fighting VAWA

[InHisTime 110]

yeah, well I didnt. You dedicate your life to someone for over a year while waiting for them to come. YOu hold your breath and pray they get approved, you get married, introduce him to everyone and then he disappears? AFter you're already financially and emotionally drained? Just couldnt do it at the time. REally its more about clearing my name. He had to have told them I was so horrible to him or something in order for him to stay and cry the victim, but I just happened to stumble upon proof of what a creep he is and not too mention basically a pedifile (spellcheck?)..so I just thought SOMEONE should see his true character.

Hello! So sorry about your awful experience after spending lots of money. Hope you could finish the divorce process so you would have peace of mind. If he really got his GC, well, let him go own with his life and not bother you anymore. At least you already got rid of him in your life. Continue to move on. This guy is absolutely very tricky, wise and liar -- he used you to get the visa. I'm wondering how he was still able to adjust status without your support, despite of your written complaint with the USCIS. He's very good, I'm sure someone helped him with the paperwork. Anyway,let it go and trust God. Don't continue with your stress and to spend more money -- cut your losses. Let the truth comes out -- as God sees us everyday. No worry if he wasn't telling the truth. That's always the case as he clearly wants GC. I'm sure one day he would realize his mistakes as definitely with this kind of character he won't get further in life. Getting a GC is not guaranteed to have a happy and prosperous life. Take care and God bless you !

[Que Saudade 284]

You wrote a statement, then let him come and go 2 more times. I am sure he used that to his advantage and basically made you look crazy.

The immigration provisions under VAWA allow qualifying immigrant survivors of domestic violence to file for immigration relief without their abuser's assistance or knowledge. Approved self-petitioners have greater safeguards against deportation, qualify for employment authorization, may qualify for certain governmental benefits, and may qualify for Legal Permanent Residence.

Edited August 25, 2012 by Que Saudade

[Sandra G. 5,054]

My advice is close this chapter in your life and move on.He is a scammer and you were scammed. He got his GC already, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

[epsonderby 85]

You wrote a statement, then let him come and go 2 more times. I am sure he used that to his advantage and basically made you look crazy.

The immigration provisions under VAWA allow qualifying immigrant survivors of domestic violence to file for immigration relief without their abuser's assistance or knowledge. Approved self-petitioners have greater safeguards against deportation, qualify for employment authorization, may qualify for certain governmental benefits, and may qualify for Legal Permanent Residence.

Do USCIS just take the VAWA at face value from the petitioner's perspective? I can understand how that would benefit the genuine cases, really I can. I just can't help thinking it's a perfect scenario for a well-trained fraudster to abuse.

Edited for spelling...

Edited August 25, 2012 by epsonderby

[livindadream 156]

I hope that I didn't come across as judging or not sympathetic at all. I can imagine it's been a tough few years for you and then to find that he's still here living his life without consequences must stick in the throat somewhat.

I don't understand VAWA, but I would assume that they would have thought to check in with you to at least get your side of the story at least? You'd have thought that if you had something attached to his file, they would have noted it's content and used that to prevent his AOS? I'm not sure what information you could obtain from ICE/USCIS as you technically don't have a right to be notified or be a party to their decision making process. Got to love the privacy laws in the developed world, right?

The stuff you mentioned about him grooming a minor isn't an immigration issue, but a criminal issue - if you have proof then contact the local police and get them to act, quickly!

Good advice, and yeah, the laws really need to change. They never contact the other party to get their side of it and I have no idea how that statement I submitted just went without becoming a red flag. Just so unbelievable and gives me such lack of respect for the 'system'.

[livindadream 156]

Sorry to hear about your situation. I would take the other posters advice and file your divorce and move on with your life. He will get what he deserves...

yes our divorce is final. It has been since last year.

[Que Saudade 284]

Do people actually read the posts in the thread??? The OP stated her divorce is final.

I predict another hot thread with wild posts that get off topic...

I just can not believe that in America, a true scam can get away scott free.

So, never in the history of VAWA has someone been proven to have lied and the status was rejected?? Ever???

