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[tany1157 161]

It has been almost 3 months since my husband arrived, and wow, have we been through a lot! About 10 days after his arrival, my father almost passed away, and even though he survived, he is not the same person he was before (physically and mentally) I was so thankful to have the support from my husband during such a horrible time for my family. He has bonded so well with everyone, and we are so grateful for that.

It has been 2 months since receiving his GC, and STILL no work. He has had a few interviews, and has 2 more next week, so we are keeping our fingers crossed. We have had an interesting time getting ourselves situated into daily married life, and things are on the right track. With Ramadan here, he has taught me so much Moroccan cooking, and I have become a pro almost over night! He is a tad homesick during this time, but we are making our own traditions, and he seems to be quite happy spending his Ramadan with my son and I.

My son and him have totally hit it off. I am thanking God for that. We are currently staying with my parents, but are trying to get on our own, since living with my mom has made for some friction with my husband, as she doesn't understand how hard finding a job is right now, and doesn't understand exactly why he needs to fast all day. The language barrier is hard too, as she has misunderstood a few things he has said, and has taken it like English is his first language

Besides that though, our little family is doing well. We are looking forward to having our own home, and having a family. The adjusting hasn't been perfect, but I have to say I'm pretty surprised at how well he is taking the change. He always had pretty realistic views of change, and is open to anything new. The one big shock to him was how expensive everything is. Everything. NOW he understands why even though it seems like I make "good" money compared to over there, it is nothing in relation to the cost of living here. I am so thankful he finally sees that, as he never completely "got" it just by me telling him (which was totally frustrating at times). He has been quite helpful around the house, and have taught him how to mow the lawn. Teaching him how to drive has been quite a task. I think it would be easier if my car wasn't a stick

So nothing exciting, I just know that some people have been wanting to hear from me, and I felt bad I didn't have the time to come here...I've even cut way back on my FB time, as things have been so busy for us. Even after the long haul we had in getting him here, it really is nothing compared to the real life events we have dealt with (we had some other personal scares with health and such during his short time here). In the end, lying next to him in bed with his arm around me, or going grocery shopping together, or having him in my car is something we dreamed about for over 3 years, and now it's a reality. It is so easy to take something that small for granted, unless you know how hard you fought just to have those times together.

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Awesome sharing GF and good luck with his job search.

I am so happy for your family

P.S. I lived a little vicariously through your post....wishing to be at this point too

[Crossed_fingers 128]

I'm so happy for you, and glad to hear the report! I have stalked your happy photos on Facebook, and even though I understand you've been busy I still expect more! I hope your dad recovers.

[Peace.... 281]

Soooo happy to hear from you. I was hoping soon, you would come back and share your new life with us. Mohammed has been working since April and he seems to be a happy camper. Ramadan is a bit harder with very little hours to sleep before work this year. I tried to fast but I failed horribly a few days, but he was sincerely happy that I even tried. We miss you around here, plz keep in touch and say hello when you can.

[bombyjuly 13]

Good for u Tammy God bless your family

[sandinista! 1,816]

Who's Tammy?

Tany, I'm happy to hear life is good. I'm so sorry about your dad though. It's very hard seeing something like that happen to a loved one.

[tany1157 161]

I did fast for 3 days straight to see what it was like. He didn't expect me to do it, but said he was so proud I tried. How have your spouses dealt with highly physical jobs in a very hot place?? I work in a kitchen with no AC, and it gets about 110 F in there, which is why I couldn't keep on. I'm always running back and forth and lifting. I was worried about passing out at work with no water. My husband says God always sees how hard people try, but don't let yourself pass out. Im not hardcore about it, but wondering for those that are. Thanks for the smiles!

[Peace.... 281]

I did fast for 3 days straight to see what it was like. He didn't expect me to do it, but said he was so proud I tried. How have your spouses dealt with highly physical jobs in a very hot place?? I work in a kitchen with no AC, and it gets about 110 F in there, which is why I couldn't keep on. I'm always running back and forth and lifting. I was worried about passing out at work with no water. My husband says God always sees how hard people try, but don't let yourself pass out. Im not hardcore about it, but wondering for those that are. Thanks for the smiles!

