Top 10 TRICKY QUESTIONS???

[Lisamarie 79]

My husband was asked "What do you love about your wife", and "What do you dislike about your wife"...... and what would he do if they didn't give him the visa? Among lots of other questions....From the way the interview went though, I think they had already made their minds up for the most part before he ever arrived but meeting him was the clincher for him to get the visa.

[Lisamarie 79]

He was also asked many questions about my kids and family members, but we had spent so many countless hours talking online that he knew everything about them. He had also spoken to my kids and other family members on the phone. Have you spoken to her mom or anyone else in her family? Do they accept your relationship? You should've been talking on the mic all this time to improve your English. You can still start now...better late than never;)

[Peace.... 281]

Hope all goes well Zzzzzz with your interview....

[Linds&Youssef 56]

Good advice !

One thing I would like to clarify, though - the part about speaking in English is not to show how well he might be able assimilate into the U.S.; it's about proving that he and his fiance can communicate in a common language (which is a huge part of proving valid relationship.)

The "common language" does not have to be English, but if his fiancee does not speak Arabic or any other second language in common with him, then he would have to show that he speaks English well enough to convince the consulate that he can indeed communicate with his fiancee in a normal spoken manner.

Presenting a lot of written correspondence in English as evidence, but then having difficulty in the interview conducted in spoken English may be considered a red flag. The consulates are well aware that it's not so difficult to fake one's way through written English correspondence( using translate software or even bilingual friends to help) and have been known to refuse to approve cases on those grounds.

Fair point, but I assumed that was the reason because houbi and I both speak French (him fluently, and me at least proficiently) and they still had him do the interview in English (even though all our proof shows we communicate for the vast majority of the time in french). Maybe it's a bit of both....?

[SarAyouBliss 38]

How do you and your fiancee communicate (aside from chatting) if you can't speak English? Be prepared to answer that one if you, in fact, cannot speak English.

Telling the CO to find that information for him or herself will be like shooting yourself in the foot. "I don't remember" isn't a good enough answer. If you have the chat logs, read them and find that answer for yourself. Don't be lazy. Do you want the visa or not?

You're right, don't just be truthful, be smart.

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Fair point, but I assumed that was the reason because houbi and I both speak French (him fluently, and me at least proficiently) and they still had him do the interview in English (even though all our proof shows we communicate for the vast majority of the time in french). Maybe it's a bit of both....?

I dunno... but there are quite a few VJers who had their interviews in other-than-English because that was their common language with their SO (even from this forum) and they came through successfully. I can't recall any cases where questions were asked about how well they would assimilate due to non-English skills. Maybe the consulate was making sure you guys weren't using language software or something in your correspondence ?

[SarAyouBliss 38]

My husband was asked "What do you love about your wife", and "What do you dislike about your wife"...... and what would he do if they didn't give him the visa? Among lots of other questions....From the way the interview went though, I think they had already made their minds up for the most part before he ever arrived but meeting him was the clincher for him to get the visa.

Did your husband get the visa approved at his initial interview? no AP ?

[Tough_Era 71]

Well, I wouldnt be nervous...just be confident and use all the English you can, remind the CO that you are more used to speaking to her in person or typing. Even at our AOS interview, my hubby couldnt understand her, but he could totally understand me even though i repeated what she said lol. It made us look "real"...what we did for the visa interview, i would ask him a thousand questions...I acted just like a CO to him and asked him hard questions. Also, tell them your life/future plans (i.e kids, going to school, traveling etc).....the CO lt my hubby switch to Turkish when he couldnt understand her, but they mostly spoke English whenever possible. I think she wanted to see his "skils" ha ha here's the questions she asked him/us;how did you meet, what do you love about your fiance, how do you communicate, what do you plan to do in the US, how does her family like you, how much income does she earn a year, where does she work, what does she do, what did you do when she visited, a lot of stupid questions. So weird when I went to the window for questions, she asked me "so you never been married" which is funny because I know that they know that I was divorced once before and also asked that I didnt have any children (I did and they knew) it was like they were seeing if I would lie if I thought they didnt know these things about me because maybe they think that I think that my husbands visa wont be approved if I was married before and had kids, it was weird. So NEVER ever lie! They have a lot if things up their sleeve, just be truthful and confident. After all, if you know you are real, then there's nothing to be afraid of (thats eventually what I told myself). Anyway, good luck and be prepared to answer questions about any future children (if any) and if you two decided to have or not have them as I know tat a big one for Muslim men.

Thank you for all advises.

[Tough_Era 71]

Well I have no advice but I got to say I am so so so embarrassed to try Arabic with my husband or in front of anyone for that matter. I don't know why, but I am extremely shy about murdering Arabic language. I am not a very good speaker.

