Evidence of a True and Faitful Marriage - help!

[Laura&Nando 6]

Alright, so my husband and I have been married since June 17th, 2012, and he came to the US from Ecuador on the K1 Fiance Visa. We filed for AOS on June 22, and just got the letter saying our interview is for September 20, 2012. Our marriage is 100% true, legitimate, faithful, etc. etc. However, I'm afraid that we'll have a hard time proving it for a number of reasons.

1- Joint Lease. I signed the lease last August and it runs until September 1st of this year, so he's not on the lease. After it expires, it automatically switches to month-to-month which is PERFECT since I'll be graduating from graduate school in December and we might be relocating to another state. He DOES have his address there with his library card, bank account, social security, school records (he studied ESL where I teach for 2 months), and his drivers' license. He's not on any utilities, but I suppose we could try to switch them.

2- Insurance. I don't have health insurance currently because I'm a part time graduate student starting this semester and can't afford a policy, so we don't have joint health insurance. Now, if you think we'd be able to afford life insurance when we can't even afford health insurance, you're crazy. So that's no go. Car insurance is a problem since the car we use is in my parents' name and he's not on the policy. Is this a big problem?

3- Bills. As I said earlier, his name isn't on any of the utilities because he's not working so he has no credit in the US anyway, but we could try. He has a cell phone, but he's on the family plan with my parents and me, so all of our cell phones just say my father's name.

4- Joint checking account. We haven't gotten one yet because we've had such a busy last few months with a million different things. I wonder if it will look suspicious if we get a joint account after we got the notice for the interview?

5- Photos. We have got some photos of us since the wedding, and obviously a lot from the wedding. But not a ton since we're living on a tight budget (remember I'm a grad student and he hasn't been able to work since he was on the K1 visa), so we haven't been doing a ton of "photographable" things.

What other ways can we prove our relationship? We're creating a cooking blog for fun, would that count? what about "check ins" on facebook? Should we ask my bosses who know him well from when he studied at my university to write a letter? What about my family or friends?

Thanks for any advice you can give!

Laura&Nando

[Lornaevo 48]

Maybe you can get a notarized letter from your landlord saying he lives with you. Also try to get his name added to your bank account as that would help a whole lot.

[ryna 132]

Adding his name to the bank account will help. It won't look suspicious, it will look normal. You have some photos, which is good and they won't ask for a lot so you don't have to print dozens. I think my wife and I had maybe 12 to show the interviewer but they did cover various events/trips. You've only been married for 2 months, 3 months at interview time. Take what you have and answer any questions the interviewer may have. They will be straightforward - things like your address, birthdays of spouses, names of in-laws, your wedding date, questions regarding the places/people in the photos. You'll be fine!

[darulaloom2006 0]

hi there you have come to the right place my friend ok the first thing is you will need to show what you of course have available and most of the things you mentioned above are not what they are looking for in regards to etablishing a bonafide relationship things which you should try to make sure you have are as follows

1. skype video or phone call records

2. email messages you have sent to each other

3.all the flight itineraries and if available tickets itself when he or you visited each other

4. regarding the cell phone service which is on your farthers name that is not a problem just get the phone records printed out from the last couple months of your phone line( number)only and type a sepreate page stating the number which you would call to reach him and of course you will need to highlight that number you would call on the phone record if you had used multiple numbers in the past just right them all down on that seprate page

5.of course make sure to provide those wedding photos plus family photos which you have and photos of family as well

6. wedding video is a must they because they could hold you up just for that believe me go there with the notion knowing that they dont want to help you but rather provide a reason to deny you with this attitude you will make sure to have all the papers you never thought you could get

7. any monthly stipends which you had sent him showing you were supporting him in anyway

8.. my last advice to you is that you must remember that the us consulate in every country or the uscis for that matter doesnt give a dam about bringing loved ones together..... there job is to try and find out if there is. true relationship or is it for immigration benefits etc! so i am telling you right now there might be a little pain and sweat and probably even tears that might have to come out but you must i repeat must provide at the least all i have mentioned above and of course more evidence if possible do not stress on the house or utility things to much they understand to a degree he is a new immigrant and is being supported at the moment so focus on bringing evidence that shows you two are for real by the way that doesnt mean racy pictures lol just keep it pg13

[VivaBaños 2]

I've not gone through AOS so I'm not speaking from experience. But getting a couple of notarized affidavits from folks who know you as a couple can't hurt. We did this throughout the immigration process--quick, easy, and cheap (cost of notarization is SO cheap in the US compared to Ecuador)!

