fighting VAWA

[livindadream 156]

I will definitely update ! Thanks again for all the good advice!

[epsonderby 85]

I hope it all works out for you!

[nate and riyn 11]

better to call the USCIS or any government that can help you.. and seek for an advise... im sorry to hear your story i felt bad about it!

[livindadream 156]

I hope it all works out for you!

thanks

[Olomi_811 130]

What has your current husband said about the energy you've devoted to this?

[Xanax 349]

I am so sorry you're going through this. I wish you best of luck and hope you can move on with your life.

[BethandBilly 86]

Whether the OP is remarried or not is of no concern of yours of mine, but I do know one thing, if I were her new partner I would be helping her fight to clear her name, I would help her every step of the way. So rather than making the OP feel guilty for trying to clear her name after been scammed and probably found guilty of abuse (VAWA) you should offer support and not make her feel guilty for trying to clear her name. I think your post is disgusting!

OP I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you get the guys backside thrown out of the US, GOOD LUCK

What has your current husband said about the energy you've devoted to this?

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

Hi...

According to your post you are not 100% certain he filed VAWA.. I would expect that if he did you would have experienced problems when you petitioned your current husband..

[resignedtoinswhim 8]

Hi everyone. I will try to condense the story and just say, in 2007 I went to Nigeria for a short time to meet a guy I met online in 2006. I came home and filed the fiance petition, he was granted the K-1 Visa. He came and we married within a month. We needed 1000 dollars to file the adjustment of status but didnt have the money at the time to do this because 1. I had supported him AND myself the whole time he was in Nigeria since meeting him in 2006 online (even before i ever went to see him). 2. I paid for the entire trip to Nigeria myself. 3. I paid for his plane ticket to come to the US after he was given the visa....so yeah, I was pretty much in a financial wreck. So I didnt have the 1000 to start the adjustment of status. I guess he got impatient and after 2 months (after meeting a network of other Nigerians in our area), he took off....disappeared. AFter 3 weeks of him being gone I went to Homeland SEcurity and told them I think I had been used for a visa for him to get here. They had me write a statement explaining that he left and that I no longer wanted to support him, etc. I gave it to her after writing it, and she said it will go in his file. A week later, he appeared again and I was foolish enough to take him back. I never retracted anything I had wrote that day at Homeland security and I never even told him I did that. Another month goes by and although I was trying my best to save the $1000 while maintaining our household, I was still just observing his moves to see if he was really here for me or what. A month goes by, and he takes off again. This time for 3 weeks. He comes back, I let him back again. At this point there was no way in Hell I was in any rush to start adjusting anything cuz I felt he was only coming back cuz he felt he had a better chance to stay with me and get his greencard and THEN leave. So I watched what will happen, and sure enough 2 months later, he left AGAIN. This time for good. He disappeared, changed his number, wouldnt respond me on email, messenger, nothing. At that point, I just moved on with my life and try to pretend he never existed even though I was devestated. My friends said that I should try to have him deported, etc...but after going thru so much effort to get him here...and then try to make him stay..the fight in me was gone. I didnt want to waste one more day of my life even thinking about this guy. After some months, I found out thru some other Nigerian friends of mine, that he PROBABLY had filed the thing called VAWA. I had no idea what that was, but it all made sense to me when I started hearing about it. Its like as soon as he got with his "network of Nigerian friends" they must've schooled him on the whole process and how to 'beat the system". I was furious cuz I could only imagine the lies he must've made up just to try to convince them that he was somehow the victim. I was disgusted to know that they don't even try to get your side of anything!! And wouldnt they have seen the first letter I had wrote when he first left in his so-called file ? I was pretty devestated as if everything wasnt so bad already with the whole situation. Anyhow, I just tried to kick it off me so that I didnt drown in all of it. So fast forward about a year, I filed for a divorce which was going to take a long time to do cuz I didnt know where he was so I had to do the newspaper publication and all that #######. I then find out thru someone that he was given a greencard!! a 10 year one if im not mistaken and that he was even boasting about how in 3 years he could apply to become a citizen!! I ws so disgusted by this. He played the whole victim role and tried to make me think it was all me 'and my imagination". LIke when I found a profile of him on Naijapals that he had set up once he came to the US and NEVER told me about it. He had himself listed on there as SINGLE and had a bunch of comments to other women on his profile, etc. Or how I found phone records of him calling "singles chat lines". but when confronted he told me, he just did that to see if I was watching his phone calls!! OMGGGG ...The guy is a real winner. So im sure he never told USCIS that he is this type of guy. I now have done some investigating and I found out where he lives, works, his phone number, etc. I had one of my friends "friend" him on facebook and withing 2 days he was telling her he loved her, and talking all kinds of 'sexual stuff" to her. We even went as far as catching him talking to someone who clearly said they were 16 years old (he is 37) and he was asking her for nude pics, and telling her all kinds of sexual things he wants to do with her. He is trying to set up her coming to see him next weekend. SOOO..my question is...He has had his greencard for probably about a year and a half. Is it too late for me to do anything? Is it too late to present any evidence to immigration or do anything???? And if it's not too late, where do I begin? Thanks for listening and any advice you can give!!

