VISA DENIED...NEW LIGHT

[SWEETEPIPHANY67 9]

Well, since you asked...I have cards and letters. He presented all of that. On my second visit he wrote a note on a napkin to me. I carry that napkin in my wallet and on each visit, he writes something special on that napkin. The napkin is full now with little love notes. He even took a copy of that to the interview. The problem may have been in his answers to some questions...Have you met her children? He responded by telling them that he speaks with them on the phone and they chat online. But he has never met them as they have not been to Jamaica. They asked if he knows about my exhusband and he stated that he does know what I have told him but he doesnt know any more than that... Then on the Western Union printout they noticed that I has sent money to his daughter and wanted to know why. He told them that I had sent her money for her birthday. And one other time which he got upset about. He told me that I shouldnt give them things without his approval because he doesnt want them to think that its that easy. They asked if he knew that I had filed chapter 13 in the past. Well, that wasnt important. So I dont know if we talked about that. As that filing was a result of the divorce and it has been discharged.

My cousin met him when she visited Jamaica. My mother speaks with him on the phone. He and my eldest daughter text and chat often. My younger boys were excited about him coming. He talks with my sister and other family members. My dad's ex wife has a dentist office in Kingston and she knows him. I am close with his family here and there. His sister is a doctor in Atlanta Georgia. His mom is a citizen. He didnt need me to get him to America.

As far as being desperate...Well, I am a quite attractive woman if I do say so myself. I have no self esteem issues. I own my own business ( for 12 years ) and I am a homeowner. I have 99 problems and a man isnt 1...lol. I have read many statuses on here where women have traveled several times over to see their men... Not out of desperation...But likely because they truly do love them. When you are in love, you dont want to be apart. So maybe I should question those who find it easy to only see the one they say they love twice a year. Not only have I read those statuses about the visits...But I have read those of people who have known each other for less time than Ive known my fiance.

So once again...I dont take anything you have said as a negative. I do understand what you are saying. And I will take it all into consideration. Thank you again. Miracles, love and blessings to you and yours.

Oh and I forgot to mention that three of those 8 visits were of no cost to me. Spirit Airlines delayed a flight and I missed a connecting flight in the Bahamas...they put me up at the Marriott and then they gave me a voucher for another flight. Caribbean Airlines had a delayed flight due to mechanical problems and they put us up at the Pegasus and gave a voucher. His family flew me in to surprise him on his birthday on another flight...Again...thank you for your reply to this topic.

[SWEETEPIPHANY67 9]

Well, you don't have to get married, it will just make the next round a bit easier. Also, if you refile the CR1, he will be eligible for more upon his arrival. Glad you are so positive about this, it makes things better. Again sorry for this kind of outcome..

Jah bless & One Love (L)

I am considering this option. I just want to be sure. I dont want any further delay. Thank you so much for you helpful advice. Blessings to you and yours.

[madison925 2]

Im so sorry to hear this. Be strong and keep the faith

Edited September 12, 2012 by madison925

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Well, since you asked...I have cards and letters. He presented all of that. On my second visit he wrote a note on a napkin to me. I carry that napkin in my wallet and on each visit, he writes something special on that napkin. The napkin is full now with little love notes. He even took a copy of that to the interview. The problem may have been in his answers to some questions...Have you met her children? He responded by telling them that he speaks with them on the phone and they chat online. But he has never met them as they have not been to Jamaica. They asked if he knows about my exhusband and he stated that he does know what I have told him but he doesnt know any more than that... Then on the Western Union printout they noticed that I has sent money to his daughter and wanted to know why. He told them that I had sent her money for her birthday. And one other time which he got upset about. He told me that I shouldnt give them things without his approval because he doesnt want them to think that its that easy. They asked if he knew that I had filed chapter 13 in the past. Well, that wasnt important. So I dont know if we talked about that. As that filing was a result of the divorce and it has been discharged.

My cousin met him when she visited Jamaica. My mother speaks with him on the phone. He and my eldest daughter text and chat often. My younger boys were excited about him coming. He talks with my sister and other family members. My dad's ex wife has a dentist office in Kingston and she knows him. I am close with his family here and there. His sister is a doctor in Atlanta Georgia. His mom is a citizen. He didnt need me to get him to America.

As far as being desperate...Well, I am a quite attractive woman if I do say so myself. I have no self esteem issues. I own my own business ( for 12 years ) and I am a homeowner. I have 99 problems and a man isnt 1...lol. I have read many statuses on here where women have traveled several times over to see their men... Not out of desperation...But likely because they truly do love them. When you are in love, you dont want to be apart. So maybe I should question those 1) who find it easy to only see the one they say they love twice a year. Not only have I read those statuses about the visits...But I have read those of people 2) who have known each other for less time than Ive known my fiance.

So once again...I dont take anything you have said as a negative. I do understand what you are saying. And I will take it all into consideration. Thank you again. Miracles, love and blessings to you and yours.

1) Perhaps they are not self employed like you and cannot afford to travel as often as you do. Additionally, JA is relatively close to US.

2) The USCIS requirement is to have met at least once in two years and they even offer a waiver for that.

I would wager that 99% of VJers hate being apart from their SOs (I know I am). I wish I can see her monthly but priorities dictates otherwise. In any case your case has demonstrated that number of visits is just part of what the COs look at.

IMHO, with the network you seem to have down there I would just get married and see if you can operate your business down there.

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Waiting to be together is hard and I can understand partly what you are enduring sorry for this...but how blessed you are both that you can catch a plane and be with him on Thursday!!!

You seem not so uncomfortable with your SO smoking what he smokes...but as u posted it DID have a part to do with his denial...