Suerte!

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

USCIS understands that newlyweds don't have a lot of evidence of co-mingling lives yet. Just go in with yourself! The worst case is they ask you some questions about your daily life and you answer and that's that. Don't freak out. Good luck.

[Laura&Nando 6]

Thanks everyone! Your answers have made us feel more confident. We might ask a few people to write letters talking about our relationship, etc. I like to be over-prepared. But this part of the process is DEFINITELY a lot less stressful than when we were separated during the I-129F process.

Thanks again!

[nekyo 3]

Thanks everyone! Your answers have made us feel more confident. We might ask a few people to write letters talking about our relationship, etc. I like to be over-prepared. But this part of the process is DEFINITELY a lot less stressful than when we were separated during the I-129F process.

Thanks again!

Ok i think i can relate to your case because we are in the same boat pretty much, although i have been married for a year. We weren't able to file for AOS right away so we had to wait and since i didn't have a SSN all this time, we haven't been able to get a whole lot of stuff with both our names on it. Just whatever small things we can get away with. We do have a joint checking/savings account. You should open one, it doesn't take but 30min. Letters from friends or family will also come in handy, as well as your landlord. Photos seem to always be a plus but what i think is also very important, CONFIDENCE! I have my interview coming up and i am rather nervous, luckily i have enough time to bring myself together and go out there with the right attitude. Good luck!! El que nada debe, nada teme!

[Holliver 0]

hi there you have come to the right place my friend ok the first thing is you will need to show what you of course have available and most of the things you mentioned above are not what they are looking for in regards to etablishing a bonafide relationship things which you should try to make sure you have are as follows

1. skype video or phone call records

2. email messages you have sent to each other

3.all the flight itineraries and if available tickets itself when he or you visited each other

4. regarding the cell phone service which is on your farthers name that is not a problem just get the phone records printed out from the last couple months of your phone line( number)only and type a sepreate page stating the number which you would call to reach him and of course you will need to highlight that number you would call on the phone record if you had used multiple numbers in the past just right them all down on that seprate page

5.of course make sure to provide those wedding photos plus family photos which you have and photos of family as well

6. wedding video is a must they because they could hold you up just for that believe me go there with the notion knowing that they dont want to help you but rather provide a reason to deny you with this attitude you will make sure to have all the papers you never thought you could get

7. any monthly stipends which you had sent him showing you were supporting him in anyway

8.. my last advice to you is that you must remember that the us consulate in every country or the uscis for that matter doesnt give a dam about bringing loved ones together..... there job is to try and find out if there is. true relationship or is it for immigration benefits etc! so i am telling you right now there might be a little pain and sweat and probably even tears that might have to come out but you must i repeat must provide at the least all i have mentioned above and of course more evidence if possible do not stress on the house or utility things to much they understand to a degree he is a new immigrant and is being supported at the moment so focus on bringing evidence that shows you two are for real by the way that doesnt mean racy pictures lol just keep it pg13

I don't think that is 100% correct. The OP is applying for AOS so the things he mentioned are necessary. The things you mention would be used as evidence for obtaining a K1 visa- except wedding photos. I doubt they would look at a video. You must show proof of an ongoing married relationship (not your relationship before marriage), hence utility bills, lease, insurance, bank accounts etc are evidence.

Like other people mentioned - you've only been married a short time so they understand that you don;t have everything. Just bring the best things you can. How about letters addressed to the same address?

Hope that helps.