is my fiance a fraud?

[kristinakan 12]

I am so happy i found this site. I filed a petition for my fiance for a k1 visa. Recently i have been having doubts about him being genuine. Now that his interview is coming up, he is acting very strange,he always starts argument with me for no reason. He even made a few comments about he doesn't need me bugging him anymore and he will soon get his visa so he doesn't have to deal with me bugging him. We met february of 2011 and I know that he has applied for about 7 tourists visa,all were denied, is this suspicious?. I don't know what to do, my sister told me i should end things before he commits fraud. What can i do at this stage? How do i know he is planning fraud? Thanks.

-Kristina

[kennym 275]

You and only you, know how your BF is...

It's very interesting that he hasn't had his interview yet, and is acting that way.. Seems pretty arrogant..

The fact is; love is blind, nobody can say anything that you dont already know.. Just remember, if he gets here and you submit the I864 (Affidavit of Support) on his behalf, you're stuck no matter what.. Ask yourself if you feel confident enough in him to sign up for that kind of responsibilty potentially for the rest of your life..

Put asside the heebee jeebees and the butterflies and the romantic memories and think clearly for a bit, then be honest with yourself and make a descission and stick to it..

You gotta be carefull with someone that arrogant at this stage of the game..

[Que Saudade 284]

Well, you don't really know. But, the fact that you are starting to have suspicions should be a red flag.

With the way he is acting, do you want to be married to that person? The 7 denied tourists visas... Were they before or after you guys were together?

As to answer your question, yes there are things you can do. Where in the process are you? When did you file I-129F? Has it been approved yet?

My advice would be to search your heart and soul. If you have concerns, by all means slow down things until you are sure. Do not rush a decision that you may regret. If it is genuine, it will stand the test of time. If not, then are you not better off in the long run?

I hope you discover peace of mind regarding your decision..!

[kristinakan 12]

You and only you, know how your BF is...

It's very interesting that he hasn't had his interview yet, and is acting that way.. Seems pretty arrogant..

The fact is; love is blind, nobody can say anything that you dont already know.. Just remember, if he gets here and you submit the I864 (Affidavit of Support) on his behalf, you're stuck no matter what.. Ask yourself if you feel confident enough in him to sign up for that kind of responsibilty potentially for the rest of your life..

Put asside the heebee jeebees and the butterflies and the romantic memories and think clearly for a bit, then be honest with yourself and make a descission and stick to it..

You gotta be carefull with someone that arrogant at this stage of the game..

Thank you for your reply, Can i withdraw my petition? What if he gets approved for the visa and come to the US?

[kennym 275]

what stage are you in?

Has the 1129 been approved?

Have you submited Packlet 4?

[JS&PL 3]

No one can speak for you but for a person to act like that even before getting the visa in hand is pretty suspicious if you ask me! He's naive in a a way that he believes he doesn't need you in his life after he gets his fiance visa!! Even if he gets approved at the interview and arrives the US with a K1 visa, he will still be going home if you don't marry him in 90 days!

Hope whatever decision you make will give you a peace of mind!

[Karee 4,190]

I am so happy i found this site. I filed a petition for my fiance for a k1 visa. Recently i have been having doubts about him being genuine. Now that his interview is coming up, he is acting very strange,he always starts argument with me for no reason. He even made a few comments about he doesn't need me bugging him anymore and he will soon get his visa so he doesn't have to deal with me bugging him. We met february of 2011 and I know that he has applied for about 7 tourists visa,all were denied, is this suspicious?. I don't know what to do, my sister told me i should end things before he commits fraud. What can i do at this stage? How do i know he is planning fraud? Thanks.

-Kristina

First thing is you filed a K-1, so I-864 doesn't apply. Only the I-134 which is not legally binding like the I-864 is. If he get's the K-1 visa it only gives him a single entry visa to the U.S. with the requirement that you marry within 90 days. Afther that you file to adjust status to a conditional permanent resident status (2 year green card)

It's your call, but the fact he has applied for 7 tourist visas, and was denied, sounds like he is more interested in coming to the U.S. than being married to you.

Best bet is to contact the consulate in Kingston, and tell them you are no longer wanting to continue with the process. Better to find out now than later.

[JS&PL 3]

what stage are you in?

Has the 1129 been approved?

Have you submited Packlet 4?

OP mentioned the interview is coming up! Any more details?