Yeah, I can imagine, I know the feeling.

My fiancee is the same as you, the Arabic language suffers every time fiancee tries to speak it.. it's funny and cute at the same time when i see her trying to speak it hahaha.

[Tough_Era 71]

I just want to tell you....i think they are being hard on you....first My husband and i was approved and he is now in USA of almost two years and we are now filing the ROC to adjust his status to a 10 year Resident card.....I did not use SKYPE when chatting with my husband, infact we never used sound while chatting but about two times cause his version of computer was not new enough to install program....with that said, we just got to where we talked BRIEFLY everyday...we didn't sit at computer hours a day and worrying what the other was doing...we both had lives and jobs.....just be yourself at the interview. this is what helped my husband. He like you spoke some English but didn't feel too comfortable...but he did let the interviwer know up front he was little bad with english but can speak french so they spoke little of each, but he requested his interview in English. It looks better on you to do so and will be a PLUS! Don't act nervous or over confidient....some questions asked of him in 2010 was

1. Tell me something tragic that happened in your wife's life or past

2. what is the names of her children (if she has any) and what ages and where do they live and what is their father's name? Where does the father live

3. What high school or university did your wife attend and what elementary school? When did she graduate?

4. What is her mother and father's name and how old and where do they live and if deceased (died) know the cause of death, etc info about health

5.) What does her mother and father do for a living or work (occupation/job)

6) where do they live? What city state or country?

7.) where does her kids go to school

8) How much is her home payment, car payment, pays babysitting, know some financial stuff

9) Know where wife works/company and how much she makes a year working for company

10) why do you love your wife? What do you like the most about her.....what do you like the least about her?

11) what do you share in common?

12) what where the exact dates your wife visited you in Morocco and where did she stay?

13) what religion is your wife and know where she attends church or services

14) Does she have any pets/animals and what are the names

15) what did you and your wife do while she was in Morocco?

16) Tell me about your wife from the time she was born til now!!!! This is hardest....it has happened

17) know about previous marriages of wife

18) don't tell any lies no matter how small...they can ask you about some other relationship or e-mails on-line with another and has been known to call that person and deny you for being dishonest.

19...how many brothers/sisters or siblings does she have/

20. where does her brother live and what kind of work/job? Does she see him often? Have you talked to him or met him on-line? Same question if she has a sister...know details...city and state

21...what is her favorite movie....favorite book...favorite actor, singer?

22...what is your wifes hobbies...what does she like to do for fun?

These are some off the top of my head that was asked of him or others back when we were filing.......learn as much as you can and if you don't know something you are unsure of, let them know you are unsure and not sure if you two discussed it....but know almost EVERYTHING....and good luck.

BTW...I had only traveled to morocco TWICE...Once in 2008 and again in 2009 and started filing papers after marrying on my second trip.....just be honest and yourself and happy when you talk about her and make sure....HAVE eye contact contsantly...don't look down or off to your sides...it makes them feel like you are hiding the truth

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU and I hope i have helped some..

I just found out that i didn't have some questions you're written above..

i'll follow your helpful advises

I won't be dishonest.

I just have hard time forgetting things, i don't have a good memory, i mean i don't have all the chat logs stucking inside my head, chat logs of 29 months and we everyday talk.. imagine that.

[Tough_Era 71]

I suppose, with both of them being grandmothers, they had a lot of things in common.

I don't know it's good thing to respond back this useless post.. cause I didn not understand why you want only to talk about grandmas instead giving a little help and something useful? but i think It's good opportunity to talk to someone like you, I missed this kind of conversation in this forum.

Well, You you supposed first now, it's my turn to supposed too.. hahaha well, You wanted to say that you're feeling pity for me marrying someone my grandma's age, is that what you meant?

i just wanna know figure out why the hell you put your nose into something's not your business, What you were trying to say.. Say it now and clearly.. You had to face me directly from the beginning cause you didn't make things clear and i don't wanna get offended.

So would you please tell me, what those things in common do grandmothers have? or you're telling me that you're not a grandma?

Explain yourself.

[Tough_Era 71]

There are plenty of people that speak English here in Morocco...if this is important to you...which i assume it is, you would seek out some friends or associates that will practice with you daily. I find the younger generation are very schooled in English and like to speak it whenever a chance comes up.

BTW I completely understand when you say you are shy to speak with others but not with your Fiance....My husband has always been OPEN this way between US and is always very quiet with others...even with his own siblings and parents.

