planning for divorce underr conditional GC

[Kevzil 2]

This is not my case but I wanna help somebody. Somebody I know came here for K1, they have been married for a year and 2 months now. The USC seemed nice but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. He is mentally sick becuase of depression and past marriage and now he is taking it on here. He insults her and belittling her. Would say mean words for over a year now but keeps on saying, " I didn't mean it!" but he still keeps on doing the same thing. Even called her parents lazy #### and bunch of losers. My friend tried to forgive him again and again and she has been crying. She is now deciding to get a divorce but she doesn't know what to do and what's gonna happen to her. Anyone please help her. She is a very good person and is emotionally and mentally exhausted right now. She is not happy!!!After her divorce will be finalized she would move to other state just to forget the pain of her marriage and start a new life but am thinking it's gonna be hard for her. .They signed a pre-nup so am thinking divorce would be faster huh?

Any input will be highly appreciated.

[JohnR! 5,495]

This is not my case but I wanna help somebody. Somebody I know came here for K1, they have been married for a year and 2 months now. The USC seemed nice but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. He is mentally sick becuase of depression and past marriage and now he is taking it on here. He insults her and belittling her. Would say mean words for over a year now but keeps on saying, " I didn't mean it!" but he still keeps on doing the same thing. Even called her parents lazy #### and bunch of losers. My friend tried to forgive him again and again and she has been crying. She is now deciding to get a divorce but she doesn't know what to do and what's gonna happen to her. Anyone please help her. She is a very good person and is emotionally and mentally exhausted right now. She is not happy!!!After her divorce will be finalized she would move to other state just to forget the pain of her marriage and start a new life but am thinking it's gonna be hard for her. .They signed a pre-nup so am thinking divorce would be faster huh?

Any input will be highly appreciated.

She needs to report the abuse first and foremost and then file for a divorce, or just pack and go home. She doesn't need to allow anyone to hurt her in this country.

[Kevzil 2]

she had those recorded but he forced her to erase those. she doesn't wanna go back to Philippines yet.. She has her workmates to help her thou. thanks you

[Pitaya 2,577]

She needs to consider protecting herself. Perhaps there are a women's crisis center/hotline in her city/area that she can contact for shelter and/or advice?

[Cesar & Cata 35]

This is not my case but I wanna help somebody. Somebody I know came here for K1, they have been married for a year and 2 months now. The USC seemed nice but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. He is mentally sick becuase of depression and past marriage and now he is taking it on here. He insults her and belittling her. Would say mean words for over a year now but keeps on saying, " I didn't mean it!" but he still keeps on doing the same thing. Even called her parents lazy #### and bunch of losers. My friend tried to forgive him again and again and she has been crying. She is now deciding to get a divorce but she doesn't know what to do and what's gonna happen to her. Anyone please help her. She is a very good person and is emotionally and mentally exhausted right now. She is not happy!!!After her divorce will be finalized she would move to other state just to forget the pain of her marriage and start a new life but am thinking it's gonna be hard for her. .They signed a pre-nup so am thinking divorce would be faster huh?

Any input will be highly appreciated.

I'm sorry to hear about your friends marriage, if she is really tired of her husbands behavior and the love that once existed is no longer there, the first thought should be divorce. Immigration status should not be a reason to stay with someone who is making your life hell. Once the divorce is finalized she will have to apply for removal of conditions and will need to proove that the marriage was genuine and just didn't work out.

Best Wishes.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

This is not my case but I wanna help somebody. Somebody I know came here for K1, they have been married for a year and 2 months now. The USC seemed nice but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. He is mentally sick becuase of depression and past marriage and now he is taking it on here. He insults her and belittling her. Would say mean words for over a year now but keeps on saying, " I didn't mean it!" but he still keeps on doing the same thing. Even called her parents lazy #### and bunch of losers. My friend tried to forgive him again and again and she has been crying. She is now deciding to get a divorce but she doesn't know what to do and what's gonna happen to her. Anyone please help her. She is a very good person and is emotionally and mentally exhausted right now. She is not happy!!!After her divorce will be finalized she would move to other state just to forget the pain of her marriage and start a new life but am thinking it's gonna be hard for her. .They signed a pre-nup so am thinking divorce would be faster huh?

Any input will be highly appreciated.

The first thing that came to my mind is that you need to mind your bizwhacks and stop meddling.

If she's really abused once call to the PD will sort it all out, and they will give her all the info that she needs.

Good luck to all concerned.

[Mogambi 96]

Just curious, at the end of the 2 year conditional GC, how would that affect her chances of removing the contingencies. Could she risk being deported at that point?

[JohnR! 5,495]

she had those recorded but he forced her to erase those. she doesn't wanna go back to Philippines yet.. She has her workmates to help her thou. thanks you

In that case there is little you can do. It's her life and she is the one who has to put a stop to the abuse. Until she is ready to stand her ground noobs will be able to help her, I am afraid.

The only thing you can do is remind her she needs not allow anyone to abuse her.

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

**** Moving from K1 to Effects of Major changes ****

[Xanax 349]

Your friend needs to report the abuse and file VAWA or simply file for divorce and remove conditions from her green card on her own based on the fact the marriage was in good faith and it just didn't work out. Those are her 2 options for staying here.

If she wants to go home she can return to the Phillipines any time.

Just curious, at the end of the 2 year conditional GC, how would that affect her chances of removing the contingencies. Could she risk being deported at that point?

If divorced she can remove conditions on her own.

Edited August 9, 2012 by Xanax