[livindadream 156]

Hello! So sorry about your awful experience after spending lots of money. Hope you could finish the divorce process so you would have peace of mind. If he really got his GC, well, let him go own with his life and not bother you anymore. At least you already got rid of him in your life. Continue to move on. This guy is absolutely very tricky, wise and liar -- he used you to get the visa. I'm wondering how he was still able to adjust status without your support, despite of your written complaint with the USCIS. He's very good, I'm sure someone helped him with the paperwork. Anyway,let it go and trust God. Don't continue with your stress and to spend more money -- cut your losses. Let the truth comes out -- as God sees us everyday. No worry if he wasn't telling the truth. That's always the case as he clearly wants GC. I'm sure one day he would realize his mistakes as definitely with this kind of character he won't get further in life. Getting a GC is not guaranteed to have a happy and prosperous life. Take care and God bless you !

oh yes...one of the Nigerian people he 'friended' here is a lawyer! Im sure he's going to be owing him for life. Its so disgusting how they know how to manipulate the system. And I feel so responsible for letting it happen. Its not a good feeling at all.

[livindadream 156]

You wrote a statement, then let him come and go 2 more times. I am sure he used that to his advantage and basically made you look crazy.

The immigration provisions under VAWA allow qualifying immigrant survivors of domestic violence to file for immigration relief without their abuser's assistance or knowledge. Approved self-petitioners have greater safeguards against deportation, qualify for employment authorization, may qualify for certain governmental benefits, and may qualify for Legal Permanent Residence.

Obviously I WAS crazy for allowing it to happen. I am so guilty of that. But you know..I had those love blinders on and I just kept thinking that I had gone thru so much to have him be there with me, that why wont I just try again...and again...and again...Stupid of me, I know.

[livindadream 156]

Do USCIS just take the VAWA at face value from the petitioner's perspective? I can understand how that would benefit the genuine cases, really I can. I just can't help thinking it's a perfect scenario for a well-trained fraudster to abuse.

Edited for spelling...

Exactly my point. Its not fair. Im sure all he had to do was get a few signed statements (from people he cried victim to) saying that he had to stay with them cuz he was 'thrown out" or something to that effect. Which is ridiculous cuz each time he left, I stood there crying and begging him not to go.

Do people actually read the posts in the thread??? The OP stated her divorce is final.

I predict another hot thread with wild posts that get off topic...

I just can not believe that in America, a true scam can get away scott free.

So, never in the history of VAWA has someone been proven to have lied and the status was rejected?? Ever???

that's what im trying to find out. If it has, I would like to try, this man has no right to be here, and he is really gloating over the fact that he is here.

[epsonderby 85]

Exactly my point. Its not fair. Im sure all he had to do was get a few signed statements (from people he cried victim to) saying that he had to stay with them cuz he was 'thrown out" or something to that effect. Which is ridiculous cuz each time he left, I stood there crying and begging him not to go.

It's a crying shame that it's so easy to do. I'm not sure how you'd make it harder as to do that could stop genuine people from filing VAWA cases. A tough one!

I would gather all your evidence together and perhaps make an Infopass appointment. I'm not sure but I think that ICE works out of USCIS field offices?

[Que Saudade 284]

Obviously I WAS crazy for allowing it to happen. I am so guilty of that. But you know..I had those love blinders on and I just kept thinking that I had gone thru so much to have him be there with me, that why wont I just try again...and again...and again...Stupid of me, I know.

I hear you. I've done it before. The only difference is that there wasn't an immigration carrot dangling at the end of the string.

If anything good comes out of this, maybe others can learn something.

If you fiancé/spouse comes over here and then disappears for weeks without a word....they better be kidnapped or dead.

Other than that..... HIt the road jack (or jill).. and when immigration involved... Notify the authorities...

Good luck....

[livindadream 156]

It's a crying shame that it's so easy to do. I'm not sure how you'd make it harder as to do that could stop genuine people from filing VAWA cases. A tough one!

I would gather all your evidence together and perhaps make an Infopass appointment. I'm not sure but I think that ICE works out of USCIS field offices?

that would be great. Im going to look into doing that.

I hear you. I've done it before. The only difference is that there wasn't an immigration carrot dangling at the end of the string.

If anything good comes out of this, maybe others can learn something.

If you fiancé/spouse comes over here and then disappears for weeks without a word....they better be kidnapped or dead.

Other than that..... HIt the road jack (or jill).. and when immigration involved... Notify the authorities...