But this interview is YOUR opportunity to answer all the questions with honesty and completion. Make your self more comfortable with English in any way you can until your appointment. There ARE English speakers all around you if u are in a city.

Also My husband had said he felt the mood of the interview changed after he was asked where is your fiance right now? and he answered back in the U.S. ( I was not there in Morocco having my own responsibilities as most adult do) he said it was the downfall of the CO attitude towards the rest of the interview. Which was a very degrading experience...but that is an entire other subject.

If your fiancee could be in the country when you have your interview...it might make a positive difference...especially since you only visited each other once in your relationship.

If I was to put on a CO hat and interview you...

My questions would focus on how u 2 met

if it was online...what site? why do people go on this site?

and why were you on this site?

what were you looking for?

how many other woman did you communicate with before or while u were writing your fiance?

why was SHE on this site?

How long was it before you knew you loved her?

your young, why did you not find and marry someone your own age and in your own country?

Dont you want children of your own?

What do you have in common with your fiance?

Why do you love her?

Where does her ex live?

Why did she divorce?

Is she close to her children?

Have you met her children or grandchild? if not, have you talked with them over the internet? Names? And then I would ask questions leading to how much you know of her children and granchildren. Schools, hobbies and what u might talk with them about?

If you dont talk to them, why not? Aren't they important to her?

Z... I would expect really personal questions ahead ....b ready to answer things you might not feel comfortable answering in normal everyday conversations with a stranger. And dont take it personal. They are doing their job.

Wow, those are tough question, and i should write them down.. everything you wrote is very useful.

Thank you so much.

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

I don't know it's good thing to respond back this useless post.. cause I didn not understand why you want only to talk about grandmas instead giving a little help and something useful? but i think It's good opportunity to talk to someone like you, I missed this kind of conversation in this forum.

Well, You you supposed first now, it's my turn to supposed too.. hahaha well, You wanted to say that you're feeling pity for me marrying someone my grandma's age, is that what you meant?

i just wanna know figure out why the hell you put your nose into something's not your business, What you were trying to say.. Say it now and clearly.. You had to face me directly from the beginning cause you didn't make things clear and i don't wanna get offended.

So would you please tell me, what those things in common do grandmothers have? or you're telling me that you're not a grandma?

Explain yourself.

It is not worth giving this poster the spot light...concentrate on what your need for your interview!!! GOD will show others their wrong ways.

Did you find anyone to practice your English with???

[Tough_Era 71]

zzyzz, don't worry... the interview's not necessarily going to be terrible. Yes, the officers are trained to find fraud within visa application cases, but they're not unfair. Everything you need to know you should already know about your fiance. Go in with confidence and just don't stop talking. And by all means, make sure you tell them the truth!! Once you've answered their direct question, continue to show them what you know by expanding on your answer with a story. This will give them ideas of other questions that will come from your stories. They're more likely to treat the interview as a conversation if you do it this way. It also helps if you can let them know that you've discussed serious topics as a couple (like religion, children, relationship dynamics, etc,) and not just "oh habibi/habibati, I love you until my dying breath". And try to speak in English so they can see that you'll be able to assimmilate into America with fewer problems than if you didn't speak any English at all. They'll ask things like how you met, who first contacted whom, how many times she's visited you, her hobbies, what you two like to do together, about her family/work/school/pets, where you'll live/what you'll do for work, etc. They only asked houbi about 6 or 8 questions, and it was more like a conversation for about 25 minutes or so. But the K-1 visa interviews are usually last. So when you get there at 7:45 or whatever and go in at 8a, you should be prepared to not have your interview until almost 12p. Good luck!!

I'll do my best.. Thank you every single advise. and conrgatulation to your approval again.

[Tough_Era 71]

Good advice !

One thing I would like to clarify, though - the part about speaking in English is not to show how well he might be able assimilate into the U.S.; it's about proving that he and his fiance can communicate in a common language (which is a huge part of proving valid relationship.)

The "common language" does not have to be English, but if his fiancee does not speak Arabic or any other second language in common with him, then he would have to show that he speaks English well enough to convince the consulate that he can indeed communicate with his fiancee in a normal spoken manner.

Presenting a lot of written correspondence in English as evidence, but then having difficulty in the interview conducted in spoken English may be considered a red flag. The consulates are well aware that it's not so difficult to fake one's way through written English correspondence( using translate software or even bilingual friends to help) and have been known to refuse to approve cases on those grounds.

I don't use translate software or something like that.. This language is running my blood now.. and if i don't understand a slang word or something i tell fiancee to give me the right meaning.. I'm just shy to speak English and wanna be as good as the native speaker.. that's all.. and it's not gonna be a red flag i'm sure.