Finding a new "inner voice"

[LOVE2OURBB 1]

I really enjoy reading your story, you gave me some good laughs, and it seems like you are both so happy, this is the kind of stories I like to read, I think for me it will be a little different my husband will be arriving to USA in two weeks after a long wait finally his visa was approved, but not to get out the subject I think Khalid will have a big culture shock despite the fact he is so happy to come to USA to be with us and he tells me he will respect every one but he will respect also his believes and traditions, fare enough for me, I am pretty strict myself and most of my friends are muslim americans so I think we will be ok, We already got a couple of dinners lined up for when he comes. Again I am loving the fact you are happy with your husband and he is enjoying himself in America. My husband is from Egypt but he lived all his life in a small city Damietta your husband will know what i talk about.

Congrats again and happy life together

[NY_BX 397]

I really enjoy reading your story, you gave me some good laughs, and it seems like you are both so happy, this is the kind of stories I like to read, I think for me it will be a little different my husband will be arriving to USA in two weeks after a long wait finally his visa was approved, but not to get out the subject I think Khalid will have a big culture shock despite the fact he is so happy to come to USA to be with us and he tells me he will respect every one but he will respect also his believes and traditions, fare enough for me, I am pretty strict myself and most of my friends are muslim americans so I think we will be ok, We already got a couple of dinners lined up for when he comes. Again I am loving the fact you are happy with your husband and he is enjoying himself in America. My husband is from Egypt but he lived all his life in a small city Damietta your husband will know what i talk about.

Congrats again and happy life together

Thank you. That's the culture shock I was referring to. But sounds like you're getting ready to handle it and help him with his transition.

Good luck!

[LOVE2OURBB 1]

Thank you HON and you too enjoy your time with your husband and be happy, I read other comments about people and Islam, My husband is Muslim himself and he prays 5 times a day, he fast, and he is very attached to the culture and religion and I AM SO PROUD OF THAT..but he also understands that respect to others is important and all he dreams for him is to come to this country and make me and our son happy, as he said to me yesterday I will respect every one and I will be happy as long you and I respect eachother as husband and wife" he perhaps does not accept the relationship among woman to woman and man to man but he respects as long as he does not affect him but than I ask myself who are we to judge others. So you go on and be happy! i respect every ones opinion but i dont think there is any need to take this subject to extreme and I think all you want to say here is you enjoy to see your husband adjust

[NY_BX 397]

Thank you HON and you too enjoy your time with your husband and be happy, I read other comments about people and Islam, My husband is Muslim himself and he prays 5 times a day, he fast, and he is very attached to the culture and religion and I AM SO PROUD OF THAT..but he also understands that respect to others is important and all he dreams for him is to come to this country and make me and our son happy, as he said to me yesterday I will respect every one and I will be happy as long you and I respect eachother as husband and wife" he perhaps does not accept the relationship among woman to woman and man to man but he respects as long as he does not affect him but than I ask myself who are we to judge others. So you go on and be happy! i respect every ones opinion but i dont think there is any need to take this subject to extreme and I think all you want to say here is you enjoy to see your husband adjust

Well, I congratulate you and thank you for your respect and tolerance. My husband is a devout Muslim with common sense- as he says. He'll never hurt anyone because it goes against 'his book.' He personally believes that's ungod-like. In fact, the person that helped him the most upon his arrival was my neighbor. I was at work, so my neighbor took 2 days off of work to help him with fixing some things in my apartment and teach him the transit system... again, I live in New York. The job that he has now, my neighbor helped him get it. It was a genuine desire to see him succeed given I have a good relationship with my neighbor. He is gay. My husband can't careless. And some of his friends in Egypt have even said horrid things about homosexuality; he always reminds them of the person who blindly offered a helping hand for him to live comfortably and happy whle I'm working.

