decrees. It most defo won't fly under the radar.

While the dude might have been unfortunate with the women he was married to, it is hard to believe all 6 exwives decided to file for divorce and it had nothing to do with the man. Not saying people can't change, or that it simply didn't work out. Some people rush into marriage and then out again. If the guy absolutely thinks that he has no fault in the divorces, he might be right. Odds are that it's more a matter of not admitting to having flaws. We all do.

It most definitely matters if any of the exwives were petitioned for. In that case, you may have a few questions about it at your visa interview. I do think there will be questions anyways. He has to be complete and utterly honest about his past(and vice versa) since anything may come up at the time of interview.

[jameugiekaxavilon 25]

In my opinion it would be one of the reason you will be question lots. But its not a red flag I guess!!

[jaycali 415]

It's not the USCIS nor the consulate's job to determine whether the marriage is likely to last. It is their job to determine whether a real, bona fide marriage presently exists.

That being said, I'd be very surprised if your case wasn't severely scrutinized, both in terms of legitimacy and in terms of the public charge issue should you end up divorced.

Edited October 3, 2012 by jaejayC