is my fiance a fraud?

[Indykittykeilah 18]

You should be able to email or call the Consulate office and you should. This does not sound like something a man in love would say to his intended. It sounds scary.

[Newbie608 103]

Obviously your finance is stupid and arrogant..sorry. If he's acting like that and haven't reached anywhere in the process, how is he going to treat you when he come here? Maybe he just want a visa to come here. Little does he know because when he comes here, he has to marry you. There is no way he can adjust his status without you. He can't come here, leave you and go find someone else because K-1 visas don't allow you to do that...

I would say, if you feel uncomfortable, end it!!

[Newbie608 103]

Woooiiieeeee!! I would love to be listening on that call when she tells him that!

Lol...he would change for the better....

[Sandra G. 5,075]

Even if he is not a scammer, I believe he is, I don't think you want or deserve to get married with someone treats you poorly huh?.There is a difference between arguments and disrespect and your fiance saying he will soon get his visa and he doesn't have to deal with you bugging him is very VERY disrespectful.You deserve better.

Some people they just want to get in USA. They don't care about adjusting status, getting married. They just want to get in the USA.I believe this guy as soon he gets in USA he will stop having contact with you.We have scammers in all Countries, but let's be honest here we know there are some Countries people lie, cheat, deceive just to get out of their Country.

Edited August 24, 2012 by sandranj

[NY_BX 397]

I've read the thread and I agree the best tactic to find out his true intentions is to suggest you moving to Jamaica- giving his 7 denials on record as an excuse. You could hint at the possibility of being denied the K-1 Visa- which is not far fetched. If he becomes irate and you're 'bugging him again,' there you go. Most of the posters here have read enough stories to know this souns like a typical fraud/ scam scene. I personally would hate to read about you being the next victim. Use your gut instinct wisely, because if he is using you- and he's in the US- it could get horribly wrong with a child in the middle. And I'm speaking financially- it is expensive to have a spouse that can't work for a while (up until the EAD) plus a baby. That is considering he stays, marries you, AOS and does everything right. If not, you've signed an affidavit of support for someone that has abandoned you and your child and only god knows what he's doing. Yes, he is deportable and may suffer a lifetime ban, but in the meantime he is partly (on paper) your responsibility.

To this, add then your personal life- your relationship. As a woman, I'd be pissed if a man talked to me like that. Oh, I'm bugging you? really? You don't wanna deal with me when you arrive? Well, goodbye then. That's it! But that's me. Self-respect is even more important with a child on the way. A child MUST see how adults need to be treated.

All this said, my gut instinct tells me this man has some skeletons in his closet, enough to be denied 7 times. I wouldn't be surprised if he's denied the K-1. I really do wish you the best. Only you know how to proceed with this journey.

Edited August 24, 2012 by NY_BX

[wilfon 30]

I am so happy i found this site. I filed a petition for my fiance for a k1 visa. Recently i have been having doubts about him being genuine. Now that his interview is coming up, he is acting very strange,he always starts argument with me for no reason. He even made a few comments about he doesn't need me bugging him anymore and he will soon get his visa so he doesn't have to deal with me bugging him. We met february of 2011 and I know that he has applied for about 7 tourists visa,all were denied, is this suspicious?. I don't know what to do, my sister told me i should end things before he commits fraud. What can i do at this stage? How do i know he is planning fraud? Thanks.

-Kristina

Get rid of that guy, he sounds like nothing but trouble. This is supposed to be one of the happiest times of your lives and if he is already being so smug and arrogant even before he gets his visa, just imagine how horrible he will treat you after he gets what he wants. You don't need the drama and future heartbreak. It my hurt a little now but you will feel much better in the long run. Good luck to you.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Scammers abound online looking for some USC to get them in the door. Some will stay about for a bit because they understand US immigration laws. Some will disappear right from the airport. The worse ones are those that "have a plan" that not only involves getting into the US but in getting "their share" of the USC's property. They will be abusive in the worse way. The last thing a pregnant woman needs is a man that feels pestered and who in person will be more apt to lash out physically than verbally. I can't prove the man is a scammer but I do know he isn't worth it. If he treats you this way verbally before you are together and married it will get worse, much worse as time goes on. Do you want your child to grow up with this man as an image of good ? You deserve much better, your child deserves better. This man will only suck the life out of you and dump you when he is done.

[Pinkrlion 2,724]

only you can know how you guys are when you are toghether. If you are having this many second thoughts about it then you really need to search within yourself. How does he treat you when you are visiting him?? has he ever talked about family in the US?

I dont think that he has any legal rights to the child if he stays in Jamaica. To his defense, is he maybe just stressed out about the whole process?? anxious about starting a new life in a few weeks and so on..... these are all things you need to consider. Nobody else can decide that for you.

I wish you good luck

IDK, I have been bugging my fiance', making him get up early and go take care of all the needed paperwork, etc... Making checklists, texting back and forth, asking him questions, obtaining specific information and details, among other stuff. Never made rude comments, or referencing that "he is tired of me bugging him, and after he gets the visa ..."

