Immigrant wife entered marriage in bad faith

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Uhm...no. Maybe he cleared the account because you two were both joint account holders.

Or he used her cards to get at the community property.

[Memphis 26]

So sorry to read about your story.. Your wife certainly has to learn her lessons the HARD WAY! ACT NOW! before she gets another opportunity to make-up some crazy ideas against you.

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

I'll never understand why USCIS approves petitions for people who meet online and then in real life all of two times before getting married... but then when someone like me (who LIVED with my husband, WORKED with my husband, and was PREGNANT with his child) drives 400 miles in one day to marry him while he's detained in immigration jail, USCIS thinks I have a f***ing fake marriage and takes twice the amount of time to approve my petition. This sh!t pisses me off so much.

eh.. maybe it is because your husband was in removal proceedings when you decided to get married? You complain about the process being unfair but then you did drive 400 miles in one day to marry your husband while he was in the process of being forcefully removed from the country... and you are pissed off that it somehow raised a red flag? Really? How could you not expect delays? I think you should be amazed you were approved ... In your circumstances I would be doing the happy dance daily around my NOA2 and be sweating bullets about the upcoming interview.

[bmvv 0]

Hi,

I think whatever you are thinking might be correct, but think from other side.

If she want to get a permanant residency, she might given you a divorce earlier and got the 10yr GC and spent the life easier. I think she would not spare that 2yrs of life treating you as her Husband. If your wife has a BF then no BF tells her GF to play this drama as a wife to other person.

I just want to tell you to think twice. May be the facebook and chat logs are not created by her, it might be the fake ones.

If you really suspect her then Divorce her ASAP and consult the authorities ASAP and Deport her.

Goodluck.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

I concur with you gowon, in ohio they also wont compel the other party to leave unless one consents, whether its a significant other or a roommate. As long as the person has their clothes in that residence u cant make em leave. But it would be possible in case of abuse or something of the sort. I remember i called the cops on my husband one time cz he was yelling and cursing me out, i told the cops i wanted him to leave for the night but they told me as long as he didnt touch or threaten me they couldnt ask him to leave, instead they told me if i didnt feel safe then i should call a friend to pick me up or drive to a friend and spend the night....and that was that.

This is why I seldom argue on here. I was there when two different police department in two different states said they cannot and will not forceful anyone from a residence where they have clothes and mail.

I thank you fort validating my personal experience.

Perhaps the examples used by Sandra were brow beaten foreigners with no understanding of their rights. Or perhaps they wanted out at any cost and police being there made the egress safer.

[james&olya 1,121]

I agree with the consensus on here to notify USCIS, ICE, etc immediately and file for divorce. Do not live with this woman another day! As to the futility of expecting ICE to get her deported, that is really not the main issue. If she cannot adjust status but remains here illegally, under the radar, that effectively kills the I-864 and that is what is most important for the USC! In addition, being here illegally will not afford her the opportunity to get her boyfriend or her extended family here either. So don't be focused on deportation, just get that ROC de-railed! Good luck!

[SuperDuper! 230]

I'll never understand why USCIS approves petitions for people who meet online and then in real life all of two times before getting married... but then when someone like me (who LIVED with my husband, WORKED with my husband, and was PREGNANT with his child) drives 400 miles in one day to marry him while he's detained in immigration jail, USCIS thinks I have a f***ing fake marriage and takes twice the amount of time to approve my petition. This sh!t pisses me off so much.

Bitter much?

[milimelo 4,514]

OP, besides sending evidence to USCIS/ICE, send a snail mail letter with all information on her and evidence to the US Embassy in Manila. They have fraud prevention unit and can add the evidence to her file and this way you can stop the "real love of her life" making it to the US if/when she files for him.

[from.thesouth 0]

I'm so sorry to hear this. No one wants to be used like this.

[livelife2dfullest 7]

Hi,

I think whatever you are thinking might be correct, but think from other side.

If she want to get a permanant residency, she might given you a divorce earlier and got the 10yr GC and spent the life easier. I think she would not spare that 2yrs of life treating you as her Husband. If your wife has a BF then no BF tells her GF to play this drama as a wife to other person.