Did your Fiance know Smoking Marijuana is illegal in the U.S? and if he did.... he still partook of it with a medical coming up?

Why chance the denial of what is important to you and him both?

[unlockingsky 94]

Well, Papa was DENIED based on there was not sufficient proof that this is a bonafide relationship...lol!!! What a joke. I have been to Jamaica 8 times in less than a year. I was pregnant and miscarried. We have 100's of photos. His mom just left from visiting me. Western Union receipts. A year's worth of yahoo messages and over $1000 in phone bills. But I love him...no turning back!!!

prepare to appeal and sue if it fails.

[Operator 1,927]

Regarding the drug test; was he not aware that he would be tested for THC during his medical?

I would suggest paying for a drug test before he goes in for his next immigration medical to ensure that you aren't wasting time and money again.

Here is some helpful information:

Some THC metabolites have an elimination half-life of 20 hours. However, some are stored in body fat and have a elimination half-life of 10 to 13 days. Most researchers agree that urine tests for marijuana can detect the presence of the drug in the body for up to 13 days.However, there is anecdotal evidence that the length of time that marijuana remains in the body is affected by how often the person smokes, how much he smokes and how long he has been smoking. Regular smokers have reported positive drug test results after 45 days since last use and heavy smokers have reported positive tests 90 days after quitting.

[SWEETEPIPHANY67 9]

1) Perhaps they are not self employed like you and cannot afford to travel as often as you do. Additionally, JA is relatively close to US.

2) The USCIS requirement is to have met at least once in two years and they even offer a waiver for that.

I would wager that 99% of VJers hate being apart from their SOs (I know I am). I wish I can see her monthly but priorities dictates otherwise. In any case your case has demonstrated that number of visits is just part of what the COs look at.

IMHO, with the network you seem to have down there I would just get married and see if you can operate your business down there.

I have two teen sons. I cannot just uproot them and move them to another country. It would not be fair to them. I am considering everyone and everything. As far as the VJers here...Im sure that they do miss their SO's. I only made that statement because you pointed out that my zeal to be near the one I love could be misconstrued as desperation. Its crazy...The USCIS requires that we only meet once in two year...I have fulfilled that requirement many times over...so why would I be penalized for that? I am a long way from being wealthy by some standards...but I was always taught to sacrifice for the ones you love. Maybe I have been taught wrong...hmmm.

[Fahari 0]

I perfectly understand the pain your feeling right now.I went through the same thing in January these year.I felt as if the world had crushed on me.With all the evidence being denied on lack of bone fade relationship was crazy.We dint give up,we still crazy in love with each other.Its difficult but we are still fighting.Be strong all will be well at last.Keep fighting for your love and at long last you will make it.

[SWEETEPIPHANY67 9]

Waiting to be together is hard and I can understand partly what you are enduring sorry for this...but how blessed you are both that you can catch a plane and be with him on Thursday!!!

You seem not so uncomfortable with your SO smoking what he smokes...but as u posted it DID have a part to do with his denial...

Did your Fiance know Smoking Marijuana is illegal in the U.S? and if he did.... he still partook of it with a medical coming up?

Why chance the denial of what is important to you and him both?

I dont nor have I ever smoked. However, I do know people who have. I wont debate the rights and the wrongs. No one here knows exactly how long it stays in the system. I have read several different reports that say different things. But it has to do with many different things. I love him and that is what I will stand on. Ive asked for help in finding out what our options are...and many are helpful. But most want to harp on the marijuana use. Well that part is what it is. It happened. Now where do we go from here.

[SWEETEPIPHANY67 9]

Regarding the drug test; was he not aware that he would be tested for THC during his medical?

I would suggest paying for a drug test before he goes in for his next immigration medical to ensure that you aren't wasting time and money again.

Here is some helpful information:

Some THC metabolites have an elimination half-life of 20 hours. However, some are stored in body fat and have a elimination half-life of 10 to 13 days. Most researchers agree that urine tests for marijuana can detect the presence of the drug in the body for up to 13 days.However, there is anecdotal evidence that the length of time that marijuana remains in the body is affected by how often the person smokes, how much he smokes and how long he has been smoking. Regular smokers have reported positive drug test results after 45 days since last use and heavy smokers have reported positive tests 90 days after quitting.

Thank you. But I recently read a report that said that it is possible for marijuana to still be detected in the body after a year. I dont know if that is true. But I still thank you for this information. GOD bless you and yours.

[SWEETEPIPHANY67 9]

I perfectly understand the pain your feeling right now.I went through the same thing in January these year.I felt as if the world had crushed on me.With all the evidence being denied on lack of bone fade relationship was crazy.We dint give up,we still crazy in love with each other.Its difficult but we are still fighting.Be strong all will be well at last.Keep fighting for your love and at long last you will make it.

Thank you for the positive vibes. Miracles, love and blessings to you and yours.

[Marlon&Fallon 13]

The comforting thing here after this outcome is that unlike many others, what you do make you so flexible that you can be down here frequently while waiting for the one year to run off. I wish you all the best and hope that everything will work out.

[Shiobhan 235]

Ganja is NOT legal in Jamaica ,I understand its 18 mths for a joint. ppl get away with lighting

up at concert events but not all is lucky to walk away without being arrested.

[KemalTuanaYalcin 16]

1 year ban???

may god be with you guys

(i'm not an immigration expert or anything. but in your case...dear you guys really need an immigration lawyer to back u up...not even marrying him is the solution.)

Wow, so sorry to hear that. So, does that mean you have a 1 year ban before you can re-apply or a 1 year ban before it can be approved? If it is 1 year before it can be approved, possibly you can re-start the application process about 7 months in to the ban. I wish you all the best of luck. Like to see your positive attitude.