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[Moomin 292]

Children can be maipulative brats or overly protective regardless of age. Refusing your presense at a funeral is the first option.

It's not only about what your rights are, it's about what your step-daughter's lack of rights are.

If your husband desires to move to your home country, explore the options and take is as a compliment. Have they been this way from the beginning, and were you aware of it before arriving in the US? I'd listen to children and their wishes but when it comes to not even trying to be happy on behalf of their father, you both deserve to be treated better. I mean, they are adults. Give them a piece of the cake(the house if selling it), or offer them to simply buy it.

[LSnBigBear 61]

Thank you so much for the response yes that is what we are doing now to move back in my country to have a peace in our marriage i and hubby is doing good together it is just the people that surrounds us made us so stress opinion here opinion there,thats why we have this issues because husband is selling the house here and his adult children doesnt want to sell the house here..yes i got my SSN and GC here,i came here as a spouse visa.i really felt bad they want me to feel like i am the cause of the family arguments specially about selling the house even before i arrived here husbands wants to sell the house and live in my country, how i wish i knew this before that he has this type of family i would never came here.but now i will never let them win i will stand stood for my husband no matter what. seems like we are a prisoners or no rights to be happy just wants us to listen to all their opinions and for us we are not allowed to say anything because they are the right one we are wrong....

Well it sounds like you and your hubby are rock solid which is great news to hear. Don't allow his family or your family to come between you. My family will accept my situation or I will continue to live 1200 miles away from them forever (I may anyways as I like S Florida lol). It also sounds more like his kids are more worried about his assets and them not getting as big a share if he has a house to sell etc. I don't think it is age and racism now that I re read along with other posts. I think it is jealousy over his assets. Oh well sounds like you are going back to paradise anyways. Missouri or Philippines. hmmmm I am picking Philippines and living without AC there before I live in Missouri ROFLOL.. And I love St. Louis area ... Good luck again.. You will be fine!

Edited August 19, 2012 by LSnBigBear

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Children can be maipulative brats or overly protective regardless of age. Refusing your presense at a funeral is the first option.

It's not only about what your rights are, it's about what your step-daughter's lack of rights are.

If your husband desires to move to your home country, explore the options and take is as a compliment. Have they been this way from the beginning, and were you aware of it before arriving in the US? I'd listen to children and their wishes but when it comes to not even trying to be happy on behalf of their father, you both deserve to be treated better. I mean, they are adults. Give them a piece of the cake(the house if selling it), or offer them to simply buy it.

Well,at the beginning seems like we are good together with his daughter n son even though we just talked in skype but still i felt happy,but it suddenly changed when my hubbys son borrowed money,of course i have no idea whats going on at that tme i was in my home country i just knew it hubby had an arguemnt to his children because my hubby wants to collect the money he lend to his son.his son refused to pay the amount then he started to used me not to pay the money he borrowed from my hubby.unfortunately it goes on and on and on.sometimes i blamed also my hubby if he didnt lend the money maybe for now the situation is fine.it started with the $.

One thing also i felt like they want to use me for their dad so that they can get money from my hubby,anyway they dont want to buy the house they want a free house his daughter told him infront of me" dad i thought you want to give the house to me"lol.actually as i understand we can leave the house here and their dad can go whereever he wants as long as they got the house,they offered to rent the house but hubby knew it in a long run they will pay for rental of the house.

The situation is worst now even hubby;s friends wants to be part of our drama in life here,hubby's daughter were driving to their places one by one just to tell all of them that hubby is not on his right mind of selling the house and i manipulate their dad.then talking againts my country,accusing a lot of words.

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Well it sounds like you and your hubby are rock solid which is great news to hear. Don't allow his family or your family to come between you. My family will accept my situation or I will continue to live 1200 miles away from them forever (I may anyways as I like S Florida lol). It also sounds more like his kids are more worried about his assets and them not getting as big a share if he has a house to sell etc. I don't think it is age and racism now that I re read along with other posts. I think it is jealousy over his assets. Oh well sounds like you are going back to paradise anyways. Missouri or Philippines. hmmmm I am picking Philippines and living without AC there before I live in Missouri ROFLOL.. And I love St. Louis area ... Good luck again.. You will be fine!

Right,even it is very hot in there it is still good to live there we do have peace of mind and nobody bother and not accused of many things like a criminal.your right its all about the $.the daughter told him what is their securities if they dad will sell the house,its funny for me.it sounds like a little girl..

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We are somewhat in a similar situation... my husband is way older than me... one of his sons, son's wife and kids lives with us... but i must say they have been very kind but i can still feel the stress of the situation... they know that my husband is the boss of the house so they do not say anything... I think that they think that Philippines is so backward and we are privileged that we are here... If only they knew that I consider the setting we live now as provincial (even though we live an hour outside Philly)... I have been living in Makati for several years before coming here so there is a big difference... I comfort myself in knowing that I know more than they do, I have seen the world more than they do... and understand diversity more than they do... even if they think I am stupid... as long as you have confident in yourself and your place... and you have your husband at your side... that is all that matters... although I am hoping that we can go back to the Philippines, with our situation right now... it is very unlikely... Goodluck to you!!!

True,they think they are the only one knows everything in this world.well for me they never showed kindness i was accused here like a criminal.you know what if this is only in our own country,you know what i mean.

you plan of going back to our country?best of luck to us.

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Hello again to all VJ members,

Thanks for all your adviced here,anyway we finally moved to different states,but still my hubby,s daughter is keep on bitching some of the furnitures my hubby got from the house we sold.she came to help the night we packed at the house i just met her at that time i cant stand too long with her she's a ###### a living amplifier.lol.a bossy type,do this,do that,get this,get that,i want this,want that,no wonder why she cant stay at work too long she keeps on jumping different work.she always complained,complained,seems like she hates the world,no wonder she has no close friends even her own cousins she always gave comments to them i dont like them becoz blah,blah,shes a hell of a ######,lol.funny bcoz even her son inlaw doesnt like,she always mind other's business,everybody.i knew it now no wonder she is always upset and depressed without no reason.

[adiiann 163]

We're living here in Missouri and move to new neighborhood, don't have problem with our neighbors. They are nice and helpful. You can't blame the people in the place you're living. It's more on your husband's family. Just know your rights as wife and speak out when you need to. Let them prove your innocence.

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We're living here in Missouri and move to new neighborhood, don't have problem with our neighbors. They are nice and helpful. You can't blame the people in the place you're living. It's more on your husband's family. Just know your rights as wife and speak out when you need to. Let them prove your innocence.

Well,im happy now we moved in a foriegn friendly state,and far from his adult kids.but still they bother us by phone.we are far from the stressed and pressure from his adult children.yeah,but those are the type of children that their minds are closed they won,t listen or anything.they are always correct in everything,for me its a waste of time to talk to them,i dont want to talk im a quite person i dont want any confrontations,for me i find his kids acting like uneducated,lowlife,amplifier mouth,i cant stay with her blah,blah.its hard to prove my innocence to the people that already closed their minds.in short i was judged and sentenced by their minds without any trials,lol.