Immigrant wife entered marriage in bad faith

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1346121208[/url]' post='5644368']

Oh good Lord! Yes let's add another layer to this already arduous process!

Yes let's. It will help weed out the opportunistic leeches.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Yes let's. It will help weed out the opportunistic leeches.

No it wouldn't.

What's another 90 days?

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I see a very likely scenario where once I meet with ICE/USCIS, provide the evidence, show her the piles of fraud evidence submitted, and make it clear that I am not going to support her petition to remove conditions, she will not take on trying to file alone. She fears confrontation regarding any wrongdoing on her part, and she is not a persistent and optimistic person. She always believes the worst case scenario is what she will be faced with, and lacks confidence in herself. I know things could go much different than I am hoping, however I think an offer to pay for her flight home, and an offer to provide temporary support, on condition he returns, will be a feasible outcome.

But I am not naive----I will protect myself from possible VAWA claims as much as possible, and assume she will pursue ROC regardless.

I am just looking for ideas that will limit her options, and ideas to convince her that returning home is her best option.

Seems like you've got it all figured out. What do you need our opinions for?

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1346121405[/url]' post='5644375']

No it wouldn't.

What's another 90 days?

So let's give it a chance. Yes?

[pinatubo1 0]

If you want to pursue thing with ICE, pick up the phone and call. Don't wander around VJ building up support. Take your shot with reporting it. That's the only way to know if what you have as evidence is going to make be sufficient. My understanding is that you have to present a strong case for ICE to expend energy.

Also, divorce and move on from the marriage. Trying to exact some sort of "payback" is ultimately a waste of good energy.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

So let's give it a chance. Yes?

Hell no.

Number One: USCIS/DOS gets enough money from us already in fees.

Number Two: Anyone who is actually willing to marry and sleep with someone they can't stand isn't going to be deterred by tacking on another 90 days to the process.

Number Three: There'd be more abuse of this kind of thing than we already see. Guys bringing chicks over just to screw them and dumping them off at the shelter instead of the airport. People being robbed and murdered by the psycho they just brought over for the "holiday".

Nope. Not a good idea. Not at all.

[nate and riyn 11]

I did confront her, and she agreed to put things behind her, and move forward with me as the focus of her life. Now, evaluating it all again, and reading all the logs and photos again, I recognize she has not really changed at all. She shows me no love still, showing more love for our dog than me, and has another facebook account now. She never states that she is married, and never will post a photo of me with her. When I added her to my profile in FB as my wife, she declined the link, and blocked me from her profile.

I thought I would give her time to 'come around' to reality, and she had promised to, but now time is running out, and she has not made any efforts, and her behaviors are regressing backwards. I love her dearly, but will not stay with a woman that does not love me. When questioned about any of her behaviors, she just clams up, and will say 'because I want' or 'because I don't want'. She refuses to discuss any issues, which tells me, she is just trying to push to the 10 year card.

i think you should not waste time.. and try to call a person who can really help you for this.. like a lawyer.. its not easy to live in pain always... god bless

[pinatubo1 0]

I went through a similar situation except, she showed up pregnant for her medical exam at st lukes. I notified the embassy immediately and pulled petition. You need to file for divorce and deportation procedures. If you wait too long after finding out this information, it will look as if you knew all along and if you try to file another petition, it will be denied. Once her status gets adjusted you are totally screwed. It is apparent that someone is waiting to get your money. She may be already sending to him. Like someone posted, this forum is not the place to solicit help, you need to contact USCIS immediately. This is what you face when you meet someone online, chalk it up to a bad experience and move on! We all take this risk.

[memlaura 60]

I am not sure if the ICE will accept evidences that wasn't acquired in legal way. I am not in favor of what the OP's wife did, but the OP should also be aware of legal issues before these evidences be turned around and used against the OP by itself because he got the evidences in an illegal way.

To the OP, I hope everything goes well sooner and not later and hopefully your wife pays for whatever wrong she had done.

How would this be illegal he is her husband there are no lines of privacy between a husband and wife. She could open his mail he can open hers. My ex husband who is a USC cleaned out my bank account after he left for another woman and since we were not divorced yet I couldnt do anything about it. You could be right there could be some weird law out there but usually improper gathering of evidence is for law inforcement not spouses....

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

So let's give it a chance. Yes?

ah knew I''d find it...

Let give this a chance: Fixing Marriage Fraud

Long article, read the recommendations at the end for the short version.

Edited August 28, 2012 by OnMyWayID

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ah knew I''d find it...

Let give this a chance: Fixing Marriage Fraud

Long article, read the recommendations at the end for the short version.

Thank you. I will read it and report back.

[SlimT&R 2]

Honestly? I don't have sympathy for people who meet someone online and then in real life all of two times before they get married (all within a six month time frame) and then find out they've been scammed. I've been apart from my husband now for 14 months and we STILL have to complete NVC and the 601. I can't even tell you how hard it is to see people get approved and complete their journey in 4 months time when I have a REAL relationship, met him in REAL life and am not getting SCAMMED. So sue me for being so "judgmental" when this process is ANYTHING but fair.

I hear ya loud and clear. Move over in that boat dear because you have some company Known my hubby 3 years, seen him many times, we are the same culture but no, 13 months and still waiting

Edited August 28, 2012 by SlimT&R

[pnyvibe78 0]

Just like everyone is stating here..and make the right decision or legal decision and call your USCIS. Don't be side-blinded about the whole thing...though must be devastating to go through all this. And its a lesson learn.

I apologize in behalf of my country who seriously have ignorant Filipinas to con others to get their dreams. KARMA will get her either way..and SEND her back to the Philippines before its too late.

[sync78 0]

No, it's here in California and Texas.

One friend called in California and was told by San Bernadino Sherrifs that they couldn't compel him to vacate his residence.

I personally called in Texas and was told by the slack jawed yokel local Costabulary basically the same thing. I'v eseen it also on Cops hence my understadning.

On the other hand, in Nigeria for $20 they will not only help you get her out but will also put her in jail for making them have to come out.

I concur with you gowon, in ohio they also wont compel the other party to leave unless one consents, whether its a significant other or a roommate. As long as the person has their clothes in that residence u cant make em leave. But it would be possible in case of abuse or something of the sort. I remember i called the cops on my husband one time cz he was yelling and cursing me out, i told the cops i wanted him to leave for the night but they told me as long as he didnt touch or threaten me they couldnt ask him to leave, instead they told me if i didnt feel safe then i should call a friend to pick me up or drive to a friend and spend the night....and that was that.

[newlyweds2010 208]

How would this be illegal he is her husband there are no lines of privacy between a husband and wife. She could open his mail he can open hers. My ex husband who is a USC cleaned out my bank account after he left for another woman and since we were not divorced yet I couldnt do anything about it. You could be right there could be some weird law out there but usually improper gathering of evidence is for law inforcement not spouses....

Uhm...no. Maybe he cleared the account because you two were both joint account holders.