[kristinakan 12]

Well, you don't really know. But, the fact that you are starting to have suspicions should be a red flag.

With the way he is acting, do you want to be married to that person? The 7 denied tourists visas... Were they before or after you guys were together?

As to answer your question, yes there are things you can do. Where in the process are you? When did you file I-129F? Has it been approved yet?

My advice would be to search your heart and soul. If you have concerns, by all means slow down things until you are sure. Do not rush a decision that you may regret. If it is genuine, it will stand the test of time. If not, then are you not better off in the long run?

I hope you discover peace of mind regarding your decision..!

He applied for 6 of the visas before we were together and one last year around november. I file the i29f petition in january of this year. we got approved and the case is at the embassy, he has his interview date september 25.

[kennym 275]

First thing is you filed a K-1, so I-864 doesn't apply. Only the I-134 which is not legally binding like the I-864 is. If he get's the K-1 visa it only gives him a single entry visa to the U.S. with the requirement that you marry within 90 days. Afther that you file to adjust status to a conditional permanent resident status (2 year green card)

It's your call, but the fact he has applied for 7 tourist visas, and was denied, sounds like he is more interested in coming to the U.S. than being married to you.

Best bet is to contact the consulate in Kingston, and tell them you are no longer wanting to continue with the process. Better to find out now than later.

Be careful about the confusion you are creating... While true the I-134 is submitted for the Visa Interview, if she and her BF gets to the AOS stage, then she will be completing the I864 which commits her to potentially a lifetime..

He applied for 6 of the visas before we were together and one last year around november. I file the i29f petition in january of this year. we got approved and the case is at the embassy, he has his interview date september 25.

Have you sent the I-134 yet? I suppose you have since the interview is scheduled.. you need to Email the Kingston Embassy, ASAP and tell them you're withdrawing your sponsership... Before the interview... Dont send him any tax documents or financials stuff like paystubs..

Edited August 24, 2012 by kennym

[Que Saudade 284]

He applied for 6 of the visas before we were together and one last year around november. I file the i29f petition in january of this year. we got approved and the case is at the embassy, he has his interview date september 25.

If you truly want to withdraw your petition, you should contact the embassy and let them know you do not want to continue.

BTW, have you sent your I-134 and supporting evidence yet?

[Karee 4,190]

Be careful about the confusion you are creating... While true the I-134 is submitted for the Visa Interview, if she and her BF gets to the AOS stage, then she will be completing the I864 which commits her to potentially a lifetime..

Have you sent the I-134 yet?

That is exactly what I said. I-864 is legally binding, I-134 is not. Read it again.

[kristinakan 12]

First thing is you filed a K-1, so I-864 doesn't apply. Only the I-134 which is not legally binding like the I-864 is. If he get's the K-1 visa it only gives him a single entry visa to the U.S. with the requirement that you marry within 90 days. Afther that you file to adjust status to a conditional permanent resident status (2 year green card)

It's your call, but the fact he has applied for 7 tourist visas, and was denied, sounds like he is more interested in coming to the U.S. than being married to you.

Best bet is to contact the consulate in Kingston, and tell them you are no longer wanting to continue with the process. Better to find out now than later.

Thanks for all your guys comment and help. How do i contact the consulate, when i was inquiring about the case i wasn't able to contact them by telephone? Do i need to send a letter so they can have it in writing? I don't know what to do. How do i prove that those are his intentions? We also have a child on the way, how will this affect his rights? will i have to take the child to see him? this is all so overwhelming!

[kennym 275]

That is exactly what I said. I-864 is legally binding, I-134 is not. Read it again.

Yes, I agree, but the I864 could apply.. you said it does not apply. If they get to AOS Stage, it will apply...

[kristinakan 12]

Be careful about the confusion you are creating... While true the I-134 is submitted for the Visa Interview, if she and her BF gets to the AOS stage, then she will be completing the I864 which commits her to potentially a lifetime..

Have you sent the I-134 yet? I suppose you have since the interview is scheduled.. you need to Email the Kingston Embassy, ASAP and tell them you're withdrawing your sponsership... Before the interview... Dont send him any tax documents or financials stuff like paystubs..

The interview only needs a ds230 form to be scheduled. the 134 they said should be presented at the interview, i sent him a package by mail last week with all the stuff that is required for sponsor. I will try emailing them tomorrow and see what they say. How long will they take to respond? Will they cancelled everything? will there be a procedure?