Did you ask him what did he mean by that comment????

There was a thread last week with a similar situation, but she was not in the final process. I will tell you the same thing. You know in your heart and gut, what is going on. The main issue I believe is that with 7 denials for tourist visa, he will be placed in AP.

I am not sure about stopping the entire process, but to e-mail about his interview to cancel it, you e-mail: KingstonIVappointment@state.gov

I think that you need to call USCIS and talk to a Tier 2 Supervisor to get the specific directions. You are not able to call the JA embassy, they only respond to e-mail.

[velrich 50]

OP, from the details in your opening post, his behavior is indeed of concern. However, an even bigger alarm is this: who would apply for so many tourist visas -- and keep applying and applying and applying -- without having very serious immigrant intent? Most people would give up after a couple of denials, three at most -- but he persisted.

I know someone in Jamaica who applied every year for 11 straight years. She finally got it in year 11 and took about 4 years to finally travel on it.

Strange things do happen.

[Que Saudade 284]

How many of you read through the entire thread?

Try reading what has already been correctly given and refrain from saying it over and over and over again. It makes you look like a

You read the first part and then jump straight to reply without examining the contents.

Plus, do you see the OP replying to any of the nonsense?

Go start a thread in Off-Topic and hash it out.

[TnJ 131]

Marriage is an investment in each other. If your SO is being completely disrespectful about all you are putting forth into being with them, it just might be a sign of things to come. Nobody can tell you your fiance is a fraud, but the fact that you have come to look for answers from strangers should be a clue to something. From the way you put it, he has made blatant insinuations about his motives. He doesn't need to put up with you because he is about to get the visa? That is all I am reading here. Think about it.

[BOSTONGARDEN 0]

Wow, I really feel for you. You said you have a child on the way and already he says he doesn't need you.

He is very bold and he sounds he might be verbally abusive ?

It is called an anchor-baby.

A girl I know got pregnant too and once he had his papers he was careless in the choice of words and admitted that he put her pregnant just to get his papers and then felt cornered by her reaction and shock....he then told her that she better watch out or he kidnap the child just to punish her for not being agreable. This sounds extreme maybe to you but devasting to this girl. He left her and she then was paranoid for years about the safety of her child.

Every city has a free immigration advice office...I would find out where yours is and have a consultation and know what you are stepping into before it is to late. A warned women is worth 3 women.

Having been denied for tourist visa is weird for sure. He might get into the country and then disapear on you. Does he know anybody else in the USA? Have you ever done a background search on him?

I definatley would not put his name as father on the birth certificat in the baginning. If later turns out he was genuine...you can always adjust that when you do get married. Ask your parents for their opinion and help too if you are close to them. IF he knows you dont have support...he will use that in his advantage.

good luck with everthing

Edited August 24, 2012 by BOSTONGARDEN

[BOSTONGARDEN 0]

Scammers abound online looking for some USC to get them in the door. Some will stay about for a bit because they understand US immigration laws. Some will disappear right from the airport. The worse ones are those that "have a plan" that not only involves getting into the US but in getting "their share" of the USC's property. They will be abusive in the worse way. The last thing a pregnant woman needs is a man that feels pestered and who in person will be more apt to lash out physically than verbally. I can't prove the man is a scammer but I do know he isn't worth it. If he treats you this way verbally before you are together and married it will get worse, much worse as time goes on. Do you want your child to grow up with this man as an image of good ? You deserve much better, your child deserves better. This man will only suck the life out of you and dump you when he is done.

VERY WELL SAID !!!!!!

[dwheels76 5,469]

He even made a few comments about he doesn't need me bugging him anymore and he will soon get his visa so he doesn't have to deal with me bugging him.

That comment bothers me more than anything. I mean does he even plan to marry you when he gets to the US? There is no Visa for him unless he does that so what is his true intentions.

I agree with the poster who said you think it would be better to raise the baby there and you want to move to Jamaica. If its love it shouldn't matter where you live. He is marrying you not a greencard right?

Really sorry for all this. You don't need this drama with a baby on the way. All the best in your decision and God Bless.

[InHisTime 110]

Hello! I think most of the VJ members gave you a very good advices. The fact that you are having second thought, then there is a great chance of disaster. Love is really blind. Our instinct says the truth, but we tend to cover it because of love.

If you aren't sure yet of your final decision to cancel the petition, probably you may want to defer or reset his visa interview to a later date. This is possible for K-1. Slow down and notice his reactions for a couple of weeks. Just wondering why he is really obsessed of getting US VISA after 7 times denial -- very strange !

As what they say, if you think he is not good for you then cut your losses. You deserve someone nice and loving one. Thank God that you have discovered him earlier than later. I wish you well and congratulations on your baby! It's a blessing coming your way ! Take care always and God bless you and your baby