VictiM of marriage fraud

[Karee 4,190]

We married 2.5 years he camt to USA 2 month ago. They automatic gave 10 yrs GC. That's is why he show his realself so fast

Not much you can do immigration wise.

[FLAussie 5]

If my husband who has lived in US all his life is willing to move to a third world country and leave the opportunities over here, why can't foreign spouses leave US if the marriage did not work especially after just arriving within a few months!

I've seen this sentiment so many times on here, "WHY DON'T THEY JUST GO HOME?!?" if the relationship doesn't work out. Every time, I think "well duh" but I haven't yet seen a single USC who's mentioned one of the main reasons people might not leave: it costs major money.

I'm about to move over to be with my USC fiancée, so I'm surrounded by bills and quotes for moving costs atm. I genuinely love him and will do everything in my power to make our relationship work. But if it doesn't, it'll likely be hard for me to leave the U.S. because I can't really afford to do all this twice:

1. A one-way flight back to my country, booked a while in advance, typically costs about $1500. On short notice, it can be well over $2000. Flights to many foreign countries are expensive - hundreds if not thousands of $$, which the foreign spouse may not have.

2. If a foreign spouse brought a child over with them, they have two flights to pay for, not just one, so double the amount. Two kids? Three flights. Etc. (Thankfully not my situation.)

3. I'm bringing my beloved cat over. That's another $2k. Some of us have four-legged family members, and having to abandon them would be heartbreaking. Also: when I adopted my kitty, I made a commitment to care for her. I wouldn't renege on that commitment lightly, any more than I'd renege on marital commitment lightly.

4. I'm also bringing over my few most treasured possessions. Even after getting rid of most of my stuff and only bringing things with major sentimental value, plus clothes etc, quotes are running $800-1200.

I know some people don't like talking about money, but it is a major factor in whether people stay or go. Even for countries much closer than Australia, it can cost thousands to return yourself, your kid(s), possessions and maybe pets. If you don't have the $$$$ and don't have anyone who'll pay it for you, you can't leave. Simple as that.

Many of us foreigners put all our eggs in one basket to be with the USCs we love. So if the unthinkable happened, some of us simply cannot afford to pack up and pay all those costs a second time.

And when I hear the "WHY DON'T THEY JUST LEAVE?!?" brigade get started on here, I wonder how much they truly understood what their foreign partner has gone through and sacrificed to be with you... and if your perspective is, "they're getting a GC off me, they better be soooo grateful", not "they're leaving behind their whole life for me, wow", I can see why the relationship mightn't work out.

I'm not singling you out, ca_babe, I've seen heaps of people post the same sentiment.

It just perplexes me why the sheer immediate financial cost of paying for tickets home for themselves, kid(s), maybe pets, and whatever treasured possessions they brought with them, never seems to be mentioned when relationships that didn't work come up...

[TBoneTX 45,663]

The OP hasn't logged on to VJ in 2 years, and the member mentioned in the above post hasn't logged on for 14 months. Everyone is asked to please check such things before posting. Old thread closed.