Is this normal

[mom2be 4]

What really is submissive wife??? Is it when you try to do everything to make your man happy before yourself? is it when you let your man do anything that makes him happy? Is it when you are trying your best to show how much you love him? Is it when you think of him before you think of yourself? Is it bad to be a submissive wife?I am really just curious.

[cazzers 83]

I'd really like to hear a guy's opinion on this matter

[puma1969 1]

I get very happy when I do something for her so it works both ways at least that's the way I feel

[mom2be 4]

Yes it would be great everyone's input!

[mom2be 4]

*to get everyone's input*

[C-ma'am 684]

**Moved from Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits to Off Topic. Question is not related to any type of immigration related topic.

[We Are The Art 46]

What really is submissive wife??? Is it when you try to do everything to make your man happy before yourself? is it when you let your man do anything that makes him happy? Is it when you are trying your best to show how much you love him? Is it when you think of him before you think of yourself? Is it bad to be a submissive wife?I am really just curious.

You might start here as a proper point of reference. -

Ephesians 5:22 - 25

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,

27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.

31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Notice the main emphasis in the above is placed on mutual love and respect, there are well defined guidlines for both parties and both bear a great responsibility to each other. "Two becoming one" is the primary goal and by doing so, a marriage based in true mutual love and respect is formed. Both parties are to love, respect, cherish and support each other completely.

There is SO much more involved with trying to explain the true meaning and importance of being a "submissive wife" in the truest sense. And far, far too often it is taken completely out of context and turned into something perverse and abusive by those who have no understanding of the true nature and meaning of it.

I advise you to begin your understanding based on the above scripture, it is the best way to start and I strongly caution you to strictly avoid anything or anyone that tries to take it out of context. Furthermore, the absolutely most important factor in any marriage is....Trust. Deep, abiding Trust.

Best Wishes.

[Calypso 464]

I think there's a book for that titled "BDSM The Naked Truth" by Dr. Charley Ferrer. There's also another one called "How to be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM."

[VanessaTony 3,567]

What really is submissive wife??? Is it when you try to do everything to make your man happy before yourself? is it when you let your man do anything that makes him happy? Is it when you are trying your best to show how much you love him? Is it when you think of him before you think of yourself? Is it bad to be a submissive wife?I am really just curious.

There are pretty much (in my opinion) 2 kinds of "submissive" wives, the submissive "does it out of love" wife, and the submissive "does it out of fear" wife. Both kinds mean the man is in control of the relationship. The wife does not have any control and submits to whatever the man wants, at every turn.

Unfortunately most of the time it's #2. Often #1 is #2 without realising they are. Usually it's a one-sided relationship.

What you're describing is more of a doting wife, not submissive. I would call myself an equal partner in the relationship and that I'm occasionally a "doting" wife in that I like making him happy, but he hates it to ever be at some detriment to myself (for instance seeing a horror movie with him even though I hate them.. isn't going to happen), just as he is sometimes (often) a doting husband. Doing whatever he can to make me happy.

Is it normal? Well that's up to you to decide. Is it okay to be submissive? Given the negative connotations, no, but nothing wrong with being doting.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

What really is submissive wife??? Is it when you try to do everything to make your man happy before yourself? is it when you let your man do anything that makes him happy? Is it when you are trying your best to show how much you love him? Is it when you think of him before you think of yourself? Is it bad to be a submissive wife?I am really just curious.

Why are you wondering about this?

[spookyturtle 9,466]

I think there's a book for that titled "BDSM The Naked Truth" by Dr. Charley Ferrer. There's also another one called "How to be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM."

Pervert.

[X Factor 1,112]

Why are you wondering about this?

That is the 64,000 dollar question

[Calypso 464]

Pervert.

Why? The OP asked about submission. I have no personal experience regarding that so the best I could do was to list references.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Why? The OP asked about submission. I have no personal experience regarding that so the best I could do was to list references.

[taal 28]

Let me tell you, being born and raised in America and then deciding to marry in India...Was a real testament of any submissive woman.

I assumed it would make my life easier to just stay quiet and put my husbands needs before mine. Helped the clean and iron my husbands clothes and keep the room tidy...Of course cooking was not a priority, the chef would do that...

Being submissive all the time quickly ended in less then 2 weeks...This is the 21st century. No need to be submissive. Be respectful enough said..My husband prefered having everything done at an equal playing field. So if he respected me I would do the same to him...

Since that day life has been perfect. But you have to remember that I believe in equality. So that means I will be earning money as well as him. Not just let it be on his shoulders...But of course that was in India... Lets see what happens when he gets here.....

ANd I have yet to meet a man that would prefer there spouse to be completly submissive and always obey him....