I just want to tell you to think twice. May be the facebook and chat logs are not created by her, it might be the fake ones.

If you really suspect her then Divorce her ASAP and consult the authorities ASAP and Deport her.

Goodluck.

[livelife2dfullest 7]

I think he did think twice and gave her wife another chance. Also are you sure that no bf would allow their gf to marry someone so they could get something out of it? Lol. I dont know what world you live in but these things really happens and theres a lot of women who would stop at nothing to get what they wants. These women plays the emotions of their victims and i believe the op is so inlove with his wife that he couldnt decide what to do even when he knows the right thing to do hence he is here asking for opinions.

[TeddyHoney 42]

I knew my wife almost ten years. I found out she lied every day for the last 2 years of our relationship. Anyone can get scammed. Get off your high horse please.

I still wonder about the face of her true love when she told him she was pregnant... from me. Kind of pathetic really. A sociopathic liar will lie to everyone (friends, family, lover, authorties) with little to no remorse. Just very selfishly doing things only for herself.

These types are also called narcissistic personalities. The only effective way to deal with one is to have absolutely no contact with them. Practically impossible when you have a child(ren) with one. My childs mother is one (my Filipina ex). There is no explaining them and they will never change. I feel you. Not saying the OPS wife is one of these. Just commenting on your comment that what you have described about your ex sounds like a narcissistic personality disorder type, and they don't have to be VISA scam artists to be one. They come in all shapes, sizes, colors, races, classes and nationalities - and genders, single, married, divorced, etc.,!

In my opinion and by experience, if they are mothers then they are by far the worst, though I know fathers can be that way to.

Sorry, a little bit off topic there but felt the need.

[livelife2dfullest 7]

I dont know the stories of some people here that complaints that their process are taking forever and complaints why uscis approves petition where the couple meet online and in person once or twice. But its not about how you met or how many times you met but its how bona fide your marriage is or relationship. My husband and i met online, almost 2 years after that he propose marriage online too. And send the engagement ring through the mail. Couple months after that we met personally and got married in my country. 7 momths after that he petitioned me 8 months later we are together again. Never had problems with the whole process you know why? Because uscis believe its a bona fide marriage and that they could not see any red flags with our relationship. 7 years later we have 2 kids already and i am on the process of naturalizing myself. So dont be bitter because your process takes so long while others dont. We all went through the waiting game. Its frustrating but your case is not always the same as the others.

[John and Ann 10]

These types are also called narcissistic personalities. The only effective way to deal with one is to have absolutely no contact with them. Practically impossible when you have a child(ren) with one. My childs mother is one (my Filipina ex). There is no explaining them and they will never change. I feel you. Not saying the OPS wife is one of these. Just commenting on your comment that what you have described about your ex sounds like a narcissistic personality disorder type, and they don't have to be VISA scam artists to be one. They come in all shapes, sizes, colors, races, classes and nationalities - and genders, single, married, divorced, etc.,!

In my opinion and by experience, if they are mothers then they are by far the worst, though I know fathers can be that way to.

Sorry, a little bit off topic there but felt the need.

Exactly, couldn't agree more!!!

[ullnvrkno 95]

eh.. maybe it is because your husband was in removal proceedings when you decided to get married? You complain about the process being unfair but then you did drive 400 miles in one day to marry your husband while he was in the process of being forcefully removed from the country... and you are pissed off that it somehow raised a red flag? Really? How could you not expect delays? I think you should be amazed you were approved ... In your circumstances I would be doing the happy dance daily around my NOA2 and be sweating bullets about the upcoming interview.

I'm sorry but when someone has a MUTUAL child and the records to PROVE they've been together for more than a year (ie; in REAL life, not "over the internet") I think that's a lot more "bonafide" then 2 damn flight itineraries to and from spouse's country and then wedding pictures a month after the initial flight. I see 99% more fraud stories out of online dating than I do "married while in removal proceedings."

And no, I'm NOT amazed I was approved. I was in a BONAFIDE relationship and we have a MUTUAL child, I shouldn't have had any questions asked. You don't agree with me on USCIS scrutinizing "online" relationships more than real life relationships, fine. But I know I'm sick of seeing stories like this. SICK of it.