Good luck....

:thumbs:

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Hi everyone. I will try to condense the story and just say, in 2007 I went to Nigeria for a short time to meet a guy I met online in 2006. I came home and filed the fiance petition, he was granted the K-1 Visa. He came and we married within a month. We needed 1000 dollars to file the adjustment of status but didnt have the money at the time to do this because 1. I had supported him AND myself the whole time he was in Nigeria since meeting him in 2006 online (even before i ever went to see him). 2. I paid for the entire trip to Nigeria myself. 3. I paid for his plane ticket to come to the US after he was given the visa....so yeah, I was pretty much in a financial wreck. So I didnt have the 1000 to start the adjustment of status. I guess he got impatient and after 2 months (after meeting a network of other Nigerians in our area), he took off....disappeared. AFter 3 weeks of him being gone I went to Homeland SEcurity and told them I think I had been used for a visa for him to get here. They had me write a statement explaining that he left and that I no longer wanted to support him, etc. I gave it to her after writing it, and she said it will go in his file. A week later, he appeared again and I was foolish enough to take him back. I never retracted anything I had wrote that day at Homeland security and I never even told him I did that. Another month goes by and although I was trying my best to save the $1000 while maintaining our household, I was still just observing his moves to see if he was really here for me or what. A month goes by, and he takes off again. This time for 3 weeks. He comes back, I let him back again. At this point there was no way in Hell I was in any rush to start adjusting anything cuz I felt he was only coming back cuz he felt he had a better chance to stay with me and get his greencard and THEN leave. So I watched what will happen, and sure enough 2 months later, he left AGAIN. This time for good. He disappeared, changed his number, wouldnt respond me on email, messenger, nothing. At that point, I just moved on with my life and try to pretend he never existed even though I was devestated. My friends said that I should try to have him deported, etc...but after going thru so much effort to get him here...and then try to make him stay..the fight in me was gone. I didnt want to waste one more day of my life even thinking about this guy. After some months, I found out thru some other Nigerian friends of mine, that he PROBABLY had filed the thing called VAWA. I had no idea what that was, but it all made sense to me when I started hearing about it. Its like as soon as he got with his "network of Nigerian friends" they must've schooled him on the whole process and how to 'beat the system". I was furious cuz I could only imagine the lies he must've made up just to try to convince them that he was somehow the victim. I was disgusted to know that they don't even try to get your side of anything!! And wouldnt they have seen the first letter I had wrote when he first left in his so-called file ? I was pretty devestated as if everything wasnt so bad already with the whole situation. Anyhow, I just tried to kick it off me so that I didnt drown in all of it. So fast forward about a year, I filed for a divorce which was going to take a long time to do cuz I didnt know where he was so I had to do the newspaper publication and all that #######. I then find out thru someone that he was given a greencard!! a 10 year one if im not mistaken and that he was even boasting about how in 3 years he could apply to become a citizen!! I ws so disgusted by this. He played the whole victim role and tried to make me think it was all me 'and my imagination". LIke when I found a profile of him on Naijapals that he had set up once he came to the US and NEVER told me about it. He had himself listed on there as SINGLE and had a bunch of comments to other women on his profile, etc. Or how I found phone records of him calling "singles chat lines". but when confronted he told me, he just did that to see if I was watching his phone calls!! OMGGGG ...The guy is a real winner. So im sure he never told USCIS that he is this type of guy. I now have done some investigating and I found out where he lives, works, his phone number, etc. I had one of my friends "friend" him on facebook and withing 2 days he was telling her he loved her, and talking all kinds of 'sexual stuff" to her. We even went as far as catching him talking to someone who clearly said they were 16 years old (he is 37) and he was asking her for nude pics, and telling her all kinds of sexual things he wants to do with her. He is trying to set up her coming to see him next weekend. SOOO..my question is...He has had his greencard for probably about a year and a half. Is it too late for me to do anything? Is it too late to present any evidence to immigration or do anything???? And if it's not too late, where do I begin? Thanks for listening and any advice you can give!!

Groan.

This is becoming an epidemic it seems.

Good luck and be careful.

[epsonderby 85]

that would be great. Im going to look into doing that.

Good luck with it all and hopefully you can update us all down the road that progress has been made?