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I know many disagree, but I think it's a double standard to view gifts from men to their SO's as acceptable and gifts from women to their SO's as "sugar momma". JMHO.

That said, I never had money to buy gifts, but if I did I wouldn't hesitate to do as I wished with it.

I just want to agree here... IF I had the money to buy him gifts I would! I don't see anything wrong with a woman buying gifts for her husband. :no:

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this is a sore spot with me.

I've tried a few times to send money, to buy him a cellphone, to send him a laptop, etc. Kind of for selfish reasons though only 'cause 1) I want to call him and 2) I don't want him to have to wait in line at the cyber cafe everynight. I make a very good living and never really thought twice about it. I have always made a LOT more than any man I've ever dated so I guess I'm just used to it.

He on the other hand refused each time and now I can't even bring it up because it upsets him. He said it would bring "great shame" on him. I guess it's a culture thing. Not like I wanted to send money all the time but just really really really would like if he had his own computer and cell phone. Oh well.

I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package. :(

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I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package. :(

Yankee delivery driver no doubt. He ran it over with his truck!

:lol::lol::lol:

you know this year is the first year in a long time that my tv doesn't have nesn on my favorites in my clicker. I could barely watch at all once August was halfway done. :crying:

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I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package. :(

Yankee delivery driver no doubt. He ran it over with his truck!

:lol::lol::lol:

you know this year is the first year in a long time that my tv doesn't have nesn on my favorites in my clicker. I could barely watch at all once August was halfway done. :crying:

I thought the season ended in August... :whistle::lol:

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On my drive home I did think of one thing that was a "gift" for my husband. He wants children pretty bad, so I had my tubes untied in February. Of all of the things I could give my husband, a baby would top the list.

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I didnt while he was still in jordan, but now, that were both here, we spoil eachother...ALOT

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Hmmm I brought Hicham a few gifts when I visited along with his family since they let me stay with them it was the least I could do. I wouldn't say I spoil him though.

I have seen some women who pay for cell phones, internet, computers, train fare etc. and I think that's pretty stupid. If Hicham ever asked me for money for that I would ask him "you have made it this far without needing money from me so why would you need it now all of a sudden".

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Interesting topic. Do I spoil him? In my opinion no, but others may think my gifts are lavish. The gifts I have purchased have been high end items (not electronics, but designer goods) and thats because that is just my taste. I have sent gifts to his mom and the kids though. I tend to spoil myself so I won't buy him anything that I wouldn't want/use myself. I sent him a gift for his birthday, nothing for Christmas, nothing for Valentine's Day. But he spoils me alot more. He has sent me about 5 packages so far this year.

Edited to say...he has never asked me for a thing and loathes getting gifts from me. It usually leads to an argument. :lol:

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I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

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I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

I don't think it's lavish. :no: To be honest, I don't think anything is lavish when being given to the person you love. :thumbs:

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When my husband was in Italy, I sent him a few packages containing pretty inexpensive items. I think the most expensive thing I sent was a pair of soccer sneakers, and even they were only like $25. Thats the only thing (besides my undying love) he's ever asked me to give him lol. For our anniversary earlier this month, I got him an Ipod Nano (which he loves like a son lol) and he got me this beautiful and really cool goes-with-everything topaz bracelet.

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I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

By lavish, I mean her gifts have been confused with the booty from an "Oprah's Favorite Things" show. :lol: In my opening post, I was referring to women who buy lots of expensive things + for one man who keeps accepting them but cannot reciprocate in even close to the same manner. To me, it's overcompensating or buying his love. MOHO.

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