Divorce before ROC

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Hi,

This is more a personal question related to ROC than a question having to do with procedures or documents.

I appreciate any comments on my situation. I got my 2 yr green card in Feb. I submitted my documents in November, a bit before finding out that my husband chats with and has an emotional connection with someone from his past. That hurt me a lot when I found out, and during all these months I have read more than ever before (and I like to read). I have tried to understand why, and convince myself that he married me (by the way, the other person is married). They have passionate and sexual conversations, and she lives in another state. When I confronted him, he said it was nothing and that I should stop reading that, but he accepted having feelings for her. That tormented me for some months and didn't let me work on having a normal family and life. I have done more thinking also than ever before in my life. I think he's doing this because he never had a stable family (he has a son from his previous marriage that lives with him because the mom is not very stable), or because he was alone for many years, and recently I came to the conclusion that it's because he has emotional voids that he has to fill feeling desired and loved by many women. I sometimes think that if I can fill those wholes things will go the right way. That's because I found recently that he's talking to another woman, so the first woman is not that important to my eyes anymore. My friends say that it's a matter of time, that he will stop doing that once he feels loved and safe with me, others think he will never change and a couple think I'm crazy for still being with him. I really would like that to change because although his chat don't make me supper happy, that is the only thing I would change in my relationship, I can deal with the rest, and then I wonder if any marriage is perfect as to want to have one. All he does is chat so far but to me in an appropiate way (I'm not judging if what he does is right or wrong, it just doesn't work for me). I am upset about the lying and again, the lying is bad but I like all the rest. I'm very confused, I have been for 8 months. So, I have been patient, I think that anyway I have to wait for my 10 yr gc, since I brought my kids with me and I sold my house, my furniture and everything and after a year living here, I have a job, my kids are in school, etc. At least I would like to wait until I get my gc and hopefully things will turn positive in that regards. And give my kids and myself the opportunity to live here or go back, but make it worth it. I lvoe him very much and would like things to be as I think they should. I let him free all the time but of course I don't like him talking to other women that way. Now, recently he has been a bit agressive, I know he is very upset because I found out, but I said why did you think we would live together and I would not want to know certain things? I started suspecting when time passed and there was this space between both of us, which still exists. Like we haven't clicked, although he says he loves me and the kids. I think he is terrified of losing control if he opens to me, he is full of secrets that I have been finding out. I would love a guy's point of view, I sometimes wonder if I am making it bigger than it really is...or if this will never change and I should start thinking of getting divorced... Thanks