is my fiance a fraud?

[Lisel N Javier 3]

look maybe is all the presure of the interview too cuz at that me and my fiance started has some problems too but after that everything went back to nomal .. ofcourse never trust anyone fully . but maybe stress is the problem

[GodsGift225 54]

Agreed

Very well put!

[afoyoswa 178]

Only you can really completely see what is going on and make a decision, but from what you have said, there are a bunch of really enormous red flags. Any of those things individually (the multiple visa applications, the "bugging" comments, and the indications that he is planning for how things will be different after he gets the visa & is in the U.S.) would be cause for concern, but all of them together sounds really, really suspicious to me.

[MarMire 2]

. We met february of 2011 and ..........

Can somebody explain if not 2 years since they met persoanlly, how they aproved that peticion? is only 1 and half years, an i supossed that they start the process, was less. thanks.

[elyhim 41]

Didn't they start k1 January of 12? so they met the requirement.

[afoyoswa 178]

Can somebody explain if not 2 years since they met persoanlly, how they aproved that peticion? is only 1 and half years, an i supossed that they start the process, was less. thanks.

The requirement is that you've seen each other in person within the last 2 years, not that you have known each other for 2 years.

[X Factor 1,112]

OP,

Although I feel slightly guilty about offering this suggestion, you could try this since you have such serious doubts already...

Just tell him you are starting to consider moving THERE instead of his moving here, and see how he reacts.

:thumbs:

[MarMire 2]

The requirement is that you've seen each other in person within the last 2 years, not that you have known each other for 2 years.

ohhhhh thanks.

[islandgal 74]

:thumbs:

Lol. He'll say... "yuh mad?"

[SweetieOne 41]

Lol. He'll say... "yuh mad?"

A Tru ting dat B-) B-)

[djricky4 67]

A Tru ting dat B-) B-)

i know peeps want the visa bad but i never knew of some one who went 7 times, i think she should tell him she dont think he is going to get approved for that reason so she is gonna move to Ja to be with him and decide from then base on the response.

[JohnR! 5,495]

He even made a few comments about he doesn't need me bugging him anymore and he will soon get his visa so he doesn't have to deal with me bugging him.

-Kristina

IMHO the question you should be asking is whether you really want to marry him ? Is that what you are looking for in a husband?

I apologize if it sounds harsh, but I don't know how to put it mildly in this case...

[VivaBaños 2]

Just wondering if the OP has any updates for us today?

I just read the entire thread and it's such a difficult situation to be in, but it sounded like a gut concern was heard with enough time to stop the process if the OP chooses.

We're all here hoping for the very best for you and your baby and wishing you clarity of mind as you make this decision.

Let us know how you proceed.

[islandgal 74]

i know peeps want the visa bad but i never knew of some one who went 7 times, i think she should tell him she dont think he is going to get approved for that reason so she is gonna move to Ja to be with him and decide from then base on the response.

Woooiiieeeee!! I would love to be listening on that call when she tells him that!

[Dana and Divine 61]

You guys are great! Thank you. I will contact them asap. Another question, will this affect me if in the future for some reason i decide to file another petition? Should i tell my fiance i will withdraw the petition and that he should not go to the interview? Will they tell him when he goes to his interview?

I know a friend who withdrew her petition,they are married (IR-1/CR-1). She withdrew because she was upset at her spouse. Now they are starting all over again because they were denied. "Yes", this decision will most definitely affect you, him and your unborn child for life. It will also be part of a deciding factor if you file another petition. So weigh your options carefully.

If you know your fiancee is coming here with no other intention than to immigrate, then withdrawing your petition is not going to make your situation any worse. A child does not make it "a must" to marry the man who helped you create him/her, but know, you will, most likely, be raising the child alone, and without support of any type. ON AN ADDITIONAL NOTE: If your fiancee is coming here for immigration purposes only, you will be raising this child alone, and most likely, without any type of support, anyway.

If this is just a spat, I would suggest dropping it now and both of you should really think about if you are ready for marriage. If you marry, neither of you should ever use the immigration process as a means to threaten the other person or make them feel that you will leave them, turn them over to authorities, make false petitions or accusations, etc., as part of a fight. That is petty and cruel and is a form of verbal abuse.

Think wisely and make decisions only when you are thinking clearly and not angry. I wish you both all the best and Congratulations on your baby. Children are a blessing!