I think the sleep deprivation is finally getting to Mohammed but he wont admit it. This week alone, he had a car accident and caused significant damage but he is okay, he thought he was off work last Thursday, look at his work schedule that night and realized he was suppose to work. Then Sunday, he thought he was off work again, slept all day, looked at his schedule again and clearly he was not off work again. His boss was okay with what happen and is letting him make up the hours which to me makes him very lucky. He has lost almost 10 pounds now since the start of Ramadan and it shows. He eats really well when he is allowed to eat, but work keeps him busy and he is always moving, so the calories he eat, he just works them off I guess. I am a bit worried about him though, but he reassures me every thing is okay.

I totally understand the whole bakery thing with no air conditioning. I use to decorate wedding cakes, etc. and we didn't have good air conditioning as well to keep up with all the ovens going on inside. Between baking bread, cakes, cookies and all the pastries it was just a HOT place to work. Eventually, I became co owner and decided to install better air conditioning and things got so much better and more enjoyable for the workers and the people who came to eat our lovely treats. I miss those days....

[tany1157 161]

I think the sleep deprivation is finally getting to Mohammed but he wont admit it. This week alone, he had a car accident and caused significant damage but he is okay, he thought he was off work last Thursday, look at his work schedule that night and realized he was suppose to work. Then Sunday, he thought he was off work again, slept all day, looked at his schedule again and clearly he was not off work again. His boss was okay with what happen and is letting him make up the hours which to me makes him very lucky. He has lost almost 10 pounds now since the start of Ramadan and it shows. He eats really well when he is allowed to eat, but work keeps him busy and he is always moving, so the calories he eat, he just works them off I guess. I am a bit worried about him though, but he reassures me every thing is okay.

I totally understand the whole bakery thing with no air conditioning. I use to decorate wedding cakes, etc. and we didn't have good air conditioning as well to keep up with all the ovens going on inside. Between baking bread, cakes, cookies and all the pastries it was just a HOT place to work. Eventually, I became co owner and decided to install better air conditioning and things got so much better and more enjoyable for the workers and the people who came to eat our lovely treats. I miss those days....

Ohh that is so scary (about the accident) I hope everything works out fine. I WISH they would put an AC in the bakery, it's pretty nasty coming home to work with your clothes soaked from the sweat We were just realizing it has only been 3 months since he got here, but feels like a year!! So many things come up in life, but we just keep dealing with them as they come, that's all you can do I guess. Hoping to hear some good news from either of his interviews tomorrow!

[Peace.... 281]

Ohh that is so scary (about the accident) I hope everything works out fine. I WISH they would put an AC in the bakery, it's pretty nasty coming home to work with your clothes soaked from the sweat We were just realizing it has only been 3 months since he got here, but feels like a year!! So many things come up in life, but we just keep dealing with them as they come, that's all you can do I guess. Hoping to hear some good news from either of his interviews tomorrow!

Yes job hunting can be tough for sure. I think what we found to be the hardest part was sending out job applications and having to put under work history only one job as he went to college full time for 6 years to receive his Masters and then took a teaching job with a private school. I knew not having any prior work history was going to be a issue with him finding jobs here, even just entry level positions are hard with no work experience in the same field. I guess he sent out about 10 applications and one interview came out of that and they emphasized how important experience is, so needless to say he was not hired. On his next interview, he had massive amounts of computer background knowledge and knows most of the software we use here and that was a plus for his position he was hired for. He got his first promotion after having much of a hard time recently with a co worker and things have been going great for him since the other employee was written up and moved to another location. I hope your husband finds employment soon and we both wish you much happiness. I am just so happy your back chit chatting with us LOL., your a breath of fresh air.

[mounir412 101]

I am so happy for your family

and sorry for your father i have lost my father too last april the 25th due to brain cancer

good luck in your life

[sandinista! 1,816]

I'm sorry to hear that Mounir

[mounir412 101]

I'm sorry to hear that Mounir

To God we belong - to Him is our return

[tany1157 161]

I'm sorry about your father Mounir It really stinks to watch your parents get sick, it's a daily struggle for him, and there's nothing anyone can say to make him better. Interviews went well, but now have to wait for them to review....the hard part for him is the references. He worked for a man in Morocco, but who the heck is gonna call a man in Morocco who doesn't speak english? Thank God the manager at the restaurant he interviewed at says he knows many Moroccans, and knows they are very smart workers. It looks promising, and it will be good for now.

[RFQ 110]

I have not known you through your journey but reviewing your profile and timeline I can see that you have fought a long, hard, and good fight for your relationship. I wish you two all the best.