[LOVE2OURBB 1]

I srongly agree with you, you look at the helping hand and nothing ealse. I was not born muslim all my family is chatolic but guess what? they love my husband and he loves them back and respect eachother for their believes, and my mother says to me I NEVER LOVED AN ARAB MORE THAN WHAT I LOVE MY GRANDCHILD LOL and they are happy khalid is coming to USA and they are happy knowing our son will be now more involved in Islam... Is not GAY, or Lesbian or Chatolic or Muslim who define us as humans is the kiNdness inside and what your neighbor has done for your husband is priceless, and I been to New York in the past and I have to say people were great with me there and I met some great people.. Good luck and keep on shareing your stories i love to hear more of you guys and your transition.

[NY_BX 397]

I srongly agree with you, you look at the helping hand and nothing ealse. I was not born muslim all my family is chatolic but guess what? they love my husband and he loves them back and respect eachother for their believes, and my mother says to me I NEVER LOVED AN ARAB MORE THAN WHAT I LOVE MY GRANDCHILD LOL and they are happy khalid is coming to USA and they are happy knowing our son will be now more involved in Islam... Is not GAY, or Lesbian or Chatolic or Muslim who define us as humans is the kiNdness inside and what your neighbor has done for your husband is priceless, and I been to New York in the past and I have to say people were great with me there and I met some great people.. Good luck and keep on shareing your stories i love to hear more of you guys and your transition.

AMEN! Thank you!

[Sameh'sHabibi 3]

I know when my husband first got to the US, he had some adjustments to go through. He is naturally adventurous and curious, though, so it was more of an "Oooh! What's this? How does this work?" kind of reaction. He looooves to eat (even though I am still not sure where my skinny Egyptian man PUTS all that food) so lots of our "adventures" have centered around trying different types of food and places to eat. He hates Chinese & Mexican, loves pizza, thinks Wendy's french fries are God's gift to good little boys, and thinks whoever invented the all-you-can-eat buffet (especially Golden Corral) needs some kind of ticker-tape parade. But I am glad he's willing to embrace "new food choices" because his mom tried so hard to teach me to cook while I was in Cairo, but the only lesson that stuck was Koshari! He doesn't approve of some of our "cultural norms", but he is not critical of others... he just chooses not to participate in activities that go against his beliefs. I can't help but tease him sometimes though. The other day we were out and there were a bunch of teenagers hanging on each other, kissing, etc like teenagers sometimes do in public. I rubbed my growing belly and asked him how he was going to deal with things here if our baby is a girl.... he turned sheet white and told me if it's a girl we're going back to Egypt! I told him it was ok, no need to panic..... noone was going to ask her out when she's 2...... lol....

[NY_BX 397]

I know when my husband first got to the US, he had some adjustments to go through. He is naturally adventurous and curious, though, so it was more of an "Oooh! What's this? How does this work?" kind of reaction. He looooves to eat (even though I am still not sure where my skinny Egyptian man PUTS all that food) so lots of our "adventures" have centered around trying different types of food and places to eat. He hates Chinese & Mexican, loves pizza, thinks Wendy's french fries are God's gift to good little boys, and thinks whoever invented the all-you-can-eat buffet (especially Golden Corral) needs some kind of ticker-tape parade. But I am glad he's willing to embrace "new food choices" because his mom tried so hard to teach me to cook while I was in Cairo, but the only lesson that stuck was Koshari! He doesn't approve of some of our "cultural norms", but he is not critical of others... he just chooses not to participate in activities that go against his beliefs. I can't help but tease him sometimes though. The other day we were out and there were a bunch of teenagers hanging on each other, kissing, etc like teenagers sometimes do in public. I rubbed my growing belly and asked him how he was going to deal with things here if our baby is a girl.... he turned sheet white and told me if it's a girl we're going back to Egypt! I told him it was ok, no need to panic..... noone was going to ask her out when she's 2...... lol....

LOVE THIS!!!! He sounds like my husband, except for he does engage in activities he would traditionally/ originally would have objected. Well, as long as they're legal. About the food, it must be noted, he is the chef... out of survival. Yes, I am so bad I burn water; like, it literally catches on fire. My mom taught him how to cook beans, plantains, rice, chicken, and everything Latin. Yes, everyone losing weight and I'm growing like a Macy's Day Parade float. He makes pizza too! Loves fries- I hate them. And if there's something he wants to cook, he call his mom and she tells him how to do it.