Immediately contact police and tip them that he is a pedophile grooming minors online. present the police with evidence and ask them help regarding this meeting that he is setting up with 16 yrs old for sexual encounter. As a responsible citizen you can atleast do this part. A convicted felon will have a hard time keeping his GC and becoming a citizen.

Contact USCIS and report marriage fraud. Ask them to open a file for you. In case he hasn't got his GC, the evidence that you will present to USCIS will help.

[Shiobhan 235]

U R divorced so move on, your feelings are hurt, but he's off somewhere being happy...somehow this story does not

surprise me, these worldwind engagements uh....Oh well chalk it up as experience and get the proofs U have of him

luring the underage to the authorities & maybe contact her parents they'll move faster than the police who may feel U have

an axe to grind

[from.thesouth 0]

He did file the VAWA thing. that is the only way he could've stayed without doing the process with me. He just conveniently waited til we married to start all the BS. HE told them things like I kicked him out, etc etc. Which is sooo soo untrue. And why would immigration even beleive that stuff? I mean really, I waited for him for almost 2 years to get here and then I kick him out in a month? give me a break. it had fraud written all over it and our system is really messed up cuz they allow him to stay. And THIS is why it is so friggin hard for the GENUINE couples to get approved, cuz of people like him.

I'm so sad to hear this :-(

[livindadream 156]

What has your current husband said about the energy you've devoted to this?

Honestly, not much energy has been put into it. The information almost just fell on my lap. Now I feel like I should do something with it. He feels I should just write the USCIS a letter and detail all the events of him leaving, etc. and then just leave it in their hands. He also thought that the conversation the 16 year old girl forwarded me should be sent to his job, the police and most of all his family back in Nigeria. AFter that, he feels it will be in God's hands and just leave it at that. I kind of agree. But to me, he just does not deserve to be in the US. He got there on false pretenses. Why is he allowed to be there? It's just getting me mad.

[livindadream 156]

Whether the OP is remarried or not is of no concern of yours of mine, but I do know one thing, if I were her new partner I would be helping her fight to clear her name, I would help her every step of the way. So rather than making the OP feel guilty for trying to clear her name after been scammed and probably found guilty of abuse (VAWA) you should offer support and not make her feel guilty for trying to clear her name. I think your post is disgusting!

OP I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you get the guys backside thrown out of the US, GOOD LUCK

thanks you thank you thank you. This is the reason I hesitate at times to post on here, because people are sooo judgemental. But this is how we learn from each other right? Its totally humiliating to expose myself in this way and tell about how I was played for a fool, but I did it in hopes to getting help/advice. I suspect a lot of people who come on VJ while going thru their process, and then realize they've been scammed for GC, just walk away from the site out of embarassment and never come on here again. That was me! I was on here (akinstacey) faithfully back in 2006/2007 and then when he left, I stayed off for years. Never let anyone know what had happened. I don't think that helps anyone by doing that. But then again, when you open yourself up, and put your business out here, you unfortunately are subject to rude comments. I guess it comes with the territory.

[livindadream 156]

Hi...

According to your post you are not 100% certain he filed VAWA.. I would expect that if he did you would have experienced problems when you petitioned your current husband..

HE DID. its 100% certain. And me and my husband live together in Ghana for 3 years. WE havent done any filing, petitioning or anything. We are cool and happy just being together. The day WILL come when we do go thru it, and I plan on being armed at that point to counter anything that scammer has ever said about me.

U R divorced so move on, your feelings are hurt, but he's off somewhere being happy...somehow this story does not

surprise me, these worldwind engagements uh....Oh well chalk it up as experience and get the proofs U have of him

luring the underage to the authorities & maybe contact her parents they'll move faster than the police who may feel U have

an axe to grind

:thumbs:

[SingleDad2usc 71]

"I then find out thru someone that he was given a greencard!!"

I really-really need your advice, OP, on how to find out LPR status of spouse. Help?