Those with deployed loved ones

[Messybrownhair 251]

Anyone else have a loved one who's deployed? I wanted to start a thread to talk about the stress of dealing with deployment, care packages, immigration issues etc.

PLEASE REMEMBER OPSEC!

I'll start!

Hubby is deployed for a year and I am 18 wks pregnant. He will be missing the birth. I am filing ROC this March without him.

[Messybrownhair 251]

PS. Those with deploying loved ones welcome too! Sometimes predeployment is harder than the deployment

Edited September 9, 2012 by Messybrownhair

[amayana 0]

Hi there! Don't stress too much it won't do good on your baby!

I know deployments are pretty hard. I've been in more than 7deployments with my fiance for the past 2years. Lucky for us now, its over, well actually for just 3years he'll be on shore duty. After that we don't know if he'll be going on sea duty again or get out of the service. But that's enough time to settle with the marriage and family. Sometimes, it feels like I'm used to deployments and all those stuff that comes with that. But every deployments comes differently. The last one we had was really painful and hard for me. We were having problems. One after another. But we made it through.

I've experienced watching the news 24/7 because he went on deployment when North and South Korea was on the brink of war. Then the tsunami and earthquake in Japan happened which forced them to evacuate. The day Japan was hit by the earthquake I was buying my plane tickets going to Japan. After that, everything went blank. We kept on hoping that everything will go back to normal and when it finally did. I didn't waste anytime and immediately flew to Japan to be with J and look after him since it really did affected most of them. No electricity, military family members esp the kids were forced to leave Japan and only servicemen were left to help with the search and rescue. I remember they called it as Operation Tomadatchi. And one time I visited him during his liberty call in Singapore. We were supposed to be together for 3 days. It got cut off. Thailand needed their help and they were immediately recalled. hehe. Military life it is!

Anyway, I've found this amazing blog about military spouses. Thought you might want to read it.

http://theycallmedependent.com/2012/05/03/confessions-of-a-milspouse-i-love-my-husband-more-than-you-love-yours/

You're strong. You and your baby will be more than alright.

Smile. Its good for the baby!

[AF-Wife 181]

7 deployments in 2 years? Are you sure those weren't TDY's?

[amayana 0]

7 deployments in 2 years? Are you sure those weren't TDY's?

It was more of a patrol cruise that they do with WESTPAC for 2 years and some were conducted in South America. He was stationed in Japan. Sea deployments. That's what he and his friends would tell me before going on board.

[amayana 0]

7 deployments in 2 years? Are you sure those weren't TDY's?

Each deployment he goes to would last 3-4 months with about 2-3 liberty calls. Twice a year. He's an Air Framer for 2 years with the USS GW.

[AF-Wife 181]

I guess it's quite different here in the Air Force.

[Sweetcheeksss 91]

We've been together 6 years and out of those, my hubby has been here with me, maybe - 3 years total. He deploys often, sometimes w/o any advance notice. But, I knew I was marrying someone that was in the military sooo I just had to learn to be ok with it.

We make up for what we miss while we are apart and when he's gone, I get to be independent me (which I love) so it works out very well for us. It's kinda like we are perpetual newlyweds lol.

[Messybrownhair 251]

We've been together 6 years and out of those, my hubby has been here with me, maybe - 3 years total. He deploys often, sometimes w/o any advance notice. But, I knew I was marrying someone that was in the military sooo I just had to learn to be ok with it.

We make up for what we miss while we are apart and when he's gone, I get to be independent me (which I love) so it works out very well for us. It's kinda like we are perpetual newlyweds lol.

Im glad you are handling it so well! Unfortunately I make an awful military wife, I think. I am not independent and with me being pregnant and away from my parents too, its really hitting me hard One year seems so long. Im so used to being part of a team, I hate being alone. I feel so isolated and bitter. Pregnancy hormones dont help. Even though Im in school full-time, I just feel like a zombie thats going through the motions

[Sweetcheeksss 91]

Find the FRG rep for your husband's unit and start going to the weekly/monthly meetings. You'll be able to find other wifes that are going thru the deployment, probably going thru the same feelings & emotions you are feeling. Plus you'll make a cpl of friends that know exactly how you feel.

