Do you spoil him?

[Veiled Princess 1]

I know many disagree, but I think it's a double standard to view gifts from men to their SO's as acceptable and gifts from women to their SO's as "sugar momma". JMHO.

That said, I never had money to buy gifts, but if I did I wouldn't hesitate to do as I wished with it.

I just want to agree here... IF I had the money to buy him gifts I would! I don't see anything wrong with a woman buying gifts for her husband.

[doodlebug 3]

this is a sore spot with me.

I've tried a few times to send money, to buy him a cellphone, to send him a laptop, etc. Kind of for selfish reasons though only 'cause 1) I want to call him and 2) I don't want him to have to wait in line at the cyber cafe everynight. I make a very good living and never really thought twice about it. I have always made a LOT more than any man I've ever dated so I guess I'm just used to it.

He on the other hand refused each time and now I can't even bring it up because it upsets him. He said it would bring "great shame" on him. I guess it's a culture thing. Not like I wanted to send money all the time but just really really really would like if he had his own computer and cell phone. Oh well.

I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package.

[Jenn! 918]

I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package.

Yankee delivery driver no doubt. He ran it over with his truck!

[doodlebug 3]

I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package.

Yankee delivery driver no doubt. He ran it over with his truck!

you know this year is the first year in a long time that my tv doesn't have nesn on my favorites in my clicker. I could barely watch at all once August was halfway done.

[Jenn! 918]

I did send a Red Sox pen once via Fed Express but they lost the package.

Yankee delivery driver no doubt. He ran it over with his truck!

you know this year is the first year in a long time that my tv doesn't have nesn on my favorites in my clicker. I could barely watch at all once August was halfway done.

I thought the season ended in August...

[morocco4ever 63]

On my drive home I did think of one thing that was a "gift" for my husband. He wants children pretty bad, so I had my tubes untied in February. Of all of the things I could give my husband, a baby would top the list.

[dollface41601 0]

I didnt while he was still in jordan, but now, that were both here, we spoil eachother...ALOT

[Veiled Princess 1]

On my drive home I did think of one thing that was a "gift" for my husband. He wants children pretty bad, so I had my tubes untied in February. Of all of the things I could give my husband, a baby would top the list.

BEST GIFT EVER!!!!

[Aymerlu 3]

Amy..your little kitty-chick is so cute! It cracks me up everytime

LOL! Thanks Kara!

[sarah and hicham 3]

Hmmm I brought Hicham a few gifts when I visited along with his family since they let me stay with them it was the least I could do. I wouldn't say I spoil him though.

I have seen some women who pay for cell phones, internet, computers, train fare etc. and I think that's pretty stupid. If Hicham ever asked me for money for that I would ask him "you have made it this far without needing money from me so why would you need it now all of a sudden".

[jordanianprincess 0]

Interesting topic. Do I spoil him? In my opinion no, but others may think my gifts are lavish. The gifts I have purchased have been high end items (not electronics, but designer goods) and thats because that is just my taste. I have sent gifts to his mom and the kids though. I tend to spoil myself so I won't buy him anything that I wouldn't want/use myself. I sent him a gift for his birthday, nothing for Christmas, nothing for Valentine's Day. But he spoils me alot more. He has sent me about 5 packages so far this year.

Edited to say...he has never asked me for a thing and loathes getting gifts from me. It usually leads to an argument.

Edited October 27, 2006 by jordanianprincess

[Bunnyqr 0]

I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

[jordanianprincess 0]

I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

I don't think it's lavish. To be honest, I don't think anything is lavish when being given to the person you love.

[Karen_L 1]

When my husband was in Italy, I sent him a few packages containing pretty inexpensive items. I think the most expensive thing I sent was a pair of soccer sneakers, and even they were only like $25. Thats the only thing (besides my undying love) he's ever asked me to give him lol. For our anniversary earlier this month, I got him an Ipod Nano (which he loves like a son lol) and he got me this beautiful and really cool goes-with-everything topaz bracelet.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

By lavish, I mean her gifts have been confused with the booty from an "Oprah's Favorite Things" show. In my opening post, I was referring to women who buy lots of expensive things + for one man who keeps accepting them but cannot reciprocate in even close to the same manner. To me, it's overcompensating or buying his love. MOHO.