It's difficult enough to spend time apart w/o having to be stressed too. Also, I volunteer at my local USO. When single soldiers come back and no one is there to greet them, I am a stand in hugger lol. I know that even when I am sad, or lonely, or upset - if I pass that along to my hubby it makes *his* job (wherever he is) that much more difficult. I know that he told me once how grateful he is that everytime he calls me I'm not crying.

It seems like a long time (believe me, my hubby has been deployed, or training, or schools) more times than I can count and of course sometimes I get lonely too. I just keep as busy as I can and before I know it, it's almost time for him to come home.

[Messybrownhair 251]

Find the FRG rep for your husband's unit and start going to the weekly/monthly meetings. You'll be able to find other wifes that are going thru the deployment, probably going thru the same feelings & emotions you are feeling. Plus you'll make a cpl of friends that know exactly how you feel.

It's difficult enough to spend time apart w/o having to be stressed too. Also, I volunteer at my local USO. When single soldiers come back and no one is there to greet them, I am a stand in hugger lol. I know that even when I am sad, or lonely, or upset - if I pass that along to my hubby it makes *his* job (wherever he is) that much more difficult. I know that he told me once how grateful he is that everytime he calls me I'm not crying.

It seems like a long time (believe me, my hubby has been deployed, or training, or schools) more times than I can count and of course sometimes I get lonely too. I just keep as busy as I can and before I know it, it's almost time for him to come home.

We are in the guard so there are no weekly/monthly FRG meetings. Never actually met them since we are all over the state. But its ok I have my civilian friends, although they dont really understand what i am going thru they are still sympathetic

Edited September 12, 2012 by Messybrownhair

[military wife 1]

Hi I am new here and also a newly married woman (smile) my husband was deployed to afghanistan yesterday just three months into our married, the family and friends are very supportive but I feel a bit lost and worried, he was my fiance when he was deployed to Guam for 6 months and it was hard but it wasn't a combat zone so i felt a bit better, there was phone and internet privileges as well an I was home with my family and friends, now this time around its worrying but with Gods help he will be in an out pretty fast its really hard i also start school next two weeks and I am a nervous wreck, new country, new climate and new surrounding but no husband , I am counting down the days when he returns, have a bless day everyone and let us pray for for all the troops that they will return back to their love ones safe and in good health.

[Messybrownhair 251]

Hi I am new here and also a newly married woman (smile) my husband was deployed to afghanistan yesterday just three months into our married, the family and friends are very supportive but I feel a bit lost and worried, he was my fiance when he was deployed to Guam for 6 months and it was hard but it wasn't a combat zone so i felt a bit better, there was phone and internet privileges as well an I was home with my family and friends, now this time around its worrying but with Gods help he will be in an out pretty fast its really hard i also start school next two weeks and I am a nervous wreck, new country, new climate and new surrounding but no husband , I am counting down the days when he returns, have a bless day everyone and let us pray for for all the troops that they will return back to their love ones safe and in good health.

Our deployments are just days apart! How long will he be gone? We are all here for you!

Enjoy school-its what keeps me going.

You can send me a pm if u want to talk!

[maggieb 4]

I would like to thank all of you as military spouses, for your dedication and sacrifice. My husband is now retired now, but I still think of all the men and women who put their lives on on line for this country. You as spouses here have to deal with another type of battle, the day to day battle of everyday living and sometimes that is as hard as serving overseas. And for that I would like to thank you for being strong in this hard time, my hats off to all of you. THANK YOU

[military wife 1]

Hi Dear, He will gone for 6 months but somehow it feels like 6 years, I will message you soon, take care.

No Maggie thank you and your Husband as well who has done it before, who has served with dignity and with pride, God bless both of you, thanks to both of you.